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I would have to say Heather as well. She has been in this for the long haul and I agree with a very positive spirit!
I always find it funny whenever I hear about people thinking that people with dreads are dirty. I just started mine 35 days ago and I have washed my hair more with dreads than I did without. Reason: my hair is thick and naturally curly and the only way I could brush through it was when I would shampoo and condition it with loads of conditioner. I used to hate it because it hurt so bad getting out the knots that I would procrastinate washing it for almost 2 weeks (which of course made it worse , but now I actually look forward to washing because there is no more pain involved and I have to keep myself from over washing now. People are funny with what goes on in their heads.
Same here Frank. I was always fighting with my hair and didn't like the puffiness of it. I like the way I feel now with my baby dreads. I feel comfortable now. I am looking forward to mature dreadlocks someday : ) We can keep each other posted on our journeys. Have a good night! Peace to you too : )
Welcome Frank! Your mature dreads are going to look great because your hair is so thick. I did the TnR too on my very spiral curly hair about 28 days ago and my baby dreads are in spirals too. I will follow your dread journey and look at your pics to see how they transform. : )
Hi Nina! Welcome! I COMPLETELY understand where you are coming from. I want to share a poem I wrote about that exact subject. You are more than welcome to use it when you need to. I was feeling and going through the same thing at the time. Good luck on your dread journey too, feel free to ask me any questions, even though I started my dreads with loose TnRs. Here is the poem, I dedicate it to you as well <3
"As a Mother I am everything"
As a Mother I am capable. When others see me asincompetent, my kids see me as the "go to person".
As a Mother I am whole. When others take from me, my kids fill me back up.
As a Mother I have no regrets. When other situations can't be fixed, my kids know, to them, I've done my best.
As a Mother I am encouraging. While others have called me negative, my kids shine in their supported endeavors.
As a Mother I am confident. Others may see my insecurities, my kids know my strength to endure.
As a Mother I am beautiful. When the mirror shows me wrinkles, my kids reflect back all that shines in me.
As a Mother I am a comedian. As the people in the subway stand with sour faces, my kids & I laugh at the goofiest jokes.
As a Mother I am hopeful. While days can be filled endless disappointments, my kids remind me that there is a future.
As a Mother I am sane. When others mark me as crazy, my kids appreciate my zest for their happiness.(no matter who goes down ; )
As a Mother I am happy. Even after someone takes the wind from my sail, my kids will give it back to me tenfold.
As a Mother I am calm. While the world might see me as flustered, my kids will always come to me in an emergency.
As a Mother I am smart. When others mock my choice of words or grammar, my kids will care more about the love, in what was said.
As a Mother I am peaceful. Others will call me an aggressive warrior, my kids will feel secure knowing who has their back.
As a Mother I am successful. When the world judges me according to what I do, my kids are happy that they were my career.
As a Mother I am everything.....and I have everything I need.
by: Kathleen Davis-Huckno 10/19/2010
Sara, I just came to therealization a few days ago too that my hair IS going to shrink. When I first decided to dread it I was completely naive thinking that it was just going to magically turn into dreads without knotting and it would stay close to the same length it was. For some reason, my mind had me believing that. Which would be difficult since knotting is how it works. ; )I am beyond the freaking out stage and into the oh well, I want dreads no matter what and if it shrinks short then so be it. If you want dreads for the rest of your life, it doesn't matter if it shrinks because you have a lifetime for it to grow after it matures. That's what I have come to realize. Plus, if you look at the peoples hair that had alot of shrinkage, they also have a head full of awesome thick wild dreads too, that will be very strong. Believe me, I still hope inside that they don't shrink to my ears, but even if I had a crystal ball that could tell me they would shrink to my ears, I would still let them keep dreading. I guess it comes down to how bad you want them. We are all in it together though and that should help.