No Loops, No Kinks...Thinking About Giving Up
I believe this is what it means to live in your true nature. You act as you feel (without intending harm to yourself or others) and you love every moment and every thing no matter what the outcome. Consistent logical can be reserved for automatons.
What Ive learned from this site (and especially SE) is as sure as we age, is as sure as hair will loc (eventually). Some show signs of aging slower than others (people and locs) and I guess thats a matter of genetics and experience (karmic action/reaction). Who cares about getting locs? Its easier when you dont care about it or focus on it but its hard to remember that. I guess at the end of the day (or year in this case), they show up when youre not looking for them.
Lex has many valid points. Words to live by even. I find myself reminded why Im on the natural path: I dont need locs. I feel its silly for me to even believe I need them in the first place (I thought I really wanted them before I found this site).
I dont know what the future holds (I may section or twist them if I feel so inclined) but I do know that I dont care whether I get locs (although Im told they will happen fairly easily based on my genetics now that Ive put down the comb). I also know that its best to forget about what makes us upset and focus on what makes us happy (like talking to great people on dreadlocks site). Lex said:
I gave up on my natural process after a year of nothing and back-combed (half of my hair) gently. It worked wonders for me and I don't regret it a bit. Think about what you really want and what would make you feel the best. Going patience feels great when you get there, but at the same time how much anxiety and frustration is waiting causing you?
This process is about you! It should not be painful and disheartening. Think about it. Do what you want, and love your choices for what they are and learn from them. Learn and love your mistakes even more. If you can do these things you have nothing to lose by being purely yourself, even if you make compulsive decisions and doubt them afterwards.
It's been my experience that my mistakes and impulses have given me more character then anything I was really logical about.
If that's the case then what do any of us have to lose by doing whatever comes to mind?
not trying to play devils advocate, but I just feel like this has so much to do with you that you should not feel poorly about changing your mind at all. You can always change it back, and may be better for the experimenting,