Forum Activity for @heather

thanks, daNi. i'm really trying to hold on here but there are definitely days when i'm done with the whole thing. i really do have the worst hair for this. lately i've just been stuffing my hair into hats. i don't even want to look at it. i added a bunch of beads last week in hopes of encouraging knotting. now i'm thinking that maybe just taking them out and letting my hair do what ever it wants and not separating for a very long time might be the best thing.

i've thought about bangs and i do have hair in front that isn't dreading or sticking together at all but it isnt much so it wouldn't be much of a bang. i don't have much hair in the front and sides compared to the back. i think if i did bangs it would just be one more thing to mess with and i really don't want the trouble.

i've heard of no poo but i love to wash my hair and i would seriously miss it. i'm trying to reduce the frequency of my washings down to twice a week instead of three in hopes of more knotting in between washes.

thanks so much for the support. i don't get much of it at home and its nice to know that there's an online community of wonderful people willing to offer people some words of encouragement. {{hugs}}

thanks, z. i'll try that.

I love how much positivity & encouragement there is in this thread! We're all sending you our dreading energy, Heather!

Wow I think they're looking great! by the description you gave I figured you had made much less progress. You might wanna try washing a little less frequently and the wool hat and a sea salt spray.

we're all here for you. The snoods look really cute. I'm glad you found those and that you like how they look on you. As long as you have something to "hide" your dreads when you need to, just let them be. I'm proof that there is light at the end of the tunnel. So stay strong.

awwww. you guys are all so sweet. i feel the love i'm going to hang in there. i should've known it was going to be an uphill battle from the start. i had taken really good care of my hair for years and i never had to brush it because it would hardly knot even without using conditioner. i don't even own a brush! lol.

Amber - i tried the bs wash again last night. i used really hot water this time to dissolve it better and i added 2 drops of tea tree oil and 1 Tbs. of sea salt to the mix. my hair is definitely drier feeling today. so maybe i'll stick to this for a while and see if it helps things knot up. i'll alternate with my shampoo once in a while just to keep my scalp from freaking out.

Shanxon - thanks! i guess i did the whining for the both of us i feel a bit lonely sometimes in this journey because my family and others don't really understand it all. it's nice to know i can come here and get support and critique when i need it. i don't get why people think that all dreadies are dirty? but then again there's a homeless man that i see by the local grocery store and he has somewhat dreads but not the kind anyone on here would want. its almost like all his hair is matted to one side of his head and the layers of dirt and grime are holding it all together. ewwww :P

Magicmeganmama - thanks, mama! i know you've been there because i remember encouraging you i guess i just need to sit back and enjoy the journey no matter how frustrating it may be. i really do look awful in hats. lol i just don't have the face for them. i do however like the new snoods i've been making with a pattern i bought on etsy. ( http://www.etsy.com/listing/68133816/basic-renaissance-snood-croche... ). they're crocheted with thread which is a bit time consuming but i like how they fit me. i get a lot of compliments on them so that makes me feel good even though you wouldn't know all the craziness going on underneath. your so sweet to off up a headband from your shop. i actually have a couple of crocheted headbands that i made for myself. i look "okay" in them. lol i usually wear them around the house especially when i'm cooking and such so we don't get an extra surprise of hair in our meals. please don't pull anything from your etsy shop. if your like me, we all could use whatever money we can get from our etsy sales. i really do appreciate the offer though and your headbands are really beautiful.

Dolly - your just a ray of sunshine in all your posts thank you for your kind words and support. (((H*U*G*S)))

thanks, thundersquall the shampoo is great. i had a hard time finding it but it was worth it. i actually went to a target that was listed on the kiss my face website and they were clearancing the whole line. i would check your target and see if you can get some for a good price. unfortunately they only had the conditioner left so i had to buy it somewhere else.

i've tried t&r before on some sections but they fall out completely. not enough grip to my hair to keep it from unraveling. i'm just going to sit on my hands and let nature take its course and hope for a good outcome.

Thundersquall said:

Im glad the kissmyface worked out for ya heather, i had a feeling it would its good stuff! And if your progress is a concern consider doing TnR maybe on the rest of your hair? Heather said:

thanks i wash every other day or two. i just got the kiss my face whenever shampoo and its great. i used to have an oily scalp but since i don't wash everyday now my scalp is pretty normal. you might want to try desert essence tea tree lemon shampoo. it's made for oily scalp and hair. its great but a little too drying on my scalp right now. i'm going to try it again in the summer when it's not as dry out. makes your hair squeaky clean.

funny, my hair seems to be knotting/separating better on top. the under part is silky smooth. i'm preparing for a really weird mullet in the future.

Kristina P said:

Oh I'm sorry. I feel like that too, sometimes.
When i need to go someplace special, i put it up in an up-do/claw.

You could get a pretty clip even and pull it back.

I'm only at 2 months and know it's gonna get worse before it gets better.

What's your washing schedule? I have been washing every other day with Kiss My Face and using sea salt in a spray bottle and spraying it on the days i don't wash. [i work out every day and my scalp and hair get really greasy, even sleeping makes it greasy]

I also, prettyvigorouslytowel dry the underneath hair when i wash.

Underneath is where my hair isn't knotting, i could still run a combthroughit, its so smooth.

funny thing, i leave my hair down when i go out and it has a few bunches of tangles and looks very uncombed, but no one says anything. i just wonder what they are thinking.. lol

Hang in there!!

Kristina

Hey Heather, I agree with everyone on here, keep your head up and they are looking fine. I wanted to respond to this quote specifically because I too have really thin/fine hair and I was worried as well about thin, scrawny dreads and also gaps and such when mine started to shrink. I have to say after 4 years, friends today come to me and say they wish they could dread but they don't have thick hair and have fine, thin hair not even realizing I did too! So, don't worry about scrawny dreads because I'm pretty sure you will get the fullness you never had! Anyways, much love and good luck. You're at a very rough stage but once you overcome it (and you will), you'll be soo glad you did.

Heather said:

i know. it just hard when i pics like yours or knottysleeves and think i'm never going to have that. i definitely don't have as much hair as you do so i just wonder how it will all work out in the end. i don't want pitiful, scrawny dreads. i was hoping that the dreadlock will give me the fullness i never had.

Dolly said:

I just saw your pictures now, and I have to say that your hair is doing it!! Those loops and such are a great sign! Trust that the journey will be so well worth it!