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tatyananashi
@tatyananashi
11/19/10 10:51:15PM
145 posts

Nightmare about losing my dreads


Life Issues Facing Dreads

Yeah. One of the reasons I'm trying to finish school is because I want to have my degree instead of just my experience, which can really give me extra points when I do try to get a job. My goal is to be the whole package, everything and anything an employer would want, so much that they accept the looks part of the package also. And one day, if I can achieve all the goals I have set for myself, I think that will totally be possible.If I absolutely had to, I would cut them, sobbing the whole time, but no job I can get now will be worth it, and I don't have kids, and my partner can afford what we need with what he does, he only got the second job so we wont have to take out student loans. Once I have my degree, and I've done some of the other studying I plan on (multilingual goals) I am hoping to be so valuable that the rest is overlooked. Besides, unless I was being offered millions or something like that, I don't want to be a part of a company that wouldn't take me as I am. One of the reasons I quit a really good job I had before the most recent one. I hated the environment and I couldn't be myself, and I HATE playing the game (that's what I call all this silliness all these clones do). Pay was good, benefits great, but it was too taxing to play along, and even with my best efforts I was still considered the weirdest one there! They still love me though, and miss my work. I said I'd come back when things change, but not as they are currently. Bad economy or not, I wont lower my standards anymore, I'm tired of playing the game.

Knottysleeves said:
I think it's totally normal considering your circumstances. Like you said, you're anxious about not working and making ends meet, etc... but your dreads are really coming along and are a part of you now, yet you know that not every interviewer is going to be enthusiastic or approving of them.

Hopefully you'll never have to make the choice between your dreads and a job, but when it comes down to it, I would much rather have a roof over my head and shorter hair for awhile, than awesome dreads that I love but can't wash or care for properly because I'm living on the street due to nonpayment of rent. :-)
tatyananashi
@tatyananashi
11/19/10 10:38:00PM
145 posts

rounded ends! help!


Dreadlock Styles and Dread Styling

My ends blunted themselves naturally (I only have like 3 wispy ones left) and my hair takes all day to dry, when before it didn't. They are tighter now, which makes a difference I'm sure, and they tightened and blunted around the same time so I can't compare besides with the few I have that are still wispy, which seem to dry faster but are thinner also.
I was so upset about my ends blunting I tried to comb out one of the ends after a few days, just to keep them wispy, but they were so tight that even with conditioner there was no point.

Also you are only at 2 months, you are just about to hit super loopy stage, so you need to get your mom educated on the stages because it will soon be more than just blunted ends when your hair looks like a mop. My timeline shows how fast it gets loopy, you're welcome to look, I'm only 5 months in and by not doing anything besides separating congos my dreads are fastly formed. The more you mess with them the slower they form, just a heads up.




soaringeagle said:
bout 5-6 months ago we had someone all upset
they blunted theyre ends and the dreads that used to dry in 6 hours suddenly took 38
thats how much difference it makes
tatyananashi
@tatyananashi
11/19/10 10:25:47PM
145 posts

as dreads mature and smooth out, do they get thinner or thicker?


Introduce Yourself

They get thicker with loop to shrinkage phase, but not if you palm roll them because you'll prevent the bigger loops from tangling up with other loops and bunching up. They will tighten and seem thinner eventually, but then they will slowly get thicker with time as they grow and more hair gets added.Some of mine were pretty thin when I started, but loopy phase made them really poofy and they kind of bunched up, getting shorter but thicker at the same time, and getting very tight. I don't think I have any that are really thin, none thinner than a pencil, but when I started they were super thin because of my hair type and texture. Just avoid palm rolling, it hinders development in my opinion.
updated by @tatyananashi: 07/17/15 05:22:34PM
tatyananashi
@tatyananashi
11/19/10 10:17:04PM
145 posts

rounded ends! help!


Dreadlock Styles and Dread Styling

If you cut off the ends they'll just fall out at the ends and wisp up anyway. If you really think it's necessary you can take parts of the wispy ends and thread them through a large hole needle that is not thick, use a needle threader to gather more hair if you want but the smaller the amount each time the less manufactured it will look. Just take the needle with the little tiny bit of wispy end and sew up through your dreads, since it's not tied at the end it will just unthread itself off the needle and be in the dread. It might still fall out but less than the rounding that people do with a crochet hook because you will take that needle and put it through one way, out another, in another, to kind of give it a solid base so to speak.
As SE said, wispy ends are easier for drying and most people, me included, like wispy ends, they look better in my opinion. Not everyone's hair "blunts" at the ends, but mine did, and it bummed me out because I wanted wispy ends, but they'll do what they want.
tatyananashi
@tatyananashi
11/19/10 10:10:00PM
145 posts

Nightmare about losing my dreads


Life Issues Facing Dreads

I recently ended some temporary contract work that I was doing as full employment. It took up 40 hours of my week or more and paid not great but included health insurance so I kept it for a bit. It ended the end of october but officially on Nov 1 so per their policy I have insurance until the end of November. I've never been unemployed, maybe a few weeks between jobs when I moved (4 weeks, but I was hired just didn't start yet) and that whole week or so you always have when you leave one job for another. I've been working since I was 14 years old, so I'm used to working. This recent assignment was temporary and I knew it going in, and my partner wanted me to just let it end, and not get another job but take on a few more classes each semester and focus fully on finishing my degree.We had talked about this a lot, mainly because I had worked 2 jobs a year ago while also taking classes just so I could save up a down payment for a house, which I did and we bought it earlier this year. Because of all the working I took summer off of school, which I normally don't do, and when this temporary gig came up I discussed it and took it and now I'm supposed to just not work, and next semester I'll be loading up on the classes (I am only taking 3 classes right now). He got a second job so that our bills wont pile up, and I had worked and paid our bills while he finished school (though only the last year, I didn't know him before then) so he feels like it's my turn to go to school without the stress of a job. I'm excited for it but wary, because I've never not worked before.The first week was ok, like having time off or something, the second week started to feel weird, and now, it's been 3 weeks, and I'm just feeling like finding another job or something, at least part time, whatever, small contract, SOMETHING, I am just feeling idle. It's not like I have nothing to do, there are a lot of unfinished projects from when we first moved in and keeping the house clean is a job itself, but I think I'm just anxious from the whole idea of not working.I think this caused a nightmare that I've had twice now. In it I condition and comb out my dreads and my hair is straight and just as long as it was before I dreaded (which is unlikely because if I tried to comb out now I know I'd have short hair). I also take out my piercings temporarily (not something I do anymore, now when I interview it's the whole package, hire me for my skill not my looks, though at the right price I'd hide them a bit) and I went to this job interview for this job I didn't even want. When the interview was over I was SO upset that I combed out my dreads, because I felt like it was 5 months of progress down the drain. At the end I am backcombing to re-dread.When I woke up I immediately felt my head to make sure they were there. I would have cried if they weren't. I think the dream was maybe my brain trying to ask me if I was sure I was still ok with having dreads, or because of the fear of not working, or both, but it was traumatic and the second time I had the dream I was upset because me combing out dreads or taking out piercings is just not something I would do, it was not like me and that bothered me I guess.I don't really know why I'm sharing this, but it was dread related so I figured I'd put it out there. Before this I hadn't really had dreams where my hair was something I remember, whether it was dreaded or not I can't be sure, but these were more emotional I guess so I remembered it. It's kind of silly to care so much to be so upset about losing my dreads, but I know you guys would understand, they're so much effort and so personal, I've grown attached.
updated by @tatyananashi: 01/13/15 08:50:11PM
tatyananashi
@tatyananashi
11/19/10 09:48:54PM
145 posts

Progress after shrinkage, and loose hair


General Questions

do you think that small of sections of tiny hair can dread? I have probably 15 little things like this all over...
tatyananashi
@tatyananashi
11/19/10 09:05:25PM
145 posts

Progress after shrinkage, and loose hair


General Questions

My dreads have formed very quickly, considering the very thin, fine and straight hair I have, and there's no mistaking them for just messy hair now, I get loads of complements on my dreads from passers by and less criticism from those ignorant about the natural stages dreads go through, and some of my more vocal friends have finally referred to them as dreads (though at any stage of forming I consider them dreads).Anyway, I went through a shrinking phase, and it seems almost done (though a few dreads have yet to fully tighten and shrink) and I noticed some of the extra loose hair that fell out as a result of congo ripping have been hanging around and sticking up whenever possible.When I first started my dreads I grabbed rough sections, because I didn't want straight lines or parts, I wanted it to look more organic so to speak, and that is fine, they are various shapes and sizes, however from congo ripping and due to my random method of sectioning I have little tiny sections that don't hang out with the rest of the dreads, and wouldn't really fit into a nearby dread comfortably. They are small sections, maybe a centimeter by a centimeter in no specific shape, and about 3-5 inches tapering in legnth due to their ripped origin. I'm wondering what would be the best way to deal with those? I can't really blend them into a current dread, none nearby seem suited, and they don't seem to want to integrate, and I have them all over, but the pic is mostly of on top cuz it's easier to see them there. Currently I just kinda tnr a few days ago, and they just fell out and did nothing. I want them to become little dreadies or something, but think they need time to get longer, so I was wondering if it would matter if I braided them temporarily so that they have time to get longer without being pulled into a dread only to be ripped out again during congo separation? If so how can I get them to stay braided, they're super small, and I don't have any tiny rubberbands to put them in.I don't mind the loose hairs, but they like to stick straight up away from all the dreads most the time so I'd like to do something to keep them together without them re-congoing. They're way too small for backcombing, but the way my dreads are separated I think that as I pull apart more congos they will have more buddies joining them that don't fit in surrounding dreads very well, and will get thicker.(in pic I have a few already braided, but these tiny braids come loose pretty fast)Image and video hosting by TinyPic
updated by @tatyananashi: 01/13/15 08:50:10PM
tatyananashi
@tatyananashi
11/19/10 08:32:24PM
145 posts

Twisting to combine loose hairs, keep sections organized


Dread Maintenance

I know what you mean, I don't have very loose/long roots and I wish I did. I don't know why but they were loose in the beginning, but during my shrinkage phase they got really tight and so like my front dread falls in front of my face and sticks out and looks silly, but it's only 3 inches now so I can't really put it back (I just put it under one of my other dreads, and eventually it falls forward again). I just got some headbands so that should help.I personally wish I had that 1-2 inch loose root thing going on that some people complain about, it wold give my dreads more flexibility like when they first started out, and I wouldn't get unicorn dread every time I look down. I think as they loosen or grow now that they've shrunk as much as I think they can they should eventually give me some wiggle room LOL

soaringeagle said:
1 of my best freinds dreads was started by taking a section of hair twisting it uo just like that while holding the tip then..pulling the tip out si the coil boinged out straight and stayed in the tight twist and dreaded fromj there it worked well but was done oncvce
i do agree as a style its super cute but to do it to encourage roots to dread i dont think makes sense

updated by @tatyananashi: 07/09/15 09:36:14PM
tatyananashi
@tatyananashi
11/19/10 08:26:14PM
145 posts

Dreadlock Shrinkage - my results


General Talk

Hey everyone! Thanks for the additional comments, I haven't been on in a while so I missed some of these. Thanks for the encouragement on me pulling off short hair: I personally love having short hair sometimes, but I am the heaviest I've ever been and I feel fat with short hair, but the encouragement makes me see myself a little less tubby looking LOL.I have more pics, and for others going through the shrinkage phase or pondering what results will come: I have tight roots, I don't know quite why because I only loosely backcombed and my roots started out quite loose, and I always am seeing people complain about that inch or 2 of undreaded roots and I wish I had that much! The tightness came with the shrinking. Like you, MagicMeganMama, it happened fast. Just a few days before my shrinkage occured I had looked up and commented on "when will this loopy phase end?". Don't get me wrong, I loved my loops and now miss them a lot (though I still have a few and I know those loops are deeply tightly hanging around in my dreadies) but I was curious because it was a long and ever changing phase and I thought my hair was just going from loopy to different loopy to wild loopy to other loopy. The shrinkage happend one day after washing my hair- I did nothing different than normal, it just happend to one in the front. It freaked me out at first and I tried to add oils to condition that one (my front widows peak dread) and loosen it up, but it didn't work and seemed to only assist the shrinkage (I have no clue how).Well that's my long reply, thanks for the encouraging words and I'm uploading more pics soon.
tatyananashi
@tatyananashi
11/19/10 07:58:08PM
145 posts

Twisting to combine loose hairs, keep sections organized


Dread Maintenance

It looks cute as a style LOL. It doesn't look that tight, so I don't think it'd be that damaging to roots if you just keep in mind what your hair can handle.When I sectioned my hair I just grabbed sections without regard to any line up or anything, and so I have hairs that through ripping congos have gathered their own little areas and wouldn't fit well into any surrounding dread. I think eventually they will become their own really tiny dreads when they grow long enough, for now it's loose hair. I think maybe better section planning would have worked out better for them but I guess next time... LOL
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