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Nightmare about losing my dreads

Life Issues Facing Dreads

Yeah, I know my plate will be more full when I pack on the classes next semester, which isn't that far off, but I was thinking something like learning a new instrument or a foreign language will be a good activity to add to my day. I should start now while I have more free time, I don't know how to play guitar and would love to learn but I don't have a guitar so I'll have to see if I can find a cheap accoustic one somewhere. I also have rosetta stone and some spanish lessons, I've been meaning to, but putting it off. I also have russian, which I am more interested in but will be less "beneficial" than spanish, but seems more fun for some reason. I wonder if all my hobbies are learning and all I do all day is school if I'll be put off by it... I hope not. Maybe I'll start that P90x, a friend gave me his dvds and I've been meaning to do that also.... And a thing called polyphasic sleep, I was obsessed with that for a while and I am determined to try it until it works, just have to find a schedule that works best for me. Plus I need to prove all those naysayers I met along the way that even I can do it...
I also was going to start making glass beads when I first stopped working, but the garage is my only working space and it's not setup as a workshop yet, so I'd need to do that, which will involve building quite a few shelves.

There are a lot of things I can busy myself with, now just on to the motivation to do it. Any suggestions?



rawsum said:

ok ..third try to post this .. you could take up an instrument in lieu of a job .. how about the frailing banjo .. that's my next ambition

Nightmare about losing my dreads

Life Issues Facing Dreads

I think she was just saying that if she had to cut for a job she wouldn't unless it was between that and homelessness, I totally understand that. But it would have to be that severe for me to cut, like I'm talking eviction notice. LOL

soaringeagle said:

umm where do u get that omg your not working you'll be homeless stuff she said theyre doing fine hes working a second job they have the bills covered fine her only guilt is over not working not cause she has to just cause she always has
its a change shes not used to thats all i dont think theres any chance of them losing the house at all
she just wants to know that its perfectly ok to not be working right now shes got other things to do with school and all
and she doesnt need to be working at the same time

Nightmare about losing my dreads

Life Issues Facing Dreads

Yeah. One of the reasons I'm trying to finish school is because I want to have my degree instead of just my experience, which can really give me extra points when I do try to get a job. My goal is to be the whole package, everything and anything an employer would want, so much that they accept the looks part of the package also. And one day, if I can achieve all the goals I have set for myself, I think that will totally be possible.If I absolutely had to, I would cut them, sobbing the whole time, but no job I can get now will be worth it, and I don't have kids, and my partner can afford what we need with what he does, he only got the second job so we wont have to take out student loans. Once I have my degree, and I've done some of the other studying I plan on (multilingual goals) I am hoping to be so valuable that the rest is overlooked. Besides, unless I was being offered millions or something like that, I don't want to be a part of a company that wouldn't take me as I am. One of the reasons I quit a really good job I had before the most recent one. I hated the environment and I couldn't be myself, and I HATE playing the game (that's what I call all this silliness all these clones do). Pay was good, benefits great, but it was too taxing to play along, and even with my best efforts I was still considered the weirdest one there! They still love me though, and miss my work. I said I'd come back when things change, but not as they are currently. Bad economy or not, I wont lower my standards anymore, I'm tired of playing the game.

Knottysleeves said:

I think it's totally normal considering your circumstances. Like you said, you're anxious about not working and making ends meet, etc... but your dreads are really coming along and are a part of you now, yet you know that not every interviewer is going to be enthusiastic or approving of them.

Hopefully you'll never have to make the choice between your dreads and a job, but when it comes down to it, I would much rather have a roof over my head and shorter hair for awhile, than awesome dreads that I love but can't wash or care for properly because I'm living on the street due to nonpayment of rent.

Nightmare about losing my dreads

Life Issues Facing Dreads

I recently ended some temporary contract work that I was doing as full employment. It took up 40 hours of my week or more and paid not great but included health insurance so I kept it for a bit. It ended the end of october but officially on Nov 1 so per their policy I have insurance until the end of November. I've never been unemployed, maybe a few weeks between jobs when I moved (4 weeks, but I was hired just didn't start yet) and that whole week or so you always have when you leave one job for another. I've been working since I was 14 years old, so I'm used to working. This recent assignment was temporary and I knew it going in, and my partner wanted me to just let it end, and not get another job but take on a few more classes each semester and focus fully on finishing my degree.We had talked about this a lot, mainly because I had worked 2 jobs a year ago while also taking classes just so I could save up a down payment for a house, which I did and we bought it earlier this year. Because of all the working I took summer off of school, which I normally don't do, and when this temporary gig came up I discussed it and took it and now I'm supposed to just not work, and next semester I'll be loading up on the classes (I am only taking 3 classes right now). He got a second job so that our bills wont pile up, and I had worked and paid our bills while he finished school (though only the last year, I didn't know him before then) so he feels like it's my turn to go to school without the stress of a job. I'm excited for it but wary, because I've never not worked before.The first week was ok, like having time off or something, the second week started to feel weird, and now, it's been 3 weeks, and I'm just feeling like finding another job or something, at least part time, whatever, small contract, SOMETHING, I am just feeling idle. It's not like I have nothing to do, there are a lot of unfinished projects from when we first moved in and keeping the house clean is a job itself, but I think I'm just anxious from the whole idea of not working.I think this caused a nightmare that I've had twice now. In it I condition and comb out my dreads and my hair is straight and just as long as it was before I dreaded (which is unlikely because if I tried to comb out now I know I'd have short hair). I also take out my piercings temporarily (not something I do anymore, now when I interview it's the whole package, hire me for my skill not my looks, though at the right price I'd hide them a bit) and I went to this job interview for this job I didn't even want. When the interview was over I was SO upset that I combed out my dreads, because I felt like it was 5 months of progress down the drain. At the end I am backcombing to re-dread.When I woke up I immediately felt my head to make sure they were there. I would have cried if they weren't. I think the dream was maybe my brain trying to ask me if I was sure I was still ok with having dreads, or because of the fear of not working, or both, but it was traumatic and the second time I had the dream I was upset because me combing out dreads or taking out piercings is just not something I would do, it was not like me and that bothered me I guess.I don't really know why I'm sharing this, but it was dread related so I figured I'd put it out there. Before this I hadn't really had dreams where my hair was something I remember, whether it was dreaded or not I can't be sure, but these were more emotional I guess so I remembered it. It's kind of silly to care so much to be so upset about losing my dreads, but I know you guys would understand, they're so much effort and so personal, I've grown attached.
updated by @tatyananashi: 01/13/15 08:50:11PM

Progress after shrinkage, and loose hair

General Questions

do you think that small of sections of tiny hair can dread? I have probably 15 little things like this all over...

Progress after shrinkage, and loose hair

General Questions

My dreads have formed very quickly, considering the very thin, fine and straight hair I have, and there's no mistaking them for just messy hair now, I get loads of complements on my dreads from passers by and less criticism from those ignorant about the natural stages dreads go through, and some of my more vocal friends have finally referred to them as dreads (though at any stage of forming I consider them dreads).Anyway, I went through a shrinking phase, and it seems almost done (though a few dreads have yet to fully tighten and shrink) and I noticed some of the extra loose hair that fell out as a result of congo ripping have been hanging around and sticking up whenever possible.When I first started my dreads I grabbed rough sections, because I didn't want straight lines or parts, I wanted it to look more organic so to speak, and that is fine, they are various shapes and sizes, however from congo ripping and due to my random method of sectioning I have little tiny sections that don't hang out with the rest of the dreads, and wouldn't really fit into a nearby dread comfortably. They are small sections, maybe a centimeter by a centimeter in no specific shape, and about 3-5 inches tapering in legnth due to their ripped origin. I'm wondering what would be the best way to deal with those? I can't really blend them into a current dread, none nearby seem suited, and they don't seem to want to integrate, and I have them all over, but the pic is mostly of on top cuz it's easier to see them there. Currently I just kinda tnr a few days ago, and they just fell out and did nothing. I want them to become little dreadies or something, but think they need time to get longer, so I was wondering if it would matter if I braided them temporarily so that they have time to get longer without being pulled into a dread only to be ripped out again during congo separation? If so how can I get them to stay braided, they're super small, and I don't have any tiny rubberbands to put them in.I don't mind the loose hairs, but they like to stick straight up away from all the dreads most the time so I'd like to do something to keep them together without them re-congoing. They're way too small for backcombing, but the way my dreads are separated I think that as I pull apart more congos they will have more buddies joining them that don't fit in surrounding dreads very well, and will get thicker.(in pic I have a few already braided, but these tiny braids come loose pretty fast)
updated by @tatyananashi: 01/13/15 08:50:10PM

rounded ends! help!

Dreadlock Styles and Dread Styling

Agree, everyone's hair is different in texture and drying times, when my hair was undreaded it took FOREVER to dry but when it was first dreaded it dried pretty fast, probably because I wasn't using conditioner anymore. Additionally, the difference between wispy loose and tight blunted times for drying for me are about 5 extra hours. It took about 5 hours to dry prior to tightening and maybe takes 8-10 now. I live in an arid climate, but now that it's winter it takes a bit longer, even though the air is very dry, because now it is colder. (And in my climage cold is like 40 degrees, so for you it's worse I'm sure!)
When my hair was wispy it would drip drip drip on my back too, Canon, very annoying isn't it! But now that they've naturally blunted after my initial squeeze out with a towel after a shower it still drips but much less. That's because the water gathers in the blunted ends. I will squeeze the bigger ones and also headbang outside, but where you are your dreads will become an ice sculpture if you do it outside. Headbanging and squeezing helps to get some water out but more will collect in the ends once they are blunted, just get used to washing them in the morning only and don't wrap them up when they're still wet (though that might be hard in the winter months, so just unwrap as soon as your indoors so they can air out and dry) Also, use a blow dryer, it will help and it will get you warm.


Loleia said:

Mine dry in about 5 hours. Everyone is different. 38 hours is one persons time and cant really be use as a benchmark for all.

rounded ends! help!

Dreadlock Styles and Dread Styling

My ends blunted themselves naturally (I only have like 3 wispy ones left) and my hair takes all day to dry, when before it didn't. They are tighter now, which makes a difference I'm sure, and they tightened and blunted around the same time so I can't compare besides with the few I have that are still wispy, which seem to dry faster but are thinner also.
I was so upset about my ends blunting I tried to comb out one of the ends after a few days, just to keep them wispy, but they were so tight that even with conditioner there was no point.

Also you are only at 2 months, you are just about to hit super loopy stage, so you need to get your mom educated on the stages because it will soon be more than just blunted ends when your hair looks like a mop. My timeline shows how fast it gets loopy, you're welcome to look, I'm only 5 months in and by not doing anything besides separating congos my dreads are fastly formed. The more you mess with them the slower they form, just a heads up.




soaringeagle said:

bout 5-6 months ago we had someone all upset
they blunted theyre ends and the dreads that used to dry in 6 hours suddenly took 38
thats how much difference it makes

rounded ends! help!

Dreadlock Styles and Dread Styling

If you cut off the ends they'll just fall out at the ends and wisp up anyway. If you really think it's necessary you can take parts of the wispy ends and thread them through a large hole needle that is not thick, use a needle threader to gather more hair if you want but the smaller the amount each time the less manufactured it will look. Just take the needle with the little tiny bit of wispy end and sew up through your dreads, since it's not tied at the end it will just unthread itself off the needle and be in the dread. It might still fall out but less than the rounding that people do with a crochet hook because you will take that needle and put it through one way, out another, in another, to kind of give it a solid base so to speak.
As SE said, wispy ends are easier for drying and most people, me included, like wispy ends, they look better in my opinion. Not everyone's hair "blunts" at the ends, but mine did, and it bummed me out because I wanted wispy ends, but they'll do what they want.

as dreads mature and smooth out, do they get thinner or thicker?

Introduce Yourself

They get thicker with loop to shrinkage phase, but not if you palm roll them because you'll prevent the bigger loops from tangling up with other loops and bunching up. They will tighten and seem thinner eventually, but then they will slowly get thicker with time as they grow and more hair gets added.Some of mine were pretty thin when I started, but loopy phase made them really poofy and they kind of bunched up, getting shorter but thicker at the same time, and getting very tight. I don't think I have any that are really thin, none thinner than a pencil, but when I started they were super thin because of my hair type and texture. Just avoid palm rolling, it hinders development in my opinion.
updated by @tatyananashi: 07/17/15 05:22:34PM