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Renee
@Renee
07/25/11 11:11:16PM
22 posts

New Dreads


Introduce Yourself

I did the SAME thing. The day after I backcombed and waxed, I found this site. Somehow in all my research I did not find it before. I sat in a hot shower with some natural dish soap, and I washed, rinsed, washed, rinsed, washed rinsed. Gently, of course. I retained a lot of my knots that were formed by the backcombing and they were able to start locking up pretty quickly. If you go to my profile, you can see my Day 1 picture -- that's with the wax. All the rest are without. It changed the texture in a big, and good, way. Hairs will come loose, it's unavoidable, but they will find homes.

Renee
@Renee
07/25/11 12:22:10AM
22 posts

Ah psychology...year 1


Dread Maintenance

Thanks, soaring eagle...ever the loving and supportive friend :)

soaring eagle said:

they look amazing :)

Renee
@Renee
07/25/11 12:14:46AM
22 posts

Ah psychology...year 1


Dread Maintenance

I backcombed for about 17 hours last year and found the forum the next day. My one year measure is August 6th. I will measure, thanks! I know our view can be warped when we are in the thick of it.

Renee
@Renee
07/24/11 11:31:11PM
22 posts

Ah psychology...year 1


Dread Maintenance

Since I have not posted in a while (though I do reference the forums quite a bit for support), I decided to drop a line since my one year anniversary is approaching.This has been such an interesting journey, starting with elation in the beginning, and running the gamut of emotions from fear, frustration, joy, bliss and confusion!To date, my dreads are locking up very well with a few exceptional loose hairs. The back underside is very tight, as seems to be typical. I have had virtually no growth in the back since the shrinking became extreme 4-5 months ago.I now am starting to see the curlies start in the front of my hair, and have some apprehension about just how short these will become. I am surprised to see just how much shrinkage has occurred (and I know I am not the only one!), and am weary to discover that it may continue to year two and beyond.For now, I am enjoying them, and will keep them so long as I do. I am not attached, as is an attitude I hold in all areas of my life - or at least strive to. I am also reminding myself of this spiritual journey that unfolds through the teaching of this process that is also beyond what I expected; This is the perfect outlet to explore ego, patience and releasing expectation.An interesting thing I have found is just when I am deciding I am ready to cut them all off, I get back to back compliments on their beauty and progress. I will post some updated pics on my almost 12 month progress.Much love to all!Renee
updated by @Renee: 01/13/15 09:06:51PM
Renee
@Renee
12/07/10 08:32:42PM
22 posts

Hair Shrinkage on young locks.


General Questions

I'm right at 4 months, and the back ones are only about 4 inches long. My hair was down past the bottom of my shoulder blades. The front hasn't shrunk up the same. Still love them, though looking forward to the end of shrinkage! :-)
Renee
@Renee
10/22/10 09:26:28AM
22 posts

I wanted to add to the "natural" discussion :(


Dreading Methods

Wow I actually saw someone liken the neglect method to diet and exercise, and backcombing and tnr to diet pills and gastric bypass.As a holistic nutrition counselor, and someone who started by backcombing, I can only say that this is a very poor analogy.There are two debates going on here, obvious to some, but apparently not all since this is STILL going on.1) Neglect (with separating congos, so...?) versus starter methods (chemical free), and what should we call those methods?, and2) Chemical/product free vs. wax/chemicals & manicured locs.Yet, like the massive web that forms on so many of our heads during this process, it is all jumbled up into a cluster.Unfortunately, UNLIKE separating sections, I see no indication that we are moving toward any type of rewarding solution. People are ultimately losing site of any value to the community here and leaving because of the cannibalistic tone that is, seemingly, inevitably taking place.So what's the deal? Are we unable to agree that someone can express an opinion differing from ours, to which we can put our two cents, and then say "right on, brother/sister, one love?"Do we not realize that we are part of a galaxy of over 400 billion suns, which is one of another 400 billion galaxies, and living out a human experience together within a Reality beyond anything we can comprehend? Adventure. Big picture. Perspective...Is that over the top? :-)I guess I am just as much to blame, for responding, or better yet, even reading a post that I know is going to be redundant. Apparently, I still have some growing to do, as well.
Renee
@Renee
10/19/10 11:00:51AM
22 posts

dreadlocks journey vs dreads instillation


Dreading Methods

In all things, we find layers of motivation. For example, some choose to serve the hungry out of a true desire to share, and others for the image it will portray. We can do things in life, down to our very breath, with reverence, or without, with a whole lot of gray in between. The job of gauging someone's intention seems to fall beyond a finite creature like me...
Renee
@Renee
10/19/10 10:49:09AM
22 posts

dreadlocks journey vs dreads instillation


Dreading Methods

So well said, I agree. We are, indeed, in shades of gray...the world is painted in them, and I don't attempt to pretend that I can judge the intentions based on what my limited eye can see.To presume that a preference for a look is a lack of confidence is an unstable assumption. Perhaps fully developing a look that they identify with is, to them, becoming. Why are they concerned with the way things look? How can we know that? That's like trying to judge someone's heart.

Knottysleeves said:
Exactly my point -- dreads are already an unconventional hairstyle and it takes a lot of self-acceptance & pride to have them at all, regardless of how they were started or are maintained, or why you wanted them (even if just purely for fashion).

I just don't really see SE's point of lumping people into categories, and trying to assign motivations to their personal preferences & choices. Johnny Clean did the exact same thing in his dreadlocks treaty thing, implying that anyone against the idea of dread wax must obviously be a hippy-dippy type on some cosmic spiritual magic carpet ride, and it really ticked me off. This isn't a black & white world; we're all infinite shades of grey, and I think it's more productive to focus on what unites us -- regardless of our dreading choices -- than about perceived differences. I'm not keen on maintenance or salon dreads either, but if someone makes an informed decision and wants those kinds of dreads, who am I to tell them their path is somehow "wrong" or not meaningful enough, and that they'd be happier if they'd done it differently?

As for anxiety, look at how many frustrated posts we get here from people going the natural/neglect route... and not all of them decide to keep going. :-) Just to keep some perspective.

(Sorry Chewin, I'm not ranting at you... just ranting in general!)
Renee
@Renee
10/18/10 10:01:12PM
22 posts

dreadlocks journey vs dreads instillation


Dreading Methods

It is, I imagine, a much more personal experience as you sort of develop a relationship with your budding dreads (though I don't have the "instillation" experience to compare with). I am happy that I did not pay someone. I did look into that, though, went another route, and am loving the natural progression of things.You touched an important key here...and that is that for many of us, this site opened up the possibility of that experience that so easily could have been missed based on simply not knowing! Just talking about it can have an impact. Good stuff... :-)

soaringeagle said:
renneewe thats veruy much the point
when you start you usualy have no idea how it will affect you but it will affect you anyway
you can choose the maximum gain or the minimal impact
but ..like so many once you start yoir dreads and are a few years into it you may..or probably will wish you had a more full dreading experience not just having your hair yanked fir hours , but had your dreads grow out of how you live your life

it was not meant to imply anyone who chooses a diferent way is a lesser person just that there should be more careful thought into what you hope to gain then how you hope to look and that your choicce in how you dread should be based more on that

and when i was saying instalation i meant ..professionall paid for not do it yourself
Renee
@Renee
10/18/10 08:55:04PM
22 posts

dreadlocks journey vs dreads instillation


Dreading Methods

I considered dreadlocks for at least five years before committing. Some of the things that gave me pause were that I was working for a Fortune 500 company that would not have allowed that look in my role, a less than budded confidence, and ultimately, a concern that I really did not understand what 'spiritual' meaning dreads would hold for me. I knew that many cultures included this tradition amongst their spiritual acts, but did not know much, and definitely did not know what it meant for me. So it felt wrong somehow to do it.Over the last few years, I have been on a trek towards my own personal freedom and seeking a life that was an expression of my Self in all areas rather than a dualistic existence where my personal life and professional life straddled a line. I finally reached a point where I decided that I was drawn to the look, though maybe I couldn't understand why. I felt "warm" toward it, I connected with dreads, and though I did not necessarily have a lofty understanding, that was enough. Follow your bliss, right?Very soon after I made the decision, it dawned on me that this was the spiritual aspect for me: that I was becoming through and through an expression of my self, my passion, my bliss. Each week, it seems, the experience evolves into something more complex and intimate. And I meet lots of amazing people whose locks mean different things to them, including a dear new friend who feels they are his antennas. :-)One of the beautiful things about a subculture such as this is that even those that start for very different reasons may experience an unfolding, not unrelated to the people it connects them with, of themselves that may be unexpected. We never know what the paths that move us forward will look like, though perhaps, like family, we will recognize them once we arrive.
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