Is it not meant to be for me?
Dreadlocks Journey Emotional Support
Hi Butterfly! Okay...first...please do not give up! I have looked through what everyone has said and I do agree with almost all of it. Your hair does look very healthy and slick. You have alot of hair and that body you referred to is a bit of wave. But coarse hair can be a challenge...trust me, you and I have very similar hair (mine is just curlier in spots). The first thingI suggest is this...wet your hair thoroughly and apply a paste (yes, a paste!) of BS. Try to avoid the scalp, as it can be very irritating. Leave that paste on a good half hour, then rinse thoroughly. It may take awhile to get it all rinsed well, but rinse the daylights out of it. Now, after that you may find your hair feels horrible...dry, a bit gritty even...good! That is just what you want. You have to realize that a scratchy, rough feel is going to give you some knots. That was my problem. Being a hair professional, I clung to the concept that my hair was going to remain soft and silky but somehow dread...ain't gonna happen unfortunately. If you find that your hair still feels pretty good after the paste...wait a week and do it again. Once you rough up that cuticle, you will find it can begin to progress. It took my hair a bit over 8 mos. to even have one knot! So, I do understand your frustration. Next month I will hit my 2 years...and baby, I have a full head of pretty mature dreads (just some ends sticking out here and there!). I am so glad I stuck it out! Also, for your washing...try a regular size coffee cup full of BS and no ACV, shampoo three times a week and after you are shampooed try spraying your hair with a sea salt solution...don't get it on your scalp and don't rinse it out...air dry. Keep sleeping on that wool. And best idea of all, use those beads! They will work miracles...you won't believe it! Try the wood ones, small as you can go. Contact me anytime you feel discouraged, I will bemore than happy to help. I have been there...truly. I know you want to forget it, I know you feel let down and you think that maybe it wasn't meant to be...none of that is so...I promise. Much love and Big (((HUGS))) <3