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Shedding a lot of hair

Dreads Hair and Scalp Health

I try not to touch them that much, except when I have to put it up... or if I'm separating them... well actually I guess I do kind of just touch them sometimes, but not like all the time.And ya MiDread, it sucks huh? hahaI'm coming up on two months... like 4-5 more months of this probably... ha ;pThanks for the input =] Alex Angam said:

I had a similar problem a few months ago, (I'm at about 6 months now) so I stopped touching them and then when they got a little tighter it stopped altogether.

Shedding a lot of hair

Dreads Hair and Scalp Health

that's what I'm thinking. It just bugs haha, can't wait till my dreads are so tight I don't have to worry about hair being everywhere! Paula said:

Yeah it probably is normal. Maybe your locks are just not tight enough to hold them in yet

Shedding a lot of hair

Dreads Hair and Scalp Health

I just washed my hair, and noticed a pretty thick chunk of hair hanging down below the bottom of my locs. So I pulled it out and it was kind of shocking XDI know that your hair still sheds and that it usually stays in the dread, but I find myself having to pull out strands of hair every day, ones that are jsut super long, hanging out of the ends of my locs.Is this normal?
updated by @cavewoman: 01/13/15 08:41:19PM

My Fiance Is Leaving Me...

General Talk

oh man sister rags. I remember at the beginning of this thread you said you didn't really have any words of wisdom to comfort him, but each time you come back you bring some pretty great and deep thoughts =] Sister Rags said:

Hey there Grey, I'm in a hurry but just wanted to throw in (yet another) comment.

Again, NO disrespect to anyone or to anyone's personal experiences, because they are ALL valid. I just want to say that "playing" anything (hard to get, or whatever else) is not the way to have a real, lasting relationship with anyone. Be genuine at all times, ask God for help and guidance at all times...your higher self will tell you, without exception, that you were created as an individual and there is never any reason to be anyone but who you are and to act accordingly. If you feel in love, my friend, be IN LOVE! The truth is, if the lady you love is a true person she will take your example of sincerity and be genuine, too. And maybe that won;t happen this minute, but maybe she will learn from you.

Whatever we do, we are, at all times , teaching others. And the question comes down to being pretty simple: Are we teaching truth or are we teaching lies?

My Fiance Is Leaving Me...

General Talk

I'm very sorry to hear you are in so much pain. These feelings about her.. it moved me because I have those same feelings for someone.. someone I can't be with, so I do know those feelings and empathize with you.But take what Ciaralynne said, there is hope yet.I believe things happen for a reason, and if you two are really meant to be, it will happen I wish I had something more comforting that I could say to you.We're all here for you, bluntness and all ;] GreyGargoyle said:

I sort of agree.

I just don't get why life is like it is...
I mean I try so hard...I used to try hard with girls. After my last ex I quit talking to girls. Hell, I barely even looked at em. I liked my life and I was happy but when this girl stepped into my life it was like almost like seeing an angel in it's purest form and I to this day I still feel that strongly about her and I know it was fate that I met her. It was fate or a huge coincidence and I really KNOW that it was fate. Nothing in my life has been a coincidence. I wanted dreads for a life time but I finally decided to dread when I found out the truth about them. I know that was fate. I know it was fate for me to meet her and I truly feel like she is my soul mate. I just don't get what this has to do with the relationship or my future as I know that it is me and her against the world. Today, I went into her room to wake her up and so I sat on her bed and she laid her head into my lap and she cuddled close to me and when she finally woke up I felt amazing inside...but I also felt pain that you can only comprehend when you're in my situation. I don't think that I could comprehend this pain if she got back together with me. It's that horrible for me. I just don't get why life is throwing this at me. We have so much in common and life has so much to give us as soul mates. I just NEED her in my life. She makes me whole and complete. And I know I sound pathetic. Ha...

why are you against johnny cleans methods and products

Dread Products

Well said heather. I've been trying to think of the right words to say in response to this post but everything you've been posting I pretty much agree with.It's said over and over and over and OVER again that wax and other products hinder the process, and if even after a saying it a million times over and they still don't want to take the advice, then it's just needs to be part of the process for them right? Some people need that, "oh I really fucked up, and should have listened" moment to see the light, not someone making personal attacks on them, and making them want to defend themselves and get lost in the lie even more.TO RICKY: I'm sorry all of your posts have been going ignored, and I agree with you. This thread shouldn't have been started in the first place. It seems like an attack on what one person said in an attempt to kind of make an example out of him for the rest of us. And that's not right.SE, I was very disappointed when you posted nick's picture in the same kind of attempt that I mentioned above. That was pretty low, and I kind of lost some respect.I mean I love ya man, you give great advice, and really just do want people to have long lasting, personal, healthy dreads, and that's great! But sometimes when you get too heated, I see the worst in you, and it's not pretty.We can try and help, but they have to really want the help. And if they don't want the help until it's too late and they have to cut of their locs, in all honesty, may move them more spiritually then had they just listened.I'm going to accept everyone on here for who they are, despite what lies they may believe, and try to steer them in the right direction. Whether they take it or not is up to them, but just because they don't doesn't make them a hopeless lost cause and not worth my time.Also. I'm not debating that it's not true, but I would liek to know where the 90:10 statistic came from. I've learned in various classes never to just take things like that for word. always know the source of where your information is coming from. heather said:

ok i hate wax i hate johnny clean and i hate his sleazy business however.....if everyone on here all holds the same opinion and has from the getgo then whats the point? i mean if people who for the now defend any product shouldnt be here then where should they be? i mean if not allowed to be here where the majority does hold the opinion that natural is better (which is also my opinion) then how will they ever be brought to light... seriously ? there are a lot of new dreads on here and if we dont embrace them regardless then how will you ever expect to show them the truth sure the whole thing got a lil too heated and seemed to become a personal attack but yeah there are people on here who do a hell of a lot worse crap to their hair than use loc peppa or watever the crap its called...i mean some of these people dont even have real hair at all yet we embrace them why? in an effort tho help them change their ways how is that different from this? nevermind dont answer that i dont want to cause a stir...i just want to say that my opinion is i hate wax i hate products PERIOD! i think johnny clean is a sleaze yes because of his business tactics but when it comes to joe schmucko like me or you i dont care wat u wanna do im going to tell u wat i think and you dont have to listen my job ends with planting the seed....products no products fake real hair i dont care i embrace you as a fellow human being ALL OF YOU!
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Why?

General Questions

I used to work at a dog kennel also, except we had to be in there at all times, in view of the camera. It's fun sometimes, but breaking up fights, not so much. I actually got bit twice, and you know what? the assholes I worked with pretty much were like "I told you so" both times. Well fuck me for taking some initiative, so glad I don't work there anymore...ya that doesn't really relate to what was being said, just thought I'd throw itin there XD Faelwynn said:

I've been wondering this for a while... and I'll tell you what got me wondering. I work for Petsmart's Pet's Hotel... sounds nice, but it's really just an upscale kennel. Anyhow, one of my co-workers started pushing more work onto our shift (3rd shift, most of our job is just to look in on the dogs and clean up from the previous shifts making sure that the hotel is stocked for when 1st shift comes in) because there was too much down-time for her.... I mean sure, we had an hour here, and another hour there, and while it could sometimes be really really boring, we need that slow season to recoup and prepare for the holidays (at chrismas we can house almost 300 dogs at once... imagine that level of noise for a second...). She's leaving as of today, and now those of us who are left on the shift are trying to settle back into an easier routine... it's pissing off first shift, I'll tell you that much. We were doing so much of their work thanks to her, that they had nothing to do in the morning, and were enjoying being lazy. I just don't understand why someone would want add half another shift's work to our already pretty packed work schedule just so that they were never sitting down/always had something to do (Please note that she wasn't doing it to get noticed, as she made it clear to management that her schedule wasn't open enough for a promotion, which could be a viable reason to try and pack that extra work in; to get noticed and promoted). It made me realize that I really hate workaholics. The stress that her expectations put on me and the shift is unreal. At least now we have a number of new corporate policies that make our shift really nothing but a cleanup crew (they cut us down to one person and have told us that we are forbidden to have any contact with the animals for our own safety... sucks, as I love to snuggle puppies, but makes the job a cake-walk) so we can't do any of those things that we've been expected to do previously... Still...Why the hell would someone do that? It just blows my mind. Even the tasks that we had previously she would try to break up into tiny chunks of work when really it could be done in one go... I just don't get it.

Miss Steph's Dreadful Journey (Natural)

Member Journals and Timelines

Wow they're looking awesome! so much progress

how do you think my dreads are going?

General Questions

eek, you may not mind now but I think in the long run you might regret it. imagine the build up D:ha, but I think they look good, but would look better without the rubberbands, but you took them off so yay! :DI think if you just left them and didn't even do the rest of your head it would look great. like go all natural from here on out =] it looks like it would come out really cool :D Will Gibbs said:

okay, rubber bands come out!!! thanks, and would a tiny incy wincy little bit of wax around the edges, once a week, help hold them in???i dont mind if there is a little wax shit inside the dread.....so you think they will hold?

Knottysleeves said:

They don't look any different than they did on the first day, to be honest. But 4 days is nothing in the dread journey. You've only taken the first step in a very long path.
Lots of great advice in your First Day post about the rubberbands. I'd take them out if I were you.

Being laid off never felt so good!

Life Issues Facing Dreads

I guess I don't know a method other then just slowly getting use to them over time, but I'm happy to hear that things do kind of seem to be going better, even if you did lose you job.And I know exactly how you feel. I had a job at a dog daycare and boarding home right?I loved working with the dogs, but my boss, and practically everyone but 4 people that I worked with were total assholes. It turns out that me and the one girl that was left that I really got along with, the other one quit because she got a way better paying job doing the same thing (my boss was stingy), well we both get fire right?I had never felt such a great lift off my shoulders, to never have to deal with their bitch asses again =Dso congrats! And I feel things will keep looking up =]