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embarrassed to be seen in public

Life Issues Facing Dreads

So every once and a while when my hair is looking extra crazy, my mom has to ask me why I don't do this or that. today she asked me pretty much if i ever palm rolled them, I told her"no, I don't want to, its not productive and I don't want my hair to look uniform and straight with no personality. You may be embarrassed to be seen with me out in public but it's just the way it is."the fact that she didn't repute that fact makes me come to the conclusion that I'm right. I can;t say I'[m surprised seeing as my mom is kind of materialistic, and I know she would love to be one of those orange county wives. Now I love my mother and I know that she's still going to love me, and may not see the beauty of my hair without doing a thing to it until they are fully matured.It doesn't help that every dready she's come across that she has talked to has told her that they palm rolled, continually backcombed, and used rubber bands. I haven't seen any of these dreads she's met, but all i know is, I'm not doing any of those.I just wish she would see it's not about having hair that looks awesome, although that is what first intrigued me, it's about not caring what others think about you simply based on appearance. About loving myself for me, and not how "pretty" I am. I dunno, how can i make her see the light
updated by @cavewoman: 01/13/15 08:44:52PM

Oh my gosh! this just made me so sad those poor little chicks! I was just like screaming at the computer every time I saw them doing all that careless shit to those poor little chickies. And I got all teary eyed when they started like burning the tips of their beaks off. Like you can practically see the chickens screaming as their beaks singe... Made me so angry and so sad... and what you showed isn't even the worst of it... kudos for making it in the first place though. Tyler Durden said:

Cavewoman you just described the movie I made 3-4yrs ago..lol

http://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&source=web&cd=4&ved=0C...

Cavewoman said:

definitely a story for the wax lovers.
I'm actually really interested to see what it is looking like, even though it's a shitty situation for you, a visual along with this story.. everyone should read and see before using it ya know?
I hope you can get it all out soon and start your new set, product free :D

whenever we say product free it always makes me think of animals. like cage free animals.
The chickens that are kept in cages and are exposed to longer hours of light so they produce more eggs are kind of like dreads that have used wax or other products.
You may get the eggs quicker, and they may look fine, but those poor chickens are producing eggs at an unhealthy level, and in the end, you don't get the healthiest product in the end, and the source is being over forced and weak inside.
....
those poor chickens

But the eggs from free range chickens have a lot harder (healthier) shell, and happy chickens mean healthy eggs

You get what I'm saying (hopefully, haha) but anyways, that's just what always pops in my head when I hear "product free" it's a fairly good analogy I think, haha.

definitely a story for the wax lovers.I'm actually really interested to see what it is looking like, even though it's a shitty situation for you, a visual along with this story.. everyone should read and see before using it ya know?I hope you can get it all out soon and start your new set, product free :Dwhenever we say product free it always makes me think of animals. like cage free animals.The chickens that are kept in cages and are exposed to longer hours of light so they produce more eggs are kind of like dreads that have used wax or other products.You may get the eggs quicker, and they may look fine, but those poor chickens are producing eggs at an unhealthy level, and in the end, you don't get the healthiest product in the end, and the source is being over forced and weak inside.....those poor chickens But the eggs from free range chickens have a lot harder (healthier) shell, and happy chickens mean healthy eggs You get what I'm saying (hopefully, haha) but anyways, that's just what always pops in my head when I hear "product free" it's a fairly good analogy I think, haha.

undone madness

Dread Products

ok, this exact same thing happened to me. I went a month with them totally undone. I was just going to let them do their own thing but I couldn't take it any more because the top ones were doing so great. But the good thing about just leaving that hair to go naturally is that almost all of them had natural sectioning going on.So I just re tnr'd them, but in the sections they had really wanted to be in. It hasn't quite been a month since I redid them, so there is no telling yet whether they will fall apart again, but they're looking good.So if you have the patience that I didn't, wait it out. wool, sea salt water spray, drive with the windows down, haha, but if not, wait a week or two, just washing but not messing with the hair and wait for the natural sections to show up, then do them over

Update Personal & Dread Related

General Talk

we don't talk much, and I guess we've had our disagreements, but ya, I was wondering where grey had gone, haha, and hoping he was doing ok.I'm glad to hear that everyone seems to be accepting the hair pretty easy, and that your progress is... well... progressing Hope things keep going up. Stay strong brother.

redesigned the site and need input on a couple things...

General Talk

I guess it all depends on what you're trying to do. The way it is now is nice. Goes well with the rest of the page, looks more natural and flowing with the site. The alternative definitely stands out, but also doesn't look bad.I think for most of us, we sometimes just don't notice the menu like right away anyways because we're on here a lot.If someone's coming on for the first time, I mean it's the first thing you see when the site comes up, and they're probably gunna be searching the page more then someone who knows the site.So I mean I think it looks great the way it is.And when I saw the new layout earlier, all the stone backgrounds, I reeeaaally liked it wanted to tell you haha

It just hit me today....

General Talk

oh damn se, is that an exaggeration or did that really happen? D=so sad. I know catholic schools were bad, they made 2 people I know have to turn from left handed people to right handed in not a very nice way, but pushing little kids to suicide? ... shit.To Melissa: I'm happy to hear that you finally have been able to get you locs, like you've always wanted. Are you still in the same career you didn't believe you could get into with locs? soaringeagle said:

yikes catholic schools suck! i went to 1 for 2 years too
well elementary school..but stil it sucked .. 4th graders shouldnt be hanging themselves in theyre underwear in theyre clossets wracked with guilt
but thats what i saw there alot 4th graders committing suicide because the damn school filled them with the idea of them being evil lil sinners etc

but guess thats lil off topic..
glad your dreaded now and happy


Melissa!!! said:

I went to a catholic high school and would of been suspended, then afterwards I wouldn't have been able to gain employment easily in my chosen career (so wrong I know!). I guess it just came to a point when I was 100% ready for them.

Sammy Seven said:

why didn't you start locking up when you were 17? just curious, and that's good that you love your dreads! happy 8 months!

~S7

30 Days TODAY! Natural/Neglect Dreads

Dreading Methods

They're looking awesome :DAnd I know my hair wouldn't even be close to looking this nice if I had gone all natural for a month.

Loss of my love

General Talk

Honeybee, losing a loved one is tragic, and it's understandable why you put yourself in a hazed state, but this doesn't really help does it? It never does, you still remember them, and while it may hurt less, it just hurts more once the haze wares off.I may not have know your love, but anyone who loves someone else would never want to see the person they love go through this.The others are right when they say he's not really gone. You may not be able to physically feel him right next to you, but he is. Like they said, talk to him, you never know when you might actually get a reply in some way.sending love and hugs your way girley.I also think se's suggestions are wise. You can always come here for more support and love, because you know you'll always be able to find it.Much Love hun.Peace.

Updated w/1 week progress pics!

Dreading Methods

Oh wow :D they're progressing quickly. That's why I envy people with really curly hair :}can't wait to see how they'll be looking in just a month.Lucky girl ;P
updated by @cavewoman: 07/28/15 12:33:31AM