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2 months of naturally straight dreaded hair. :P

Dread Maintenance

So, I've had my locks for about two months now..and because its so incredibly straight, and doesn't want to be anything else BUT straight, I've had to backcomb a few of them..and also used the twist and rip method. The problem that I'm having though is a few of the lcoks have been coming together nicely at the root..but another handful of them are pretty straight and unknotted at he root, but pretty knotted at the middle/ends. Should I leave them alone and keep them sectioned or should I try to backcomb the roots? (Theres no way I can twist and rip that far up there with no strands of hair to do so) I'm sure eventually with thime they'll dread themselves..but Because if my hair type I've been debating about it. Also, does it matter how long you have your dreads in before you put beads/hemp in them? Or does it matter?
updated by @jessica-arnold: 01/13/15 08:38:47PM

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Hehe, thats ok. I still appreciate it! :D marlamom said:

oops, just saw the last post u wrote. see, thats what i get for just reading the first post and then hitting reply.

marlamom said:

if he cannot accept you with dreads, then he is not worth it. this is common sense. He should love you enough to let you do what YOU want to do with your hair. I have been through this with my mom. She hates it, and she says mine dont look like the nice ones she has seen, but i keep telling her i have to work at them, they just do not just happen overnight.. but i do it anyway no matter what she thinks cause i know she loves me no matter what i look like (with my tattoos and my dreads and my piercings). And you know what, I have to honestly say, i will be 35 in 20 days and this is the most alive and at home in my body i have ever felt in my whole life. I LOVE my dreadlocks and its been an experience, when originally all i wanted was a cool hairstyle. I liked dreads because of the way they looked. but just having them has been a major experience and i actually make my mom sick because all i do is talk about them. LOL. sorry i just wrote a novel. i went into a zone. Ill get off my soapbox now.

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Haha sweet, sounds good. Iain said:

well best thing to do is line up the effects of all the methods and decide what you feel is best an most in tune with your long term goals, an if you have any questions just hit us up, lol

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Actually, I have no idea where I want to begin. I've seen so many different techniques and methods.. Iain said:

I love the above answers
how were you thinkin of starting them though?

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Thank you all so much for the advice! Now all I need to do is look up on some how-to's and ask some of my close friends if they'll help me. ^^ Do you think I should dread it all or keep bangs? So many options haha!

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Thank you so much SE, for helping me realize this. Hopefully soon I can inform you of the beginning of my dreadlock journey. soaringeagle said:

tell him its not his decision to make and your job is not to look good for him
if he values you as a person he will still love you justr as much weith dreads, and if dreads make you happy then u desserve to have dreads and dreads will only help the relationship unless he refuses to accept them

then tell him if u think i wont look good in dreads you must think i dont look good at all since dreads are the way your hairs suposed to be they only enhance natural beauty


in the end it dont matter what he thinks at all.. if he dont like em someonr better will..just remeber that..u choose to be with who u chooe to be with not cause of how they look but who they are..who u are is a person who loved dreads and wants dreads..so either your becomming the person he wants to be with..or he just wants to be with s body a face a look not a person inside..


we love u eirther way welcome to the family

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Hello everyone! My names Jessica. I am absolutely in lovee with dreadlocks and am thinking about starting my dreadlock journey in the near future. However, I am stuck with a little problem.. How can I go about convincing my boyfriend into supporting my decision? He has a good friend (who is also female) with dreadlocks and is supportive of her, but he said they wouldn't look good on me. So, any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated!
updated by @jessica-arnold: 02/14/15 07:39:06AM