you should remove the wax [if you used even once you have to remove it because it never washes out of hair with washing], then stop messing with your dreads... it will take a time, but they will repair itself alone.
it's like Ixchel said...
i have perfect hair for dreading [very curly and thick hair] and even having good hair, and doing everything alright my progress is slow... now at nearly 10 months the things are accelerating... but until last month i still had lots of sections of normal hair...
I remember that i saw a lot of timelines that in no time the hair of people was looking like dreads, and my curly thick hair was looking and feeling like normal hair for a long time [it still don't look like dreadlocks at all], but what can i do? Nothing... Only patience and time will do its job.
just be patient, the more you wait, the more proud in the end you will be.
I have updated my timeline ;D this is my last update before June 2 [1 year dreadaversary]... Well, day after day my hair is looking more like i have dreadlocks... The back of my head is dreaded, and now my dreads there are shrinking and eating some loose hair...
The sides are beginning to curl and dread... i have some dreads on the front too... I'm washing with dreadlockshampoo [liquid and bar] and i feel secure to say that everything is going good, and the progress is going fast now, i still cant believe...
sure. I can only separate with dry hair...
My dreads joined at the ends, at my sixth month of neglecting... i had trouble separating, i was not gentle and i broke lots of hair
the Barrellady said:
Hair is stronger and thicker when wet with water, so it can take more "punishment" or stress while trying to separate.
Call Tucker said:
Barrellady is right about getting it wet. Hair rips MUCH easier when it is wet. That's why most people do their separating when they are in the shower.
i don't think that sleeping at the backs could make it dread...
the back of my hair is all dreaded [it dreaded at 7 months], and the sides aren't [i sleep on the sides, and it looks like sleeping at the sides doesn't work at all]
are your hair at the back at least sectioned?
you can try sleeping with a tam and see how it affects the dreading there.
yeah Robyn... i really loved it. It makes my scalp and hair a bit dry and soft but helps it to knot faster. I had shrinkage after the first wash with the Locking Up shampoo.
Oh and i need to update my timeline...
Are you enjoying your shampoo?
i started with hair as 2-3 inches... It took me a long time to see the first knot [the first real knot i saw at the end of the sixth month, now i'm at 9.5 months], but after the first knot lots of them started popping on my head, and all of the hair on the back of my head are dreaded [shrinking like crazy, now i have some dreads that are 1 inch]... Only now some sections of the side of my hair started dreading [but most of them doesn't have any knots]...
You can start now. Maybe it will take a long time to dread, but i can assure you that in the end you will love it! Stop playing with your hair, it slows your progress, and your hands have natural oils... if you mess too much with your hair, the oils will get on your hair and this isn't good.
buy the locking up liquid shampoo from www.dreadlockshampoo.com it makes your hair and scalp a bit dry [not so much, it don't give you itches] and it really help your hair to dread.
Separate when needed [by my experience, i can tell you that starting with short hair you will have to be more aware about your sections, and shorter the hair, easier for them sticking at each other by the tips]
just be patient, gentle and love your hair and embrace your journey.
Hope my english make sense [ i'm learning by myself]