Any parents with dreads here?
When my eldest son married in October, I was 8 months into my journey, Was he embarrassed by my dread journey? No way!
updated by @the-barrellady: 02/05/15 10:12:49AM
Your last line says it all" I think dreads are beautiful & a symbol of patience in a person..."
You are a mother now, don't let your mother put thoughts into your head, you follow YOUR heart and YOUR soul and make your own decisions.
When you take your child to the playground, or later in years to school, just smile to the other parents or a nod hello. They will soon realize that you have a beautiful soul. Some of those parents will secretly wish they had dreads I bet.
Kids are mean to other kids & tease, no matter what, no reason why, they just are. They will tease about anything, it's just what they do. If your son is teased about your style of clothing, would you change the way you are, the way you express yourself and become a clone of the other mothers?
Your son will appreciate the mother he has, the gentle soul that she is, and he will learn a valuable lesson in life, and that is to be yourself and NEVER to give into peer pressure.
Yes, I am a mother to a 33 year old, 19 year old and 13 year old. I have 3 grandchildren. They have never felt embarrassed by me. Well, maybe when I farted when I shouldn't have. They love the fact that I embrace my freedom. Peace
Dreads are peaceful, dreads are for the soul, and dreads are freedom. We as a community should help each other, respect each other but never, ever insult each other. All human beings have their own opinions, that is what makes life interesting, we are each different with different thoughts. When we disagree, it should be done with respect & maturity, we are here for each other and should always play nice. Peace & Love to all!
I agree with S.E. Go back to your natural colour, then let em be. Dyes do dry out the hair , that is why they give the heavy duty conditioner with it, but for dreads you must skip that step, therefore your dreads will be dry, maybe getting brittle with prolong dying. If you are planning to keep your dreads for years, I would do it only one last time. With a regular hair style, it gets coloured/dyed, grows and then gets cut. Eventually you will have new healthy growth that you can cut to. With dreads, they grow, but we don't cut them. So the dried section are still there.
If you are not planning to keep your dreads for years but as a funky style at the moment, then I say have fun with them and add splashes of colour or wraps, whatever. Girls just want to have fun. You can get back to healthier new growth hair when you.....gulp.....cut them. Peace
I live in a town of 44 people, I know I am the only one with dreads. Don't care how crazy they think I look right now, my journey, my head, my future dreads! PEACE ON
Hi Janna, where do I start, I'll just jump around. In order to have beautiful, healthy, natural dreads, they will need to zig zag, loop, shrink etc. in order to do their dreading, as back combing and twist & rip are not dreads, just the blueprints. If you wrap them, use embroidery thread at the beginning and do it in a criss cross design, which will still allow them to dread, wrapped too tight they can't do their journey. If two dreads join together, either separate them by hand or let em join, depending on the thickness. At the scalp area, do not let the section be larger than 1 inch, otherwise they will take longer to dry and be heavier when mature.
I am at the one year mark, and yes, they are loopy & messy, but that's okay because one day I will have beautiful mature dreads. We all have different hair textures, water etc. so we dread at different speeds. This is where the patience comes in.
Fine hair knots, as does yours, so you know you can do it. You will only have one giant mess if you do not separate the sections, keeping them under 1 inch. Your hair breaks with combs & brushes, well lucky you will never need them again.
you are on a journey at this junction of your life, so be simple, let em dread naturally and sit back to reflect on things. Letting go will relieve many stress factors in life.
Please read the dreaducation pages at the top, read many blogs etc to find out the best way for YOU to dread. Peace be with you
You did the back combing, now all you need to do is wash and separate, nothing else. Do not palm roll, it really does not good, only very temporary, and can cause small breakage to the hairs from rubbing them. Don't re-twist, keep em loose however they want to go. You did the blueprint, now just sit back and let em be.
Thanks Soaring Eagle. I will do everything the same, baking soda etc, so that I will get a fair & honest result.
soaring eagle said:
hmm interesting to see how this affects things
i gues u just never know what might affect things and no matter how much you think you know about dreads theres always an unknown factor to learn about
gonna follow this 1 just to see the results