dreadlocks changing more than your hair
overcoming defining myself by my locks
I don't ever plan on cutting them off, so I can see that this will probably be an ongoing process. Once they get down to my waist, I'll probably have to start explaining myself again, and again when they get even longer, but having overcome it once already, I think I will be even stronger next time too
Good for you. Mine are 5 years old and completely mature. But once in a while I see others going through that messy phase, and I kind of miss that part of the process
I'd say after 5 year with locks, I've stopped looking at and defining myself as that guy with dreadlocks. I now just see myself as me.
I am pretty much the same person I was before locks, but When I first started I saw them as my personal open explanation of who I was and what I stood for. Now They've just become part of me. I don't take offense to any negative comments. I don't get mad or annoyed by ignorant people.
Yeah, tightening roots causes bald spots around the roots. These bald spots are from pulling out hairs by the root in order to tighten them. There should always be about an inch or so of loose hair down there, In time they will tangle themselves and mat into a lock. There's no reason to force it. If root hair didn't tangle on its own, Eagle would have 4-5 inches of locked hair and then the other 6 feet of hair would be straight. But because they mat themselves, he's got 6 feet of mature locks.
Don't worry about your roots.
We know the results. In this case, no news is bad news
Time will not repair the damage wax caused. You need to gt it out. Normal washing wont do it. You need to get hot water and dawn dish soap. The water should be as hot as you can stand it. Fill a pot or bowl with the water and add a ton of the soap. Dip each lock in the water for a few minutes each and rub them and work the wax out. Hot water helps bring the wax back to a melting point and will make it easier to work it's way out.
Unfortunately, just doing this once will not get all the wax out. You will need to do it over and over again for weeks at the least and months at the longest. It's really hard to tell if all of it is out. So even if you think it is, do it for a while longer to make sure. It will loosen up your locks a lot, but it's worth it to get all the product out.
There are good explanations under the dreaducation tab up top.
As for crocheting. DON'T DO IT! All a crochet does is breaks up your hair into smaller pieces of hair. it weakens each lock up to 30%. Not to mention that you will end up have so many loose frizzy hairs that it will drive you nuts. And then you'll just try to control them more with more crocheting. In the end you won't have long strands of hair tangled into a lock, you'll have a bunch of tiny broken hairs that you can only hope and pray don't break off in the middle of a dreadlock.
I don't know about the lemon juice. Never heard of anyone using it. if you want an acid to counter the baking soda, Apple cider vinegar is the best, though any vinegar will work.
You'll always have some hair that is not in a lock. Mine are 5 years old, and I still have some loose hair. If you want, you could get a bead and put it over a lock and tuck the loose hairs in with it. That'll help push the loose hairs to tangle with a lock. if you leave them alone, however, they will knot up on their own, or just get sucked into one that is already formed.
The Sea salt spray is good, but don't leave it on long. I'd say spray it on about an hour before you wash them. And only before. Don't do itin betweenwashes. Salt will irritate your scalp and cause more dryness than you want. Plus it itches like crazy.
It's totally normal. My hair is a dark brown, but as it locked up, they turned a lighter shade over time.
And by the way, I love that one in the first pic a little to the right. It looks like a tuning fork. That's the music geek in me