hola, new here :)
love them. I like locks with tons of loops and bumps. Keep it up
I started with 23 and combined a bunch to form 12. now I've got a few babies forming on top of my head, so in the end I'll have 15.
Anywhere under 20, and hey start to get really fat and a little harder to care for. 15 is the max I want, but washing and drying is harder. You have to be extra sure all of the soap is out. Last time I washed a few hours into drying I felt some left over residue and had to jump back into the shower and rerinse them.
drying time's grow exponentially as they get thicker too. I have to squeeze out all of the water from each lock while still in the shower, and then squeeze more out with a towel, then use a blow drier to make sure before I let them air dry the rest of the way. It can take 10 minutes before I am ready to let them air dry. But I have always wanted super fat locks, so its worth it for me.
But not everyone wants fatties. I;d say between 28-38 is pretty normal
there is a post somewhere on this site about how to make your own tam with no crocheting. I tried to find it, but the one that popped up wasn't it. If you search, there should be a picture of a nice colourful one somewhere. The first one the pops up is plain and grey. But if you keep looking, it is there somewhere, All it involves is sewing. If you've got a machine, it;ll be easier, but I bet you could do it by hand
Very eloquently put. I feel the exact same. This is just a more detailed way to say it than I did
Haha...this is a BIG question, forgive my big answer...;~}
I've always prided myself on not needing anyone's permission to be myself. At the same time, I always felt this strange sense that my flat/straight hair said something frustratingly inaccurate about me, and it was the sense of this blatant miscommunication that sometimes stunted my sense of self-expression.
As far as the ways I've changed along the dreading process, I actually don't really feel like I have "dreads" at all. I just feel like me. Before I dreaded my hair, I felt off, but from the moment I began the dreading process 6+ months ago I felt like I was taking off some false stricture I'd had encasing me my entire life. What feels even more liberating, at this point, is that I'm just mostly letting them do their own radically wild thing despite the fact that some unexpected/close people have issues with that. It even feels empowering to be able to hear their criticisms and consciously recognize that they have a different relationship to beauty than I do.
There is no one form of beauty. A smooth, cylindrically formed, rope like dread is just as beautiful to me as a wild loopy frizzy clump of hair. It's good to be reminded that bigotry hides in unlikely places and open acceptance is available for exploration as soon as we're ready. I feel like I can give people something when I do not let their criticisms degrade the way I feel about my hair. It suggests an alternative perspective is possible---a confidence based beyond the dictates of a commercial imperative that demands commercially procured uniformity (even in "hippie" guise).
But on a broader level, beyond my sense of self-image, dreading has come at the same time as a number of other wonderfully liberating changes, so it's hard to say if one is the result of another. I think they're interconnected. Maybe I wouldn't have come to certain conclusions (such as dreading my hair) until I was ready to come to others (such as manifesting my personal life vision, beyond the mores of society). In other words, I find myself much in the same space as yourself. It is wonderfully exciting, no??
Thanks for asking such a thought provoking question. It would be kickass to to hear more about the ways these experiences are developing for you. Happy journeys friend!!
let them hang free. Loose is always better than anything. If you need them out of your face, tie them back. But that will slow down the process. There's a girl on Etsy who makes tams and such. She made me a knit visor that is really comfy in the summer. But you shouldn't feel like you have to cover them year round
If it's absolutely necessary, you can get a razor and take a small slice, then try to rip it the rest of the way. if it still doesn't rip, take another small slice, and try to rip it.
But that is in extreme cases. Have you tried using any oils to loosen up your hair and then ripping it? Aloe Vera would be good for this too. I'd try either one of these before the blade
Do you separate? That's the key to going natural. If you just don't touch them at all, they will congo together to form one giant matted lock. It sounds like that's what you're doing. Grab hold of 2 that are connected and lightly tug them in opposite directions until they rip apart. It can be uncomfortable. Most will recommend doing it right after you wash them when they are still wet. That seems to be the easiest and least painful time for most people here. If you just washed and you don't want to wait a few days till you do again, you can always just do it when their dry. but keep it up. After every 2-3 washes normally. After each wash if you hair knots up really quickly.
Don't brush them out. This is what they are supposed to do. Mine are 5 years old, and the roots still tangle together once in a while. Not as often as when they are young, but still sometimes