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I don't know about the writing letters. I never tried it. But Knots is right. You should be the one to tell her. If she finds out on her own, she'll be angry and assume that you were deliberately hiding them from her. Parents don't appreciate when you hide things from them. She might not like locks, but if she notices them without you telling her, she'll be mad from the start. You want to try to get into the conversation as gently as possible. Bake her cookies or something. lol. you know. Just find a way to ease the tension.
Knots, I hear you loud and clear. I do tons of things my mom doesn't approve of. I don't see her often at all, so I can get away with a lot without telling her, but she does get very upset easily. She's a typical jewish mother. She harps on every little thing I do or don't do. I talk to her maybe twice a week, and that's not enough. With her there's never enough honesty. It kind of bugs me. I don't mind telling her about what's going on. I've put her through enough. When I was a teen, I dyed my hair all the time, had 2 mohawks, wore all black, black nail polish and eye liner, and had tons of ear and facialpiercings. She dissaproved, but after talking to her and being open, she calmed down and realized that I was just trying to express myself.
Jasper, hopefully your mom will agree with Knots that she does love you more than anyone, and just wants to see you be happy. She doesn't have to agree with you. Tell her that. But all she has to do is accept you for who you are. No parents want their kid to be like every other kid. What's the fun in that. Every parent wants their child to be special.