Starting my dread journey!
This site has an excellent selection of oils. Most Whole Foods, should have a good election too. Trader Joe's has a few, but not many. Other natural foods/health stores may have some to look through.
For washing, Dr. Bronners is good, but doesn't rinse out well in hard water. And being from Jersey (Not sure what part, though), you might have some hard water issues. BS/ACV is always good, but again, doesn't rinse out or dissolve well in hard water. Bucks County Soap has a great selection of soaps in liquid and bar form. They are designed to mix and rinse out in any type of water. They're definitely worth looking at.
If you want to grow your hair a bit faster, Biotin supplements are good. It's a natural supplement that helps your hair grow faster and thicker. Talk to Heather for more info on it.