My hair doesn't dread!
What you've missed is patience. Listen, wash when you feel you need to. Shouldn't be less than once a week though. Wash with a dread shampoo. Go to dreadlockshampoo.com and order some there. And leave your hair alone. Just don't worry about it. Try neglect method for at least 6-8 months and if you do not see progress at all, which is rare, then do twist and rip to help you. But natural method is best. Just let it go really. Separate when you need to. Don't worry about having dreads, worry about the journey, learn about yourself along the way, let your hair be your antennas to a higher power. Let the roots grow, treat them delicately and patiently. Look in the mirror no longer. My advice to you...Peace.