Forum Activity for @jesse-rose

Thankyou very much for the love and suport herre and the advice....I need to take heed, yes. Which reminds me, I he some paperwork I was needing to fill out. I'm in the midst of getting my life put back together, when he left I kind of got abandoned, but I'm tying to regroup right now. Which reminds me, he also had told me (after we got married) I would never every be allowed to go to another Rainbow gathering ever again....what an @sshole!!! I missed the last regional and national gathering.....:(  I would never be happy being married to someone like that!!! I think he lied when he told me he went to a gathering once.....all a lie.  Well, TIME TO TURN THE PAGE AND START A NEW CHAPTER!!!!!

Hi all: I havn't been around in awhile, alot has happned....mostly from me just being stupid... A year ago I got married to someone I barely even knew, what on earth was I thinking?

We've been separated since August (he got busted and hauled off to another state)... but this is the least of my worries...he has a serious drinking/raging problem..he would go on 3 day drinking binges...but that was the least of that problem...he was terribly controlling, angry, name calling, and some other things..but he has been demanding I just let hiim come back..I am like NO, you have to prove yourself..(he says he has changed, I see no evidence of it) in fact, he has been meaner and nastier to me ne now, from 2000 miles away than in real life. The nicest he has ever been to me was the day I visited him in jail. A totally different person that I had not seen before.

Anyway...I also discovered he has been chasing women around, going home with women he has picked up, and trying to get back with some exes and all kinds of things like this and I'm hurting from all of that, too.

Well, so I explained to him I am finally working on my dreadlocks...on Sunday, he informed me that he hates me and yesterday, he texted me saying that he doesn't want me anymore. (we are married)...why? because of dreadlocks.  I also discovered he is pretty racist, (something I abhor) and from 2000 miles away has been trying to tell me what I can and cannot put on my facebook page, (while his life is out of control from alchoholism and anger issues)........just yesterday, again, I got called the n word among some other things.

Anyway....I just needed to vent and whine for awhile...I think the Universe has destined for me to be alone, for now, anyway....he didn't even remember my birthday or valentines day, or our anniversary, he's been too busy, I suppose. I just don't feel like I'm very loved, well, now I'm not, he told me he hates me.

All because of dreadlocks.

thoughts?

<3

If I do vote, I will write in my candidate. In my opinion, the powers that be will put in there whomever they want to us little people have no say in it.

~peace~

Thankyou Mons...im glad I asked this question here....i found out the right way to dread my hair...this is awesome...luvin you and all who responded to my post here THANKYOU!!!

Mons said:

Don't let what one person says stop you. If you want dreads, then let them grow. I would think that the fake dreads would do more damage to your hair than letting real dreads form on their own. Your hair seems to be the same texture as mine. You could stop combing/brushing today and there's a chance no one would even know for a while. Of your hair could start sectioning right away and knot up real quick. Check out the dreaducation page and the dread methods page. Ultimately it's your hair and your decision and you'll do what you want. Just let us try to help you make it the healthiest and happiest

Thankyou soaring eagle =o) you are the expert here.... luv'in you.

soaring eagle said:

no real dreadhead waxes

your hair will dread just fine

go to a gathering without a comb yiu will leave r=there with dreads

or just stop combing'it will dread'[yiu will have real dreads whilt=e the waxty freinds the 1 with fake dreads u wont be caught dead with]

Thankyou Ahil.....peace.

Ahil Ganesan said:

Dont worry about what your plastic dread mate has to say, your hair will dread just fine if you let it do it's own thing, give it time. Good luck

thankyou valerie, its good to know that. i might just take the fake dreads ive made so far and turn them into a ponytail holder...i can barter with it at gatherings perhaps. ty so very much.

Valrie said:

From what I hear, fine hair dreads just great. In fact, because the shed hair has nowhere to go, it will eventually thicken up.

I have personal experience with dreadlock extensions as well as installing them on people of various hair types. If you do put in dread extensions you will have head and neck pain as well as hair breakage. Fine hair breaks pretty easily also your head and neck (and in some cases, your back) will hurt because it's not used to carrying so much extra weight all of a sudden. I'm not trying to scare you off of extensions however, I wanted to warn you of what to expect. This will be very different from having your own dreads because the extra hair weight will be gradual.

Regardless of what you choose, time to tune out that negative nancy who is poo-pooing you every step of the way. Do what makes you feel good and happy and just don't hang out with them :P

my hair looked like your hair does now..when it was shorter. ty for sharing.

Autumn said:

I have fine, naturally blonde hair and I am 17 days into my natural no-interference dreads. I estimate that it is going to be a two year commitment until I really start seeing what most people would consider as dreads. However, I am willing to do this because I have thought about dreads for a long time and I have researched them, and I know that this is the best way for me. I have photos on my page if you want to check them out. I have 100% faith that with patience and NO COMBS my hair will dread. It has already started to knot up in the bottom of the back. Why not just give time and patience a chance?

ohhhh ok, thankyou.... =o) this will work out good for me, then...thankyou all for sharing and caring....

Jessica Reyes said:

apparently the finer and straighter the hair, the faster it dreads...it's stringy ya know? so it's gonna knot real quick with the right washing and keeping them healthy

im gonna want to delete this after i get my replies cuz its a bit negative. thankyou.