Thanks, guys.
SE, I'll definitely try out the liquid and the pink sea salt!
Daniel, thanks for the kind words 
Just gotta make it clear, it's not all about feeling rejected by gay men or whatever, it's just frustrating sometimes because it's a form of rebellion / independence and there are always people that think it's gross. I dunno, I just gotta stay firm and be myself
Hey, guys.
So I've had my dreads since August 2011, and while they're making their way, I'm just getting impatient. I did it neglect method and I use a solid shampoo bar from Dreadlockshampoo.com.
I dunno, I almost wish I had backcombed, but I know that for me it's about the journey and really /about/ that patience, but sometimes it's frustrating. Sometimes I feel like just brushing them out and donating to a charity. The typical ideals of love don't help, either, because men with long hair/dreads are perceived as dirty and not the ideal beauty, and then with hypermasculinity in the gay community, it almost feels worse (gay here).
I dunno. Some feedback would be nice, I guess I just need a pick-me-up. I just want to be reminded that I am beautiful no matter what I look like and I will find love and I don't have to be anything I don't want to be.
Here's some pics, sorry about quality. Probably not the best for feedback, 'cause lighting is poor.
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Hey, family!
So, my dreads are coming up on 20 months (have to get someone to take pictures of 'em soon. It's been a slow process, but everything's pretty much dreaded except the front sides, and even those are really starting to now... that and loose hairs, but that's no concern).
I typically use dread shampoos from dreadlocksshampoo.com (LOVE Dragon's Blood, have used Tea Tree, and Peppermint in the past as well... just bought some Goddess and Nag Champa, excited to see how those turn out) but my mom just bought me some Tea Tree Triple Action (by Gionni) today and it says it's organic but I'm not sure if it's anti-residue or not. I used it because I don't think it's some huge deal to use it one time, but I'm just curious if anyone knows if it actually is anti-residue or not?
Thanks so much and many blessings!
Steve Wind
I love love LOVE your dreads! So amazing how they're turning out. I only hope mine are as awesome one day. Love the feathers, too, I've been collecting feathers whenever I find them when I'm walking places and have quite a few. Waiting til my dreads are more mature before figuring out a way to attach them to my hair.
This is awesome! From what I can see, they look so healthy and like they're on the right track!
I'm almost at 11 months and, while my hair was a lot shorter than yours seems to be, mine isn't that mature yet.
I think the longer your hair is, the easier it is to dread, but like I've heard plenty of times - everyone's hair is different and it's your own journey. It took me a long time to learn patience (and I still don't have a lot, when it comes to dreads I do, though) and I wasn't living spiritually and my dreads suffered for months because of it. Once I started to turn my life around, that's when they started forming
TheMayor1787
I love these dreads, they inspire me. I want the same length one day
Torie Shea! I love how light and free these dreads look. Like a lion. <3
And Heather. I remember when I first joined this site and started to let my hair dread, I would read about Heather's troubles & frustrations. But her hair looks so beautiful now. I'm almost at 11 months and my hair isn't mature yet, but it's in the teenager phases and I'm perfectly content, because Heather has shown me that it's worth the wait.
Also, on my first day on this site, I found this guy, Jack Roth. I love his locks so much. I hope I don't sound like a mega-creep, but I have this picture saved in my phone, because it reminds me that that's how I want to look one day. I love the length, the width of his locks, everything. He is probably my biggest inspiration (except I don't think he went totally natural?)
Maybe one day, people will call my dreads beautiful! haha
Hey, guys. My name's Steven Wind and my dreads are about 10 months along now.
When I first started my dreadlocks, I was really anxious and freaked out about every little thing. For some reason, after reading hundreds of posts on this site, I thought that -I- would be different and my dreads would come along after like two weeks or two months, even.
For a long time, it felt like there was no progress happening whatsoever.
I started them on August 14, and by September, I started taking pills. I've had a drug problem in the past, with heroin and various other substances, and this was not a good idea at all.
After a few months of taking pills every day, I went back to heroin.
I had a few knots in my hair, but nothing substantial at all.
As my addiction progressed, I became suicidal and absolutely miserable - I saw nothing good out of life except getting high. On Easter weekend, while my parents were inJamaica on vacation, I took a train to San Francisco in an attempt to die.I've always wanted to live there, and I wanted to see it before I overdosed and took my own life.
I met a guy named Sean and I didn't realize that he was tripping on LSD until about midnight that night, but he took me around and helped me to find a place to score some dope. It didn't happen because the area was filled with cops at night, but the next day I found some. I got a motel room and just continued to use and use and use. And I just thought to myself, 'Is this it? Is this how the rest of my life is going to be?Am I going to take my life because of my dependance on a drug?'
I had had my phone turned off the whole 3-day train ride there and the two days that I was there. But I needed help. I asked God to help me, and soon after that, I turned my phone on. My mom's text message was at the top of the many messages concerned people had sent me. She said she was in San Francisco, to please meet her.
I called her and we met up. She took me home the next morning and I went to a treatment center. I now have a little over a month sober.
Now that I've gone back to my spiritual roots, my dreads have really blossomed. My sections are pretty clearly defined (though I do have to rip some bigger chunks apart every so often) and I really do have some teenage-dreads on my head. In fact, all of my hair is full of teenage-dreads.
It's interesting that once I changed my life and am now trying my best to love myself and have a relationship with my higher power, my dreads start to really take form.
I'm glad to be sober, alive, and a dreadhead.
Keep livin', folks!
Bless you! I can't wait till mine get all loopy, zig-zaggy and crazy like yours!!
