Ignoring the naysayers
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I generally ignore peoples opinions... I already believe different things, think differenty, plan on raising my kids differently... but on the appearance side, dreads are one of the more drastic and non-conforming things Ive ever done. Surprisingly, my family has said almost nothing (positive or negative) about the change. Most of my friends haven't said a word... mostly in the beginning it was just things like,"wow! what made you go with dreads?". I don't really care that people don't ask me about them, I didn't go dreaddy for other people. I did it for me... so I can't figure out why this bugs me so:Last weekend I had a friend over and befor he left, he made the comment that the dreads looked like they were coming unravled (normal for newer dreads, nothing substantial) and asked when I was going to comb them out. I gave a half-hearted "I don't know..." and moved on. Probably upset at myself for not defending the look and a bit ashamed of how they look in their current state.I know dreads are a process; I'm in this for the long haul... but its odd not having any other dreadies around me to encourage the process. The only positive feedback I got was from a guy who doesn't even like me (or maybe he does now? its a really odd relationship there), so I couldn't even tell if the complement was genuine or not.How do you guys ignore the negativity? I know my story isn't nearly as bad as some of the persecution experienced out there, but I know this isn't the last time I will have to face this sort of thing.Blessings,flightless
updated by @flightless: 06/10/16 02:04:39PM
