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Here is one gem that I have thus far learned...

I did twist and rip. They have all fallen out, and their real journey begins. The last one fell out at the four.5 month mark. Actually it didn't so much fall apart, as divide itself into three sections. I look back and I think that quite possibly my hair would be further along if I just did natural...because it took all that time before the real dreadlocking really began. The only sections that dreaded up quickly were the underside sections.

The tnr method is great if you want some control over where you want your sections. for the most part. Then again, your sections can still reject where you put them!

At this point you should just throw away your hairbrush!

Just Starting Out & What To Expect

Dread Maintenance

Wonderful stuff Barrellady! Thanks for taking the time to post this helpful gem! I might add that it works pretty well to invest in towels that are a little more expensive. I have towels that I have been using for awhile ( I would imagine that most of the lint has been washed away in the laundry), and I don't seem to have a problem with lint. Much love! Olivia

Ignoring the naysayers

Dreadlocks Journey Emotional Support

My own dad said "you look like a dog's butt". Which I know is not true. Some people just grasp at whatever words come into their heads...even if it makes them sound childish. I guess it's human nature. Not everyone is going to understand. But hopefully most people will remember the standard saying: "If you don't have anything nice to say...."

Six year old dreads thinning, please help

Help! Save My Dreads

Korey, thank goodness you found this site...please don't give up on it (or your beautiful dreads of course)! I can see where you might be concerned with how your new recovery growth will join your other locks, but you must stop the root rubbing and maintenence for them to get healthy again. This you know at this point

They will likely look very different from what you want them to look, but maybe it will be a fun adventure while you are waiting for the growth to catch up. Learn to embrace it...as it is only temporary until you are back to health!

Why did I open my Big Mouth?

Dreadlocks Journey Emotional Support

Well...I know that it's important to some of us to want to please our parents...to make them proud of us, and happy with our choices.

When I started to become interested in dreadlocks, I never thought about actually having them for myself...in part because of what my mom would think. My parents didn't really have open minds about stuff like that However, they would usually accept my choices and still love me.

My mom passed away last June 20... the decision I made about getting dreadlocks has partly helped me to understand my own loss. Much like needing time and patience for dreadlocks to form...I need time and patience for healing as well. My journey now without my mom goes on with God's help mostly, but I also know that she is smiling because she loves me.

My apologies if this is a rambling response to your situation. Your mom will still love you for who you are. She will accept your new hairstyle, and she will still think of you as her beautiful daughter. However if you feel that it will indeed cause a rift, you may need to give a small part of yourself over and wait for your journey to begin sometime down the road.

with joy!

Nerves and Questions about starting Natural Dreads

Dreading Methods

You just might be surprised about the job thing! i'm guessing you'd be fine. I had the same concerns as you. My advice would be to not tell them ahead of time that you are doing it. That alone might make it into something "bigger" than it needs to be. I didn't tell my boss...and I have had no issues. Not to say that all bosses are the same

One thing I do have to say for your hair type...is to really understand the amount of time that goes into the '"sectioning" phase. Not meaning that you are physically sectioning...although you will be doing some of that. But remember to allow your hair to come into sections on its own. I would have never guessed this portion of the journey is so important...Here I am 3 months in, and am just starting to understand myself that the sections take time, but it's so crucial for the dread process to even begin. Also, I have fine hair that tangles easily, but that's different (I guess) for contributing to the phase I am in now. Oh last thing! Don't be afraid for when you have to rip a section in half! It's kind of satisfying. Taking back a little control. Since sometimes they like to fuse together overnight it seems.

Happy dreading!

Howdy from Tennessee

Introduce Yourself

Greetings! First and foremost, So sorry to hear about your Grandmother's passing last November. It's amazing how those moments of loss can be pivotal for our new walk without our loved ones in our lives.

My mom passed away June 20, 2012, and I really felt a tug to finally take the plunge into dreadhood as well. I have been wanting them for years, just never really thought I could pull them off. November 20 is also my dreadlock start date! Happy 3 month to you!

Each day is a new gift!

Olivia

About a foot of loose ends

Dread Maintenance

Every time I bum out about my 3 month old loose ends ( some are 10 inches long), I have to stop myself. I think about the fact that now is the time to enjoy those loose ends, for that interesting soft texture they add...for the individuality they offer for a short time in the dreadies' world. They won;t be that way for long, so might as well find the beauty in them while you can!

help with dreadlock accelerators?

General Questions

also, I meant to add that I really don't like buying stuff if I don't need to. I am super cheap. I wondered if anyone had any positive and noticable experience with the pink sea salt spray from dreadlockshampoo.com.

thanks!

help with dreadlock accelerators?

General Questions

greetings! It is approaching my 3 month mark with my t&r to neglect dreads. About half of my sections have come undone (still trying to be very ok with that). The loose sections are mostly all around the middle of my head from ear to ear. The sections that were done here were along the small side, and might have been 1/2" or less at the root. From what I can tell it's the slightly bigger ones that are locking up.

So, my question is...at what point do I make some sort of change? Be it purchasing an accelerator (sea salt has not really helped much), or trying to combine these smaller sections by retwist & rip into a 'lil bit bigger sections. I am somewhat willing to wait another few months, but I feel I need to know when something just isn't going to work for my hair in particular.

updated by @oliviajonas-aley: 01/13/15 09:46:23PM