Well, it sounds to me that you know what you want and you know what you like... and that is what truly matters. If he loves you, when you say that to him, he should be okay with it.
After all, he is choosing a route that you do not agree on and you haven't left him
So, just go your way and let him go his way and then compare the result in a couple of years. Neglect takes time and patience but once you get that first loop you will be so excited and we will all cheer you on when you show it to us. Then, the loops will start coming in droves. You will have favorites and then new favorites and over time, when they smooth out, you will miss them. Your hair will have character and personality.