Thanks so much. I don't have any lack of confidence, sorry if that's what it sounded like. The only problem I have with my weight is it could affect my health. I'm big and I think I'm beautiful. The natural thing.. how does that go? I mean, do I just not shampoo my hair at all? I don't really care what people think, but that only goes to some extent - if that makes any sense at all lol. Not combing my hair is fine - I've done that at times from pure laziness when I was younger. But I don't think I could just stop shampooing.. I don't wanna smell.
Is that how the natural way is? I've also seen the natural way end up looking like wild, forest people lol. Not that that's bad, just not for me.
The person with these wonderful dreads said they only used the crochet needle. I love how they look - very tamed, no frizz and looking really nice. I don't like the wild look for dreads - and I don't think the look will like me very much. NaturalWomyn said:
aww honey look letting your hair lock up has nothing to do with what size or shape you are. I've known hundreds of dreads all different-big,small,medium. It does however require a certain amount of confidence from inside yourself to walk around with some seriously messy,crazy hair and eventually some locks that not everyone will like. But it's not about what others think it needs to be for YOU!
You can stop combing/conditioning now and let your hair start to knot up at the length it's at. My husband started both of his sets with shorter hair than you have and his are sick. It's a different journey when u begin with short hair. The shrinkage isn't as severe.If like you said you don't want to go natural (although I can't imagine why?) you will probably have to wait a while till you have some more length to T & R. I personally would not recommend backcombing it can be very damaging.
I think you should check out this site and our member timelines and really think about weather or not you are ready for this journey it really is more than just a hairstyle, even if you don't want it to be! Good Luck