Washing my undreaded hair?

Hello there people

For the past few months I've been washing my hair using baking soda, but 4 days ago I came by this article:
http://blog.kanelstrand.com/2014/01/baking-soda-destroyed-my-hair.html

It states that the PH levels of baking soda and ACV will eventually mess up your hair. I personally have felt my hair to be very dried out and also see a bunch of hair in my shower drain, each time I've washed my hair.

So for 3 days I've used rye flour instead, as suggested by the article author. My hair certainly feels and looks a bit healthier, but I'm not really a big fan of it. It's quite a lot more work you have to go through, seeing as some of the small husk pieces will stay in your hair. I also don't feel that this method of washing my hair promotes the growth of dreadlocks in any way. It feels like I've used an ordinary shampoo in terms of how my hair feels afterwards.

So I'd like to know your take on the article and if you might have other recommendations as to what products I can use?

I'm also having some issues even getting my hair to lock just a tiny tiny bit, so perhaps someone could clarify how I should wash my hair? I suspect my friend and I are both doing it wrong, as none of us have seen any progress over the past few months.
NOTE: My friend's hair is fairly long, while my own is still pretty short. I used to be bald, so I have got a long way to go.

Here are pictures of my hair currently of today:
http://i.imgur.com/foQtNw4.jpg
http://i.imgur.com/3tLy5AW.jpg

updated by @christian-villadsen: 01/13/15 10:04:17PM

you'll slways see hair come out when uwash u shed alot every day normaly

its true bs/acv weakened mine after 4 years of nonstop use

but washing with dsreadlockshampoo.com they bounced right back right away

u might want to switch to thise..the liquid

your hhairs not gonna dread till its a good bit longer theres just nowhere for a knot to hold

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My new book Ban The Taboo Vol 1

Are you referring to this product? http://shop.dreadlockshampoo.com/index.php?main_page=index&cPath=2

I also expected that it would take a lot longer for my dreads to even begin forming, but I supposed that washing them "properly" to promote dread growth at this stage could speed things up a little bit over time.

yup thats the stuff

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My new book Ban The Taboo Vol 1

Alright, thank you very much

How do I got about applying it to my hair when I shower? Do I just disregard all dread growth until my hair is longer, and by that I mean running my fingers through my hair and trying to spread the soap around? Or should I try to adopt a more gentle approach? And if so, could you please clarify on the steps that have to be taken.