My dreads are over a year old now, and started by TnR. I have very thick hair, but it's relatively straight. It took a good 5-6 months before anyone could even tell I had dreads. Any method you use, aside from actually MAKING your dreads, will only hinder the process. The way I describe it to people is this, when you try to make your hair do something it doesn't want to do, its going to undo everything you did, and start over. I don't even have the same sections as I did when I first started my dreads. Give it time. I know it sucks, but truly embrace your hair, and it's ability to make itself into something beautiful. I still wake up to bad hair days, but pay no attention to it Pay no attention to those people who give dirty looks This is something YOU want.... Don't worry about what anyone else thinks.
Your hair will be amazing, on it's own time. Good luck!