A tough week with dreadlocks
updated by @lauren-cronister: 01/13/15 09:56:38PM
I'm 11 months into my 3rd set of dreads. Why? Because I combed out my first two sets. I wasn't happy with them, but there were alot of factors that caused me to do it. I was worried how they looked, I couldn't remember to separate them so they started to congo, I couldn't stand the smell of baking soda(I was pregnant).... and believe it or not, I felt like my husband didn't think I was as pretty with dreadlocks. When I started my dreads almost a year ago, I was worried that I would get the "urge" again. I am happy to say that I haven't had it once over the last year. Even at a year, I have days when I hate they way they look, but I have to remind myself why I started dreading my hair in the first place; to let go of control. I am OCD and have been diagnosed with BPD, both interrupt my life on a regular basis. My dreads have taught me so much over this past year. Its not about how others look at you or think about you, it matters how you feel. I have been told that "You're trying to be black!", "You're a hippy!", and even been called a stoner, pot head, or just plain dirty. I know otherwise! My hair means more to me than nay of those people could ever know, so I just brush them off. I know you said you wouldn't but I hope you don't comb out your babies. Theres so much potential to learn and grow from them!
Growing dreadlocks is a wonderful journey for the soul. The journey to get mature dreadlocks does something to us, teaches us that our hair does not have to look perfect all the time. Many many members on this site have had bad days, bad weeks, but we toughen up buttercup, we get through it. I had an entire month and a half where my daughter called me a Troll, & I did look like I lived under a bridge. What did I do during that time, at home I did not give a shit, but when I went out I just wore a nice loose tam, had a few colors maded for those times.....The journey to healthy mature dreads is not instant, but the reward is amazing. Just think, by the two year mark you will have the dreadlocks you always envisioned, ones that will last you for life, ones that others will admire for their sheer beauty. Hang in there, knit a tam and put in on, or ask an elderly neighbor to make one for you, they love to knit. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. To help you out, just come on here and bitch, complain, get it out of your system...Mine looked so bad that I have no pics of it, to wild for me....but I got through it and love love love mine now.....Here is a hug from all of us...peace
Ah shucks, I like "Dread Mom" too. Thanks Jules & HippieHybrid If my husband ever gets a cord for his phone, I can post all the pics of my dreads. They look so different now and I have many pics of the last few months showing the changes. Mine are fantastic now, the messy days are gone forever. A few are mature now, looks like the rest will be mature by my 2 year mark...peace