Strangers have totally just grabbed my hair without asking before.
I've had dreads that have been noticeable for about the last 2 years of my almost 5 years since I stopped brushing. Much of this is that I don't make an effort to hide them or have my hair up out of my face in some way that also makes them not really noticeable. I personally call it "Fairy Glamor." Sorta just this thing I do to encourage people to not pat attention to what I don't want them to.
I wanna know what people have done...and how they react when people just come out of no where and grab or touch your hair! Without asking first!
I was at work last night and a customer of mine who was slightly intoxicated and not a regular or anyone I knew, just reached out and grabbed a handful of my hair! She said that she loved my dreads. I don't quite remember if she said anything else...but I sorta just pulled away...smiled and said thanks.
In this instant I didn't ask nicely if she could please ask next time before she did that...or something along those line. Sometimes, like when I'm at work...unless you are a nasty person who probably has nasty hands...or want to be a weirdo and smell them/me just out of the blue...I don't make an issue over it.
Also, I was hoping that possibly she would give me a tip since she had won a little money on our video poker machines. She ended up tipping me a fifth of what a made all night...so...I was happy...and definitely avoided a confrontation!
There's been other times....like watching a movie in the theaters...and because it's most comfortable...being leaned back in my hair with my hair falling over the back....when someone has all of a sudden...started yanking on a dread a little...and had a hold of some of my hair, touching it.
In that case, I pulled my hair away and looked back asking saying..."hey! Do I know you from somewhere?" I didn't...I then asked why they were grabbing it and touching my dreads without asking me first. That it was rude to reach out and grab someone's hair. That...if we had been standing up...I very well might have turned around and have my self defenses up. A person could very well get punched doing that to some of my friends.
So...stories? Reactions? How these reactions might be different depending on circumstances.
updated by @star-gryphon: 02/14/15 04:44:50AM