even if you do what he does for maintenance yours will never turn out "like" anyones but your own. your hair will be different, grow differently, you probably wash slightly different, sleep different. & any maintenance besides washing & separating will be damaging your dreads & won't be worth it in the long run.
try to separate when wet & separate as much as you need to to prevent the congos. the ones that you are trying to reverse maybe try a little aloe or extra acv on to condition & loosen them a little to try & pull apart. try to wiggle a finger in between & wedge them apart bit by bit. or at the last straw try & cut a few connecting hairs at a time & pull them apart (only cut as much as you absolutely would have to, try to pull more than cut).