Who else had/has to deal with people telling them they should get their dreads done "properly"?
I'm getting married in a few months. When we first got engaged, my mom kept telling me that I should cut my 4 year old locks off and grow my hair back and then she'd pay for me to have them done "properly" at a salon. I keep telling her that they ruin locks, but she still at least wants me to clean them up for the wedding.
My aunt is still under the impression that locks will make me go bald faster, but I try telling her that if I don't mess with them, they are the healthiest hairstyle to have. The only thing that will make me go bald is my genes. And yes, I will go bald. I know it. But as long as I have hair, I'll have locks.
Only my mum. She doesn't anymore, but obviously because there's no visible progress in the space of one day, she thought it "hadn't worked" and kept mentioning this salon run by Africans who know all about dreads. It was annoying, and it was also very pointless of her cos I guarantee if I'd agreed to go, she would've talked me out of it after seeing the price of such things lol.
I have alot and since my dreadies are so short a lot of people just think im nappy and urging me to go get my hair twisted professionally the semi neglect method has my dreadies looking beautiful only after 3 months... I also get a lot of question about washing only to surprise them with telling them that i wash as i often as i please, but usually twice a week. I never plan to have a loctician touch my hair it isunnecessary, im just as capable and also know my dreads far better than a salon could....
haha! This happens to me! I'll get the "you should get dreads, I mean just do it already." haha well I have quite a few on my head right now they just aren't all the same size and they aren't globs of hair mashed together but thank you for your input My favorite comment of all time was by a girl that isn't very nice and she backcombed, croqueted, tnred, attached extensions repeatedly, and bleached her locks for two years and...finally took them out, I am always one to support people in their struggle but uhg I'm telling you they looked filthy and unhappy but one day she was talking down to me about how "you really shouldn't get dreads because dreads are so high maintenance and it takes forever to "fix" them and they are so expensive and hard to maintain!" I almost laughed out loud! but all I said was "...uh yeah I don't touch them, or do anything at all but wash." her mouth dropped open and she was so mad! "nothing!" she said stunned, and I just shrugged, she didn't even believe me! haha