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A Bit Of Encouragement For Those New To This Journey.

LunaKat13
@lunakat13
3 years ago
54 posts

Hi there, It’s been a while since I posted but wanted to post this.   It’s to encourage people new to this journey and to express the importance of patience, explain the tons of info I have learned all thanks to this site and all of it’s amazing members and the satisfying result that come with such patience & encouragement.   It’s not much just a before and after pic & some insight on what I learned. Keep in mind everyone’s experience will be unique to them but there are some things that just go with the territory. . On my 1st day I thought this day would never come. There were issues that I didn’t even think would be resolved in a decent way such as the fact that my sides were shaved.   The concern for what will happen as the new hair grows in and will it lock up the same way was always a huge concern.   Here I am almost but not quite at my 3 year mark. June 9th is my 3 year anniversary.   It’s like this, if you obsess over more than just washing & separating the time goes slow as molasses.   If you don’t think about it past the thought needed to take proper care the times goes so fast that one day you’ll look in the mirror and BOOM you’ll have a magnificent mane of locs that you won’t even believe. The process has been so interesting and fun. I had quite the ugly stage that seemed to go on forever but I roughed it and got to the other side.   I have only ever used the shampoo they sell on this site and it’s pretty much all you need. You don't need expensive products. Questions I have seen many ask as well as asked me: I have loops, lumps, bumps & loose hair should I use a hook? 1st of all NOOOO! 2nd   Don’t worry about it because your hair will do exactly what it’s meant to do.   How many locs do you have?   I have no idea.   I have lots of loose hair which is normal and with that being the case I find new babies all the time. How long did it take to mature? The ones from day 1took 2-3 years the rest- still maturing. Our hair is forever going through the process since it grows and new hairs will form into babies that mature fairly quick. Not to mention new growth. Something else I get asked alot is about new growth on existing locs and the answer is for my hair anyway - they just grow into the loc. No maintenance needed.   They just grow that way.   How much length will I lose?   It may depend on how you started, your hair type & some other things   but ultimately it will depend on how long your hair is. Basically you’ll lose a percentage of your length so the longer it is the more it will shrink. Since mine wasn’t that long it shrunk alright but it wasn’t that drastic so whenever I wished I started with longer hair I remember that. The reason for the shrinking -your hair is curling up into itself to create the proper knots to form your locs. It’s all part of the process. So remember if you ever feel discouraged, like combing them out of heaven forbid going to a salon just remember what I said.   I have seen so many people posting about giving up but don’t.   Patience is key!   I hope this will helps at least one person feel better when feeling discouraged.   it will makes this post all worth it.   The below pic is me at 5 months and me today. Be well, Be safe and Peace!

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☮ soaring eagle ॐ
@soaring-eagle
3 years ago
29,640 posts

Wow what a diference 

and great insights




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My new book Ban The Taboo Vol 1
LunaKat13
@lunakat13
3 years ago
54 posts

☮ soaring eagle ॐ:

Wow what a diference 

and great insights

Indeed it’s a huge difference.  And getting better every day.  if this helps just one person it makes it well worth the time it took to write it.  I have learned so much over the last 3 years. Thank you 😻
☮ soaring eagle ॐ
@soaring-eagle
3 years ago
29,640 posts

That’s why I Don’t mind losing money keeping the site up..if it helps 1 person it’s worth it




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My new book Ban The Taboo Vol 1
LunaKat13
@lunakat13
3 years ago
54 posts

This site helped me tremendously. I seriously knew nothing & actually met with a “pro” at some salon.  She was talking all about she has her loc for 20 years and they are down to her feet but would never take off her bandana. I asked if I could see hers since she does her own hair as an example of her work. I know how tight she pulls hair and am betting she has traction alopecia.  I even asked her about the tight scalpey look all her client have because I don’t & never have liked that.  It’s not attractive and she charged way too much.   I came home from that appointment with all these questions & feeling very unsettled about everything.  That’s when I found this site. 

Gazzunger the Grey
@gazzunger-the-grey
3 years ago
91 posts

Hi Lunakat,  that's really good to see and your words were very encouraging too. I've got a kind of lop-sided look going as one side is dreading faster; I'm being patient and  trying to avoid touching the less locked up side (after SE's latest advice)  Just accepting the difference is part of reassurance they will turn out ok eventually(yours look awesome and have encouraged me - like your colouring too).  

I'm nearly at three years, so must get my daughter to help get some photos to post soon, thanks for the inspiration, keep on dreading.

Hope all's good with you in the states (Covid/ Lockdown etc notwithstanding),  Looking forward to spring around the corner soon, and getting to some growing in the garden (Yard I think you guys call them!)

SE...hope you're OK for funding, I would contribute a bit if I can, and reckon quite a few other site users would too.  

 

LunaKat13
@lunakat13
3 years ago
54 posts

Hi Gazzunger thanks so much for replying. It’s good to hear from fellow dreadies.  The lopsided thing will balance out.  I had the same issue. I had some un even dreading and smaller or shorter on one side than the other. I’d love to see some pics.  It’s so good to know that this encouraged you and helped you to feel better about the process.  Yes do stop touching the hair though. Best leave it be and let it do it’s thing.  Easier said than done I know. I’m such a fidget and fidget with everything including my hair. Be well.  Peace.

Happy Dreading,

Luna

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