So now that I've started my third dread journey, I've become a bit discouraged. My family isn't necessarily unsupportive of them. Both of my parents were more or less fine with it in the past but they had their own misunderstandings like anyone would.
I am mainly worried because I developed mildew/mold the other times I had dreads (Or I thought I had at least). Because of this, my dad seems to believe that I am just "not meant to have dreads". He told me that I was so anxious and angsty and that I should of have just "washed my hair".
The thing is, I of course ALWAYS washed my hair. I told him this too but he just kept mentioning that I didn't? It doesn't make any sense. He also kept trying to say that my hair may have gotten mildew because it wasn't clean enough, when really we all know that mildew doesn't happen for that reason. I did occasional deep cleans and the water was always super clear and not murky at all. Basically, my dreads were always very clean, even if they maybe didn't dry properly.
I also find it funny that he thinks I was so angsty about it. I was so happy with my first set of dreads and the only reason I was ever upset was because I felt I had to get rid of them, or the issues I was having were stressing me out. This had nothing to do with the actual dreads themselves though. He doesn't seem to understand that either.
So now that I am starting my third and hopefully final set, I am dreading (haha) having to tell them, or anyone that I am doing it. I know they are going to say those same things and be so shocked as to why I would even want to. I've wanted to for the longest time though. When I combed them out the first time I wanted them back. When I shaved my head I wanted them back too. For months all I've thought about when it comes to what I want to do with my hair has been dreads.
They are truly what I want most even if having other hairstyles is easier.
In addition, I am going to be living with a family from Germany soon in sort of an "au-pair" situation and I have not told them yet either. Should I even have to tell them? Me having dreads is not a reflection of my personality or how I will act with their family. I am worried they will think I would be a bad example for their kids In reality they probably won't care at all.
I guess I'm just curious what you all have to say about this or if you've experienced it too.
updated by @thirdtimesacharm: 02/21/19 11:51:22PM