So I finally looked at my hair in the mirror. I have my father's hairline so I normally don't have much hair on my upper sides but now I realized how much damage I have caused.
For starters I have been going to the salon for maintenance and styling once a month. Before I get a million I told you so's it was not the Salon's fault entirely. I either wash my hair once a month or get it done at the salon. I have not put ANY oils or nourishing products in my hair for many months (I once sprayed some Sproil.) Over the last few months I have switched from having one of those satin pillow covers that are supposed to protect your hair to one of those bonnets with a thick elastic band inside of it. I did this to cut down on the lint problem and because the head scarf kept falling off. I would pinch my hair sometimes and it came off like dust.
I know my negligence is my problem. But at the same time this happened a couple of years ago, when I had an afro and wore matching elastic headbands everyday to work. But I did nourish and wash it normally. I am skipping the salon this month but next month is what I dread. I need to trim off the excess hairs and a good palm rolling. I just don't want to sit in that salon chair as she tightens my dreads. I even have some gaps in my dreads. I thought that was because of how they were originally created but I think its from the constant twisting. A few months ago, my Aunt with floor length dreads told me that all I needed were a brush and a spray bottle of olive oil. My rasta Uncle told me I should not eat pork. All I can think of right now is apply some homemade dreadlock oil (rosemary,etc) . I am just at wits end, I have no idea what to do!
updated by @mary: 01/22/20 09:33:16AM