i could not agree with this more however its not enough to correct 1 thoiu8ght with a possitive rsponce because chances are these negative thoughts have been rolling around in there like a stuck record player repeatting over and over year after year till you no longer can believe anything but that
every "ypoir so pretty" u get is drowned out by6 the repeating "no im fat no im un=gly no im worthless" soundtrack in youir mind
so everytime u get 1 negative thoight u need to drown it oit with hundreds of the opposite..
beliefs come from repetitive "programming"
why do u think churches hacv e the sit stand knewel repeat after me sing this do that rituals its to program the mind to believe a certain thing
yoir thoufhts andthe words of others have the same effect
think back when u wre young and 1 kid said "your fat" or whatever i bet for days that echoed through your mind 1st as a question am i fat then as a "beat down" your so fat your so fat then expanding to your so fat nobody will wan t you
thats programming the mind to believe a certain way regardless of the rality
anorexia\
anorexicas truly see themselves as fat when they have nothing but bone left they try to diet to make the bones themselves lose weight
are they fat? no but theyre minds programmed themselves to bnot only believe it but to seee it too
that constant echoung repetative thought process ingerains these beliefs
it has to be counteracted with a strong oposition a loucdxder voice screamming over and over no im not im perfect just as i am
when you program yourself to believe your beautiful and worthwhile you will be no matter how you look or dont look outside
itshe inner struggle to feeel worthwhile that truly does u harm
now..dreads..can dsave you from all that
set u freee
u need them
if u give in and cut you lose yoir lifeline
you lose your strength to escape the repetative madness of self induced self hatred
stop thinking negative thoughts and start screamming possditivity
beam it from your heart like a beakon
let your entire being be consumed with 1 simple thought
i am wonderful
let that be who you are
all you need
then u no longer need anyone eleses approval
Patty Haynes said:
I think you are gorgeous...with your dreads...I have been dealing with alot of confidence issues myself lately b'c of the past coming back to haunt me...I can tell you this, I thought I had dealt with my insecurities (therapy, losing weight, cutting my hair short, quitting drinking and smoking). But someone made some comments on facebook the other day that brought the low self esteem screaming back, like 10 years ago was yesterday. This does not have to do with your hair, work on doing good things for yourself. When I was at my lowest I had long curly pretty hair, when I felt my sexiest after all the work I did I had short 2" all over hair and rocked it, now I am growing my dreads and they did not make me feel the way I have been feeling the person who said those nasty things did. If anything the dreads will help you except yourself. Dont beat yourself up, I know its hard. Girls are made to feel like they have to compete constantly with their looks, you could be the most loving caring person in the world and still feel like that guy doesnt like you or that you dont measure up to some ridiculous standard. I know this sounds corny but it was advice I got from my therapist that really helped me in the long run. "Do not downgrade, call yourself names, or be mean to yourself" Pay attention to how many times a day you think or say out loud that your are stupid, fat, insert any other derogatory word here....make a point to correct yourself out loud everytime. You are not stupid or fat or sloppy. Also correct the other girls and woman in your life whenyou here them say it. Tell them not to say that about themselves. You will become aware that it is almost like breathing for woman to do this. (Btw I also do this for the men in my life b'c they are wonderful too That was long winded keep up on the forums the people here really are wonderful...they have reachedor they are trying to reacha level of acceptance that alot of people have not yet. Hugs your way.
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