Mistakes made. I will keep on..

Hi everyone!

So glad to find an active forum with the hot topic of Dreads as its main topic!!

Half my head was done at home with tnr and backcombing. (Um whoops!?)  Other half was done at salon with twist and pull and very little backcombing. I believe salon also did some some interlocking. I have at least 1 inch free from my scalp to the start of each dread. 

So, after reading on this forum I see that I probably should have gone the natural neglect method. Which my hair always wanted to do anyways. I have curly hair underneath the top layer, enough to have multiple kinks in it. The top layer of my hair is straight. I don't know why...     My hair drove me nuts. I always ended up with my hair in a bun. 

My hair before becoming dreads was a few inches past shoulders. I do still have some free hair around face, which is what I wanted. Hair is fine, thin, curly and straight. Blonde and just stringy looking. Before dreads I would only use shampoo every few weeks. I washed my hair (with water) and used conditioner, the good kind I think, twice a week. My hair was healthy, growing like crazy, but still fine and thin. Just always tangled so easily.

I always wanted dreads. Since I was in my 20s. I decided when I was 39 that when I turned 40 I would get dreads, and so they have begun. 

My worries. I don't have enough dreads, I have 33. My hair is so fine and thin that it just doesn't seem full enough. But without dreads I thought the same thing. So not sure. I do not want to comb these out. I have already combed out half my head before. It took days to do around 10 dreads ( I thought they weren't spaced correctly) and so I got them redone. 

Also the frizziness. Just embrace it right?

Anything else I should be doing?

Oh and I use a dreading shampoo, no residue. I've washed them once since salon, and once with just water. My hair is pretty used to not being washed often. But I'm also used to washing with water and conditioning the ends. Which I've obviously stopped doing. 

I hope to include pics of my dreads. Thanks all and happy dreading. 

P.S I wish I would have gone natural and just wore a scarf/hat.

excuse me for this but damn you look good at 40! beautiful

33 just means thicker dreads but not tooo extremely thick naturally they would blend better with 1-5 thick a couple dozen medium and several dozen thin    "spacing' not being right?  you mean uneven/   they look best with a total lack of spacing

all is fine however new natural dreads will form between dreads over time

just take the biggest section ..is it over ann inch at the scalp? bigger then a quarter r 1/2  dollar (if your american)   a quarters a pretty thick dread 1/2 dollar even tho0ugh its not drasticly bigger then a quarter is a bit thicker then is generally recomended (for ease of care)

with thin and fine hair  really having only 1 or 3 thick ones for a bit of body a dozen medium o more for volume and dozens more thin to fill in gaps gives the illusion of a whle lot more hair

like i said thogh you'll get thin ones popping up from time to time

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Thanks G! I'll take compliments any day. I don't do anything special, no makeup, maybe mascara every now and again and that's it. More natural for sure.

I think the spacing is great now. I have around 5 dreads that are thicker than the rest. The rest differ between thin and medium. Just depending on where they are on my head. As for the frizzness. Should I be doing anything or just leave them be? When going out in public, (kids school etc) I look a mess so I tend to pull them back, gently, in a loose tie. I keep them down at home. Also should I be washing my hair more often? Weekly? I was going to wash every 2 weeks, Which is much more than the my hair is used to. 
The biggest section is not over an inch, probably slightly under.

Oh and last question. I have some dreads that are folding over themselves. So say a 8 inch long dread is now 4 inches because of the folding. Do I just let this happen, or pull it apart so I continue to have loose ends? I do want loose ends, but I do want the dreads to thicken as well. 

I keep thinking of things to ask. Should I cancel my one month dread maintenance appt? I'm thinking that answer is going to be a, yes. 

updated by @coffeelover: 09/05/18 06:30:00PM

that answer is an absolute yes / NEVER GO BACK NEVER LET THEM TOUCH YOU AGAIN

btw I hate makeup i'd rather see a woman rock a beard with pride then cover up any flaws or hide behind facepaint. 

yes weekly is a good minimum for washing  I would use your dreads to tie yur dreads back but ignore the frizz..entirely

literaly use shadows not mirrors to see how your dreads are hanging 

you only see frzz when you oook close if you step back from  the mirror you cant see it others cant either

but if you  crocheted the frizz will be way worse durng recovery

just leave it

scalp frizz gives you a mane  as aposed to the scalp showuing im going bald dollhead look salons push (you know holw lder dolls had  tuffs of hair from holes in their heads) salons try to make the scalp show round each dread  this causes traction alopecia

loose hairs give a soft mane look thats beautiful not harsh

my mane frizz and all

the doll head look salons push.. traction alopecia caused on purpose to avoid a lik frizz on the scalp (by making it so the hair won't regrow there)

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