By Autumn2, 2012-10-20
Happy Saturday, dreadies! I hope that you all have an awesome day today. The weather here cooled off overnight (thankfully!) and I am looking forward to spending a whole free day in paradise with my hubster. No work, no BS!
I used up all of my salt spray mix yesterday doing a pretty massive salt water soak, so I was able to do a new fragrance oil blend yesterday. The first mix I had was lavender/spearmint, and now I mixed up a batch that hopefully will repel mosquitoes as well as smelling good: cedarwood, citronella and lavender.
The salt water soak seemed to really exaggerate the separation, and it made me notice that so far, it looks like my natural dreads are wanting to be little spaghetti thin dreads. Which is okay by me, even though I do love the look of fatties. :P
Anyhow, my scalp has been doing awesome and has really settled down after that rough first week and a half. Still finding the odd comb stashed here and there, and I am seriously contemplating recycling a lot of them, if that is possible. Anyone know what # of plastic (i.e., 1, 2, 5....?) combs are usually made of and if they are recyclable? My hubster doesn't even use them even though he doesn't have dreads, because he always keeps super short hair.
Love and peace.
By Star Gryphon, 2012-10-20
Although there are a couple of things I would have done differently when I started my dreads almost 5 years ago...
I'll have to say...I'm really thankful I went the neglect method.
That was the loudest voice that I heard way back then.
To be honest...I wanted to backcomb.
I couldn't figure out how to...I do have like one or two dreads that were started this way. They are some of my ugliest and...hardest dreads. Cause I also palm rolled them.
I got lazy....every time I asked that "loudest voice" how to get them...
he said NOTHING
I think I ranted and raved about it once or twice. I was SOOOO frustrated!
I kept seeing all these beautiful dreads...and...they all said they did nothing too!
Dumb founded...how do you get dreads by doing nothing?
well...obviously you do something.
You wash your hair.
It'll start to mat up.
Like...bunches of hair will start clumping together.
Make sure those clumps aren't pulling in too much...especially other clumps
You might not need to separate your hair for a long time! Like...a month or more!
Remember...everyone's hair is different.
It'll each dread in it's own individual way. Each set of dreads you have will dread differently.
I was told...most people don't keep their first set of dreads.
Like...in 5-6 years....you'll just want to do it again. Because of all the things you know now...that you didn't then.
YOU WILL get frustrated!
You will HATE your hair sometimes.
I'd look at all the mature and long dreads and be sooooo jealous. Impatient that my hair wasn't that cool already.
But....I calmed myself down.
The dreadies in my community told me...you're doing great.
One time after a Sar Shalom show (It's a reggae band), the vocalist Santino was chatting with my best friend drinking a beer...and when I sat down, he patted my head and says, "Awwww...Babies!"
They took their time...and did their thing.
I wore them up for work...
but when I was out at shows and at home...I let them fly free
People would be confused..."They aren't done yet?"
"I have a friend who can help dread up the rest"
"I can help you dread your hair"
"Wow you have a lot of loose hairs."
I honestly didn't let anyone touch my hair. I didn't trust anyone. Plus....I'm lazy.
I was told by I don't know how many different dreadies that I just needed to be patient
so patient I was. I'd look at my hair and be frustrated...
I think I screamed about it a couple of times.
I washed it about weekly...
I separated it...and guided it into what I could
Sometimes it guided me...
Some of the things that people had been telling me finally dawned on me. Like...I finally believe what you are saying!
If I could go back....I'd totally do it again!
You really don't need to twist and rip or back comb your hair to get it started
By John Summers, 2012-10-19
i love congos. i think they are too cool. i stopped separating two months ago but i haven't had much progress. i'm just wondering if i need to just give them time and be patient or is there something i can do to help them lock together. any advice is much appreciated. Jah bless
By Mons, 2012-10-19
By Rose, 2012-10-19
I've been meaning to make a post for a while, to let out all the things I've been thinking about lately. I could never get around to it though lol. But now I've got a cold, and nothing to do but sit on the couch and watch tv. This is gonna be long, but here it goes...
Only one of my friends knows I'm dreading. He's been supportive since I first told him I wanted dreads. I did have to explain the natural method to him, but he was supportive of it once I did. A few weeks ago he touched my hair and I moved away. because I'm always afraid people are going to finger comb it. He was all like "oh yeah I forgot you were getting dreads", then he started jumping up and down and going "when are you gonna have dreads?".
Then like, two weekends ago he told me "if I had magic powers I would zap dreads onto your head" lol. I told him I wouldn't let him. It's weird because even though he is supportive, I feel like he doesn't really understand why I'm dreading. It makes me feel lonely because I don't know if anyone really understands. My dad does, but that's not the same as having a friend that understands.
I'm nervous for when my hair really starts to get crazy. So far everything is good, but I'm only a little less than two months. People at school are noticing, and that's actually exciting. I'm happy that people can tell because it means my hair must be progressing, but it's still scary to think what will happen when everyone notices.
The majority of the students at my school are black, with Hispanic coming in second, then white, Asian, etc. The only kids I know with dreads have African-textured hair, and they just twist their hair. The culture around dreads at my school is very different then what I associate them with. Girls at my school also spend a lot of time cutting, dying, flat-ironing, doing all sorts of things to their hair. I'm nervous that when they start to notice my hair they'll think I'm nasty. I already don't fit in all that well, and I like to avoid trying to explain the things I do because it never works out for me.
Also everyone at my school seems to create a big riff between races. Everyone brings so much attention to race. They other day my friend said to my other friend "black people don't wear headbands". For clarification they are both black, and he was teasing her for wearing a headband. I asked him what he meant by that, and I started to get agitated. He told me not to take him seriously, but it's hard not to get annoyed because I hear so many ignorant statements every day. I get asked things like "do I listen to white people music", or if I listen to "that rock music stuff". I mean complete strangers ask me those things! One time this girl kept calling me Sarah before she asked me what my name was, and I was so offended, she also called a Hispanic kid Pablo. I wish someone could say something to her, but people are so aggressive at my school that no one speaks up to them.
I'm nervous that people will figure out I'm dreading (I'm not telling anyone, even after my hair gets knotty) that they'll think I'm crazy cause "white people can't have dreads". Or because no one at my school knows you can get dreads by not brushing, no one I have talked to anyway. I can't believe it! I'm just scared to become "that girl who doesn't brush her hair". I don't want people to make school hell for me, I already hate it.
My friends are generally nice and smart, but don't seem to understand me. It's hard because there are tons of people at my school who hate me, and then I have these friends who are there for me and everything... but I still don't relate with them.
On a more positive note, I'm so happy with my hair. It's doing great so far. Sections with little fuzzy knots in them it looks fuller too, feels thicker. I love to look at it in the mirror, and to find all the sections I can consider baby dreads. Woohoo!
By Christine Tiffany Smith, 2012-10-19
so.... what would be the best products to use to maintain locs? is there a specific way of washing your hair once it starts locking? is conditioner something to use?
By Sunshine , 2012-10-19
By Marlee Batchelder, 2012-10-18
I had another really stressful day today, which my dreads have-again-helped me through. It seems like there are so many things that I need to work really hard to get right...but my dreads require no work, no stress, no effort- and they're doing exactly the right thing; which is whatever the fuck they want. This amazes me everytime I think about it. We all work so hard and stress out about getting things done by a certain time..or in a certin way...which is the exact oppositethan what I think aboutmy dreads. There is no deadline they must be done by. I don't need to spend X amount of time on them each day. The best result is actuallyachieved by basically completely forgetting about them! I wish the same could be said about my ACT/SAT tests coming up :/
By Star Gryphon, 2012-10-18
Natural/Neglect Dreadlocks have cycles.
In the beginning there was hair! (Or not. Some start from bald)
I'm not hear to talk about those first few years though.
I'm sure you can find a ton of those.
So...you really don't need to do anything to "get dreads."
Keep your hair clean
separate when needed
So....you do that...and you magically get dreads!
well...it's magical because at some point you forget that you were waiting so patiently
and poof...you look in the mirror and you have mature dreads!
We all wish anyway.
Here's mine right now
I have loose hair that never has actually wanted to dread in....
But....there has been a little bit more in there currently
Look at what's hiding inside!
the picture is blurry....but those are babies in there!
Little...tangled...knappy...working on their knots...
That's cool cause...there are the actual mature dread locks already there....
I love this journey.
It really never stops once you commit!
so.,,,,all you impatient dreads....
what are you going to do when your hair is ready to go around again?
Sorry...I just had to throw that out there.
By MichelleMaw315, 2012-10-18