By Karrington <3, 2012-06-01
I don't have too much to say, only that it is my 9 month dreadversary and I couldn't be happier :D
June 1 came a lot quicker than I had intended and now I have nothing to say.. : S
I will say that last week was a very trying week for me because I had been very sick(since about Friday throwing up and the like) and on that following Monday, mom took me to the ER and it turned out that I was dehydrated. I had laid in the bed for around 3 days and he friction of my pillows really did a number on my dreads. The ones in back are really getting solid and I LOVE it. I just wish they would grow longer..
Anywho, the doctors gave me a liter of fluid and sent me home to rest up and I have been doing great ever since. That's pretty much all that has happened in the last month
I'm gonna try and post some pictures of my babies and their progress later in the week.
Thanks for reading! Have a good one :D
By Stephani, 2012-06-01
Please bare with me as blogging is not my greatest talent. Opening up and expressing myself has always been something I'm not great at either. This week has been a tough one for me, so this will most likely be a venting blog. A apologize ahead of time for this blog having no point, and also for it's randomness. I have honestly debated for a long time about whether to post this or not. I ultimately decided to because I thought maybe there would be at least person that can relate.
A little back story:
In Oct. 2001 I was diagnosed with a chemical imbalance (depression and severe anxiety), and hospitalized at the age of 14. I can remember every minute, hour, day, week and month that I spent there as if it were yesterday. When I was younger I always wondered why I was always so sad. I knew I was different from other kids because they were happy, and I wasn't. My whole life I have lived under a grey cloud that weighs me down everyday. When I was younger I tried to kill the sadness with drugs and alcohol. They gave me relief, but that relief was always short lived. As soon as my buzz or high wore off, there I was again back under my cloud.
I know a lot of people suffer from depression these days, but it is still a subject that is not talked about enough. A lot of times the ones who talk about it only suffer from temporary depression, or a mild form that was brought on by a sad event. They go through their depression, and then they get over it. I wish I could say it was that way for me, but unfortunately it's not. When I was diagnosed, I was given a pill and sent on my way. Back then it was shameful to take an anti-depressant. I kept my hospital stay quiet, and only my 3 best friends and close family knew about it. Other "friends" from school were told many different stories, but no one knew for sure what was going on.
It took a few different pills to get the right fit for me, but after a couple months it was helping. This may sound strange to those who don't suffer from depression or anxiety, but I finally had a grip of what it felt like to be "normal". When I say normal I don't mean what society calls normal, I mean normal as in I finally felt like I should've felt my whole life. Happy. My cloud was gone, only rarely would it trail far behind me. I could finally interact with my friends and classmate like a happy teenager would. Every time I would spent time with my sister she would ask me who took her sister and replaced her with this talkative, hyper person. I wanted to do things with my friends. I wanted to draw, and listen to music. I didn't have to wake up everyday and put on my "plastic Stephani" and pretend I could function. I could actually do it, and I wanted to!
Unfortunately though, along with all that happy, I still had shame bottled up deep inside. Shame from having to take a pill in order to function like every other person. In my mind, no one I knew had to take a pill to make them happy, they could be happy on their own. Why did I have to take this stupid pill just to feel normal? I was angry. I was angry at a lot of different things. We all have things from our childhood that aren't such happy things, but I held on to mine for far too long.
When I started my pills, I was told by the Dr. that I would be on them for the rest the of my life. Most people who need anti-depressants are only prescribed them for a relatively short period of time. I stopped taking my pills about a year after I was diagnosed. My Dr, was not happy with me at all, and to this day still checks on me through family (he's been our family Dr. for longer then I've been alive).
My life since going off my pills has been a roller coaster of crazy. After I stopped the medicine I started hanging with the wrong crowd and I got involved in things I knew nothing about. Things got pretty bad for a while, and I kind of spiraled out of control until about late 2005. I was at a bar (under aged) and I fell and completely shattered every ligament in my right ankle. Because I was put in a HUGE boot and on crutches for 8 months I had to move back in with my mom. Looking back, tearing my ankle all to pieces saved my life. I was on a crash course to nowhere fast, and the train was about to derail. During my time isolated on my mom's sofa is when I met my husband. He was the best thing that could have happened to me, and in the first year we spent together my depression never showed it's ugly head.
I told you all of that, to tell you this... In the 6 and half years that I have spent with my husband, he has never had the chance to experience how happy I truly can be. He's never seen the person I am with the help of my medicine. My cloud is back, and it's in full force.
My depression is probably worse then it's ever been. I have gotten great at hiding it, but it's truly getting harder every day. I'm kind of lost and drowning in my thoughts every day. I will never revert back to drugs, or my old lifestyle. But, I'm more so going in the other direction now. I'm becoming a complete hermit, I don't ever want to leave my house, and the only reason that I really do is because I have to work. Even going to work is becoming a challenge. I LOVE what I do, but my depression is doing what it does best. It's so great at making me not give a shit about anything.
My Mom wants me to get back on my med's, and in my heart I know that is what I should do for own sanity, but still I'm conflicted. I have all these thoughts jumbled in my head and I can't express them. I just feel so frustrated and sad.
I honestly have no idea where this blog is going, or why I'm even writing it. I don't talk to many people about my depression, because most don't understand it, but I guess it's nice to just get it out regardless if anyone reads it or not. I wish I knew how to express myself better.
By Outoftheloop, 2012-05-31
After a month I just cut my hair at the spur of the moment.
Didn't have too much of a reason to cut them besides my job and people looking at me like I'm strange, I guess I just don't live in a place where I can have(developing) dreads...next to all this, I'm a shitty care taker anyway so...I don't feel I've lost anything, anyway, they'll grow back and Ill try again.
In the mean time I need a girlfriend -____-
By SarahSuffocate, 2012-05-31
So.. I've wanted dreads for 2 and a half years. I finally decided to do it after I graduated highschool. The only websites I had found were dreadheadhq and knottyboys, or websites only suggesting the "neglect" method. Which was not for me. So I bought a kit from dreadheadhq and I recieved it today.
First of all I would like to state that when I opened it there was white powder all over the box which I'm guessing was the "locka pepper" which was really gross and everything else was coated with it.
I do believe that I had reseached all sorts of things and I am sad that I never came across this site. damn you google!!! But anyway... Today after recieving the package I decided to look up if consumers prefered dreadheadhq or knotty boys. and what do I find????
WORST STUFF FOR YOU! WAX IS BAD! THIS STUFF RUINED MY DREADS!!!
And my heart sank... I spent 80 dollars on a stupid kit and some "dreadhead butter" And I will end up only getting 50 or 60 dollars back... But I was so happy that I came across this before I put the terrible stuff into my hair and ruin my dread experience.
I've decided to do the "twist and rip" method and my friends are going to help. My mom works in the area of essiential oils and such so i can do this so much more naturally.... I cant even begin to explain how happy I am that I stumbled upon this before it was to late....
I also warned my friend to stay away from those terrible people since he plans to get dreads soon too as well....
THANK YOU!!!! THANK YOU!! THANK YOU!
By Hiba J, 2012-05-31
Hey! I'm kinda new to this whole dread thing. I've been interested in dreads for a long time but a few days ago I had a really strong urge to get dreads. So I googled and youtubed about people who had dreads and about how they got their dreads
Some people had extension, which I think defeats the whole purpose. I really dislike extension but that's just my opinion. Other's used backcombing and a crochet hook (which is the first thing I tried cos I thought it'd be the easiest) and then I found twist and rip (which at first I found impossible to do but now it's deffo the easiest)...and then I came across this girl who was ranting about her dreads being natural...:P - I didnt realise at first that people did actually just let their hair dread by itself. I thought this girl was one of a kind, so to speak.
Anyhoooss...that night I stay up until almost midnight watching videos and researching about dreadlocks. I told my mum I wanted dreadlocks and she told me I wasnt allowed them. I went ahead with it anyway. And (on I think it was the 25th of May) at midnight, after I had showered, I started creating my first dread! I backcombed, twist and palmrolled, for about an hour, before I got too tired. So I went to sleep and woke up with a tangled little lump at the top of my dread-to-be. I untangled it, watched more videos and crocheted for a good half hour, at least. I then tied a hairband around the topwhich I then replaced with a rubber band (I know, I know theyre bad for your dreads but I wasnt aware at the time. In fact, I thought they were necessary). After trying to make a second dread using that method, I gave up and tried twist and rip which I found so much easier! That day I made 5 but took one out because it was loose at the roots (I now regret it!)
The next day I made another one, but took that one out the next day as well. So I was then left with 4again. I now have 6! J For two or three days I tried maintaining it with a crochet hook but I gave up because it took too much timeand I was crap at doing it anyway - Ive also lost two of my mums crochet hooks and Im not looking forward to when she find out! xD
[So, lets end this! Phew, wasnt meaning for this to be so long!]
I keep thinking about going 'natural' and just neglecting my hair (which I have been doing, I havent been brushing or conditioning) but then I get too tempted and started making some - it's just so easy! ~sit at computer; twist, rip, twist, rip. Bored, have nothing to do; twist, rip, twist, rip~ xD
And I'm not sure whether Im going to do my whole head, because, Im not gonna lie, I like my hair and I have an over grown fringe and a top layer, then longer bits. My hair's not even eitherhalf of my head has more hair than the other (dont ask what style I got - God know). So I'm thinking Ill just dread the longer bits...but I cant even 'section' it...I find it too difficult. I dunno, well see how it goes. xD
Tell me what you think!
That is all for now! Thank you for this website, its very useful!
By Cristopher Darscel Revis, 2012-05-31
I'm new to the site. I've only had my dreads for about 3 weeks. I was told today that retwisting isn't the greatest thing to do so i'm going to let it happen naturally. So my question is do i need to sleep with something over my dreads even if i'm forming them naturally?
By Dee4, 2012-05-31
I removed rubber bands today and feel more liberated. My dreadies are going to be two months in a few days think I am going to celebrate and take them out for a day at the beach .. My hair is a total mess but, its part of being a dread head. I love em more and more as the days progress (okthat is not the wholetruth) some days, I want to just take em out because they are so unmanagablebut,Ilet themrest on a tamforthe day and they soon calm down and do not rebel against me.My dreads vary in size from small to large I wanted them that way. I have noticed that two of them have been out growing the rest. I was told that palm rolling is not good but can't kick the habit. No more wax in these babies no more rubber bands and am still looking around for some good shampoo. Also I would like to find inexpensive beads or peyote slip thingies would like to decorate them but not go over board with them.
Pics coming soon so stay tuned.
By Breana, 2012-05-30
By Elizabeth2, 2012-05-29
So it's day 10 of no brushing and no washing, Complete neglect of my hair and I've gotten no where.
My hair is just so straight, So flat and so thin it's just not knotting.
I'd normally be pretty happy about this because I hated brushing out knots lol
Any insight on how to get my hair knotty? Do's and don'ts?
Sure it's got a few knots, But they're just straggly loose knots that don't look like they will be doing much.
It looks good in a hair wrap but not what I want
By Viktorija, 2012-05-27
Okay, so I just finished my dreads yesterday I started them on the 20th...ummmm I think they look pretty good for being so young! lol. However, I used the twist & rip method and my roots are really loose, I'm not worried about them (they should tighten up, right?) but how bad do they need to be before you start worrying about it? If anyone can help it'd be much appreciated. I REALLY love not having to brush my hair anymore, I've hated it ever since I was a kid, but I've always loved having long hair too, dreadlocks seem to be the perfect resolution!
So I figure I'll keep posting pictures every few weeks and really track my dreadlocks progress on here.I read the forums while I was making my dreads, and everyone on here seems really helpful so I'm looking forward to meeting all of you too!