By Maria Tyler, 2013-08-21
Well... it's been almost two months. I had a set-back after the first couple of weeks, and inadvertently conditioned my hair (UGH), and was back to square one. It took me a while to get started again, but here we are.
So, things are going okay. I still have tons of questions and wonder if I am doing this right. It seems that my sections are really small. I try not the let the sections get bigger than 1-1.5 inches on my head, but the dreads are soooooo skinny. But, they are also REALLY weird shapes with all their twists and knots.
Also, I wonder if I am separating too often (every day). If I don't, the dreads all team up and join in with dreads clear across my head!
Also, my hair is dreading in the middle and at the ends, but not near my head. I think that is okay, but should I be putting in beads or anything like that?
Finally, it seems that my head does not want to section in nice "circular" ways, but rather it sections in lines. No matter what I do (try to coerce the sections to be shaped better), it seems that my head would rather have long skinny sections. Does that make sense? Do I need to be worried that my dreads won't be round (or round-ish) but rather they will be flat?
And here is what the majority of the dreads look like. They seem kind of skinny to me (1/8 to 1/4 inch thick in most spots), and they make crazy twists and turns, but I like them! Will they get fatter? Also, I "play" with them all the time. It just feels so cool to run them between my fingers. Is that bad to do? I don't know if I can stop!
FYI, I am using the neglect method. I have not twisted and ripped or anything like that. I just separate. I wash with BS/AV every other day, but I don't really keep the BS in for that long. But... I also go to the ocean a few times a week, so the salt water stays in my hair for a few hours before I wash it, so I'm thinking that might have the same effect .. ???
I will try to give an update next month around the same time. Bye for now!
By ExaltHimx7, 2013-08-16
I'm going to give you guys my personal glimpse of dreads and mature women. Society places such great value on youth and beauty, but I'm here to tell you that mature women are just as lovely. We have learned life lessons that the young have yet to learn; we have seen it, done it, lived it. We have a depth of understanding that only comes with time, age and experience. We are mothers, sisters and wives and we love deeply. We care deeply and we are here for you when you need us'].
I began my journey smack dab in the middle of menopause (*gasp!*). The older I get the more comfortable I've become with my God given self. Dreads fascinated me for years and years, but I was always too self conscious to attempt growing them. I worried about what people in general would think, specifically my Hubby and kids, their teachers, my parents...the list goes on and on. Well, I found the Dreadlock site about 4 years ago and I stalked it for about a year before I joined and took the plunge. I learned the right way to let my hair dread and I met tons of really super people. It's like a big extended family, kind of like a good church']. I grew my dreads for 1.5 years and have never been happier with myself and my hair.
Then came mega hot flashes! UUUgh I had a really hard time with that, and in a nutshell, I ended up cutting my hair and shaved the sides thinking I'd be a lot cooler. Well I wasn't. And I was dreadless. I was so upset with myself and I was really not loving taking care of my hair. I began to re-grow my hair and I am at the point where I am dreading again. Joy Joy Joy!! This time it's for keeps.
We continue to live and learn until our time on Earth is over. Be you, be loving, caring, giving. Be, do, go. Don't hold on tightly to transient things; hold onto people. Hold onto Jesus. In the end that's all that really matters...xoxo
By Salem Haley, 2013-08-15
By stewart, 2013-08-14
By Marcellus Wallace, 2013-08-12
For the longest time, I have been using and promoting the use of dreadlockshampoo.com as they have some real wicked soap (I'm strictly a bar user). Recently however I've come across and tried a bar (ayurvedic) from www.chagrinvalleysoapandsalve.com and I've been extremely satisfied. To me it was important that they used coconut oil as a base, cuz I love coconut oil. My girlfriend however got one of the henna bars (which doesn't use coconut oil) so her hair gets gradually dyed as she uses it. The soap has a slightly different consistency, and is kinda tacky when you first get it wet, but with more water, lathers up. Why did i switch? You get more soap and it costs less, that is really the only reason.
By Rafael Rodriguez, 2013-08-06
Hello everyone, Last night I returned from my three weeks vacation (I have already posted some photos) from the Dominican Republic, places which I originated from. Everywhere I went I noticed how people would stare at me, this was to be expected, even though there were few people in different towns who had dreadlocks from starter, to mature ones. Probably due to a know artist who had them until he went to jail. People there like to copy what they seen on the media sadly.
So I had to compare my own locks to those that I saw and I have to say that most of the ones I saw were started and maintained by twisting method and they looked great, some I couldn't tell if they were natural or just puffed from the beach since I met them in the water.
I was a bit surprised to see so "many" people with dreadlocks (surely less than 20 in total from all the parts of the country I went to). I was already aware of the discrimination there is against dreadlocks, it is so that the government refuses to give the country ID called "Cedula" which is like the state ID but in the Dominican Republic is the same for the whole country, there is no division by county. So if you did not get yours before started your dreadlocks then you would be undocumented until you cut them. Needless to say, I couldn't update mine, last time I was there I had long hair and they updated it but left the old picture with short hair, so this time I didn't even bothered, lucky me they let you use expired IDs. I did went to a bank to exchange currency and I was told I did not look like the person in the picture, I was 16 years old at the time that picture was taken so that is true now that I'm 25. So I just calmly told the rep person to talk to the people in charge of the ID so they can update my picture and she did not bother me about the ID ever again.
So back tot he point, with my mother always trying to talk me into cutting my locs, my sisters and rest of the family joined too, my stepfather who was always supportive of them was also jokingly making fun of mine because they look messy because you couldn't see scalp and all that so I had the temptation of starting to retwist again, taking into consideration hat I need to find a new job too. I did explain to him why my dreads look different from the others and he understood and let the subject alone until the next time it was "teasing hour" (when we get together we tend to tease each other about something to see who gets mad first).
However, I desisted from the idea of retwisting every week. I do twist like once per month a bit on those that try to dread flat since i don't want flat dreadlocks but nothing that would cause hard like pulling too much or twisting too tight. I though about it and my dreads were unique, no one had dreads like mine and that gave me a sense of pride, yes my hair seems to not be growing but it is in fact growing, the longer it gets the better they will look so the messing look is not permanent and I do not like the scalp showing.
So what I'm trying to say is that thanks to this trip I was able to appreciate my dreads even more than before. Here in NYC a lot of people have locs, they all look the same and still look nice but I know mine will look great and be different because of my actions or lack of them.
By Ching-Ching, 2013-08-06
Ive got my locks 2 years ago Finally after searching facts to fixed my decision inside my head i finally had it.
I was so happy and contented with it Such a mesmerizing feeling to free and purify my soul in this way
But as i walk on the street people calling me BobLMAO People who are ignorance about it. They dont think twice in saying such hepocracy in their words
By Cody Galvan, 2013-08-04
By Baba Fats, 2013-08-04
Last week my wife got a call from her high school best friends fiance. He told us that Tempest passed away from complications from a hernia that night. It was a shaking call, since she was only 27 years old. She's left behind 2 kids, 5 and 2. And they need any help they can get.
If you have any extra cash, I know they and my wife would really appreciate your help. Any amount will go a long way. Tempest meant the world to my wife. Neither would have been the person they are without eachother
By ChildrenAtMidnight, 2013-08-04
I've been at this for over 2 months now and haven't given up. I've gotten to the point where I feel apathetic about my hair at times. It almost bothers me but at the same time, I'm kind of glad. I expected that once the joy of doing something new with my hair wore off, I'd be wanting to chop at it again. Instead, I've just become accustom to it. I think I'm happier not having to worry about what my hair looks like all the time. I've found different, easy ways to keep it moderately tame for work and if I feel up to it, I decorate it with scarves and different colours of yarn. It's just really easy.
I'm starting to reach the point where most of my hair is looping up and beginning to congo. Mostly the back, of course. The roots are trying to merge into a giant blob but I've been maintaining it every week or so.
My hair is continuing to grow as well. Surprisingly enough, it's past my shoulders. I guess, I figured the growth would slow down once things started clumping up. Maybe it'll take more time? I guess, I'll find out.
Also forgot to add that I attempted to redye my hair with henna. Due to some apartment related things, I don't think I left it in long enough or maybe the baking soda is ripping it out faster than the chemical dyes. Either way, I may do it again since it's great for moisturizing my hair when it's feeling unhappy.