By California Emmet, 2014-04-23
Yay first blog post hahah. First off I want to start with giving a shoutout to my awesome parents who didn't let me get dreads several years back when I first wanted them because I had no dreaducation (my only source of info was DreadHeadhq) and it would have been a huge mistake to get them then. Also my heart was not in the right place and my motivation was not right I would have cracked after a few weeks of trying to deal with all the crazy stuff that would have gone into them due to being mislead by DreadHeadhq. In fact I did almost decide that I would never get dreads, because I thought the maintenance would be way more than I ever wanted to deal with. And I wanted them purely for their appearance. Of course my parents are still somewhat uncomfortable with the idea of me having dreads but I'm so very thankful they held me back.
Since then I have learned a great deal. First of all its become apparent that my interest in dreads was not just a quickly passing phase as it lasted for years while most of my passing obsessions last only a month. Secondly I have been fairly well dreaducated since and thanks to soaring eagle and some others I have realized the dangers of 'insta-dreads' and the purity and carefreeness of freeform dreads. Lastly, my motivation has changed a lot. I still want them because I think they are beautiful, but that has become one of the lesser reasons. Lately I've been getting into natural living stuff and have given up a great deal of the chemical products I used to use. I have a great desire to be natural and live naturally and I feel like dreads are a part of that. Also I feel the journey and process of it will strengthen my character, make me less self-centered as my appearance takes a backseat, help me break the self-assumed chains that society presents, and draw me closer to God as I more and more cease to seek approval from other people and seek His approval alone.
I am really so thankful to God for leading me to click the link about natural dreads that lead me to this site and for this crazy cool community that is so full of positivity and love. I can't wait to start really getting involved and making some new friends and stuff haha I'm just really excited about it all
By Nathaniel Lopez, 2014-04-22
AH! Im so excited! As I am sure you guess, I am on my 22nd day and I am loving it. There have been crazy days and calm days and i have really been enjoying watching my lock tighten and whatnots. I am loving this site and all my fellow lock lovers out there! I'd like to thank the whole lock community for all the support and advice I have been given over the weeks.
So, I thought anyone who reads this might like a good funny story about locks so here it goes.
Over the last month I have been busy busy busy. Research, gardening (indoor and out), college, helping my two of my best friends enroll on college, and I have barely had a moment to myself! I have even had to start blow drying my hair in the office while I read my research notes and articles just because I dont have the time to stand around in the bathroom. So, The other day I was in a little rush so I had to dry my hair at my desk. I had been keeping my blow dryer under my desk and I didnt really give it any thought. As soon as I sit down I start up my computer, plug in my dryer and turn it on. The first big gust of air hits my face and to my horror, there was a spider in my hair dryer!!! It flies right onto my face and i quickly lose track of it. Flailing around and running about the room screaming, the only thing I could think to do was turn on the dryer super high and blow on everything (As if its really going to do anything aside from scatter my papers all over!). After calming down and making sure that my eight legged friend was gone, I was left with two pieces of wisdom. 1) Always check for spiders! 2) Hot air burns skin and is not good for filed paper work.
Thats my story, hope to enjoyed it.
P.S. I hate spiders...
By Megg, 2014-04-21
My dreads are almost a month old but every time I rinse my hair or get it wet on accident, the middle layer of my hair almost completely undreads. how can I keep this from happening?
By L.D.50, 2014-04-20
Just wanted to talk about it... I know it`s probably one of the dirtiest terms in music history after Glam or Hair Metal. Unfortunately, that happened in 2003 as Nu Metal had its big breakdown, including some of the most shittiest bands of the scene, which was created because of many emotional, honestly angry teens, also known as the "Generation X". Even though I couldn`t be part of this great time, expressing all that I am, at the moment, I learned to openly talk about my sympathy for bands like Korn (before they became sell-outs), Deftones, Mudvayne, Spineshank, Taproot and many more. I recognized that almost every Metal Fanpage (if you could call people "fans" who just criticise without having done any kinda research on the topic) has its "Nu Metal equal shit" blogs. The citics about the genre are obvious: albums which are released every year and are also pretty "clean" (in terms of original sounding...), bands who are simply annoying (pulling out stupid hits about girls, party and violence or just the "poor me" themes), ect. But that`s the reason why I wanna discuss the positive aspects. There you go...
By L.D.50, 2014-04-20
Title says it all, I`m hoping for you sharing your own experiences, opinions or whatever fits into here...
By b foreal man, 2014-04-17
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By Athena G, 2014-04-11
My grandfather(73) passed suddenly on Saturday (4/5/14). This leaves my grandmother(66) alone with three dogs and two cats. She has had multiple health issues her entire life, cannot drive, and has to move around with a cane, but she falls quite frequently. Obviously, I want to do whatever I can to help her during this difficult time.
Having said that, she is a blatant racist, republican (everything is Obama's fault republican), and likes bringing up all the people she has struck as a result of irritating her. And since I am single, living at home, and not tied down by babies, I have been selected to move in with her. I say selected, because this was decided without even asking me how I felt about it. I thought I would be able to find a different solution, mainly because I have lived with her before (before my grandfather passed) and they made it painfully clear they didn't want me there.
But yesterday, while everyone was sobbing and paying their respects at the casket, she asked me if I would be moving in. I never had a choice, and in that moment I couldn't say no. I do want to help her, and I understand WHY I am the perfect (and really only) candidate to move in, but I was never consulted, and they told her before I could even make a decision.
In the midst of not knowing how to handle the passing of my grandfather's death' I'm harboring resentment towards my family. I'm 24, and single for the first time in 10 years. I wanted to start my life this summer, and instead I'll be confined in a home with a bitter old woman whom I have NOTHING in common with other than genetics. That's harsh, but I'm taking a moment to be selfish. I can either become the asshole of the family or become a caged bird. I'm mostly upset that they asked me after they confirmed it, and when I tried to find other alternatives they were shocked, and upon confronting them, they agreed they did it behind my back because there are no other options. "RESISTANCE IS FUTILE!"
I've suggested the alert pendants and care-givers, but those ideas have been rejected.
So I'm asking this dready community for advice.
By Rheana Hayes, 2014-04-10
I have to say that my hair looks messier and closer to dreading in the few pictures I put up during that first week than it does now. The good news is that I have stopped thinking about it. I suppose I will take a picture at around a month just to see if there is any more progress, but right now there isn't much forward movement to show. I have kept up with my spiritual treatments a bit, communing with my hair as an intuitive tool... asking it for good dreams... meditating on the sensation of my hair and scalp, and giving it some Reiki love from time to time. I got my wool hat in the mail finally and I suppose it could be helping a bit. It sleeps good, doubling as an eye mask and staying on my head all night. I have a hard time keeping my hands out of my hair, wanting to tuck it behind my ears and trying to tuck it into the tam. I have longer hair for the first time in many years so it can be irritating feeling it tickle and poke at my shoulders. I try to let the jets in my bathtub form some knots, but they seem to fall out the next day. I'm only salt spraying a couple hours before washing, washing every three days. I'm using the Baking Soda wash now with Dr. Bronners as my standard body soap and bath soak. I think the texture of the baking soda might help the locking minimally. I had strung some shell beads through my hair for a few days, but the shells themselves seem to be shaped like tiny combs. First they broke the hair as if I had backcombed, soon they wanted to slide right out, and finally I let them, seeing that the shape of the shells might be preventing matting after all. Any separations in my hair are too thin to hold a 6mm bead. I opted out of wrapping this early. I wanna make sure I'm doing everything I can to promote the matting process, but it's not in my hands, it's just something that has to do itself. Meanwhile, I forget that my hair is a mess when I go out in public... I carry my head a bit higher as well... as if to say, "No.. I don't brush my hair, and, No, I don't think there's anything wrong with it." I can't say that I haven't been thinking about going through a day of twist and rip or back combing... It's tempting when you have been weeks without brushing and see no change. But then I just remember that man made locks don't lock. If I put my healthy hair through hell by literally ripping it up, it's only going to end in half ass "locks" that will fall apart on me in no time. I have spent three years getting my hair past my shoulders and there's no way I'm going to mutilate it for a hairstyle. I learned after coming to this site and contemplating for a bit that this whole thing isn't about a hairstyle after all. It's about something much less shallow. For now, I'm no longer counting. I can't tell you the number of days of my journey. In a moment, I will check my photos and I will find out how long it's been. If it's been a month, I'll take some pictures. Otherwise, I will quickly dismiss the silly numerical quantification of "dreading," and resume the perspective of simply letting go and letting flow. That's not to say I won't be putting in effort. The spiritual stuff, the salt spray, the wool tam, the baking soda, and with luck some helpful beads.. any other tips or tricks are welcomed and will be put to good use. I will keep doing what I can to encourage, but a big part of doing what I can is forgetting. What I can do is forget. What I can do is no longer count.
By DreadfulWishes, 2014-04-06
Sorry I don't have any pics, but suffice to say that most of may babies are coming along pretty well while others have fallen out completely....
I've continued the baking soda/acv rinse routine - which I love! My hair feels soft and healthy, is very shiny, and has never curled more in my life! Even if I don't stick with dreads forever like I want to, this will probably be a staple for me anyway.
It's just a little frustrating because I feel like things are happening unevenly. I'm a fixer by nature, and seeing some of them stick really well and others go back to simply being curls makes it a bit difficult for me to keep my hands off of them. It's happening particularly right behind my ears. Evereywhere else seems to be doing fine other than some smaller loose strands that I'm trying to encourage back into the more solid dreads. I'm really worried about accidentally running my fingers through the ones that have completely fallen out and pulling them apart even more. Any suggestions on how to avoid this? Or is it just a habit that needs to form?
Also - sometimes after showering, or even at random times during the day, I'll pull my hair off of my shoulders or something similar and somehow pull like 10 or more hairs loose at the same time. Sometimes there are also partially loose hairs that stick out 3 and 4 inches from the bottom of my dreads. In these situations would it be better to cut off the loose hair where the other hair stops? Leave it? Pull them out? I feel like this is probably contributing to some of them coming loose because I must be pulling out some of the structure of the dreads.....
Everything outside of that seems to be moving along alright! I'll take some pictures soon so I can have references to what I'm actually talking about
Love and Peace -