ok so im gonna start this thing with a heya n hows it goin. im great thanx for asking..hehehe.. So im gonna admit i am an extremely vain person,i stress about my hair ..weight..pimples..everything.let me give u a lil back story...in elementary school i was the girl with big teeth..ratty hair ..hand me down clothes..by highschool i had finally grown into my teeth n face for that matter however something else grew as well...no no not what u think,,my hips ..still very tiny up top (didnt get those til i had kids) i felt like i was the only girl who had the bottom half of a woman yet the top half of a child..i started wearin jncos(yea yall remember those) big shirts i became one of the guys to all my highschool friends ..i dated guys way above my age..then came the eating disorders. lets move ahead some years to the moment i met my husband...quiet soft spoken gentle modest..i had inch long orange hair ..loud n boisterious yet he saw something in me that even i at that time didnt see.now we r married two kids livin the dream (i guess)..so when i told him i wanted dreads he looked me in the eyes and said 'ok when do u want to start' no drama at all(why i love him so much)..i thought i wanted to have them done by someone..i even thought i wanted them uniformed however im on my 5th day no brushing and i love my nappies ..i was scared that i would fuss about them and want them to be perfect but they are perfect the way they are..i initially wanted dreads because of how they looked..no religion or spiritual reasoning at all..now i think no i know i want them to be free...free of stereotypes n pressure to be a certain way..the other morning i was takin a shower for work n when i got out my husband was standing there ..he watched me get dressed..he noted that i didnt brush my hair and he kissed my neck and told me i was beautiful even with my tangled knots...Moral of this story....i know this journey is going to change me and probably change how i raise my girls..we r all beautiful in our own way...thanx guys for listening to me babble along like a brook