Thanks...but no thanks.
So... just came back from the salon to pick up my sister. The place is owned by a nice woman who used to do my hair until I went natural. I know she's well meaning, but every time she sees my hair, like many other people I encounter, she can't understand why I'm just letting it be. She sees loops and bumps and wonders why would I let my nice hair just go like that?Well, here's why. What I've realized over the years going from relaxer to natural to freeforming is that my hair doesn't like to be messed with. When I tried to get my hair interlocked, sure it was more orderly and "neater", but did it fit me as a person? No. A lot of people I meet seem to feel that locs are either a) dangerous b) deviant or c) disgusting, especially if you are not getting them regularly retwisted and maintained. I wish I could have told her the dangers of retwisting and interlocking (I was lucky to not get my hair or scalp damaged because I took them out).Dreadlocks are seen as something that needs to be tamed, controlled, and 'kept in there place'. Why? I like letting my locs grow and shrink, bump and grind, and find their own way. Does it take longer? No doubt. But it has given me a feeling of self-confidence that I have not felt in years. Ideally, I wouldn't trade that of anything.