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New Beginnings

2012-10-25
By: Michelle4
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Namaste all,

So lately I have been feeling completely isolated in my corner of the universe. I am starting to see that I have drifted from most of my friends in the past years that I have been in a relationship. I work the third shift for a very large chain (boo) of bakery cafes. I spend about 90% of my time alone, between baking solo every night and coming home alone to my tiny farmhouse (that I love). I have very little ties here in this town, and my heart tells me that it is time to move on. The benefit to working for the crap company that I do, is that they are everywhere and relocating is incredibly possible. So I guess what I am getting at here is has anyone ever just up and left, started over in a town where you do not know a soul? Is it worth it? Part of me feels like things never really change, if I am feeling alone here then I will really feel alone somewhere else, so why bother? Also, mostly where I live people are kind of clueless to the important things in life, to each his own but maybe if I moved with more like minded folks I could be happier. I know that this is something that many people consider doing, and only a few are bold enough...

Also, how do you decide where to go? Just blindly point to a spot on a map?

Thanks for reading :)

Michelle4
10/26/12 11:42:29AM @michelle4:

Star, your current situation sounds much like mine, and I feel like I miss Corvallis and I have not visited there. You folks are all so inspiring, so it is set...New years resolution: get outta here! Just have to make it through the holidays and save every cent :) Whether it is WV or OR, or wherever I can't wait.

:)


ginger.rose
10/25/12 11:25:41PM @gingerrose:
Yes, moving when drawn to move can be incredibly rewarding. And yes, sometimes the same issues resurface, but at least you get a fresh view on them, and meet some new folks to share the ride.

Star Gryphon
10/25/12 08:43:10PM @star-gryphon:

I do like Oregon...but...parts of it are better than others. I just moved back to Portland after living in the wonderful town of Corvallis. Corvallis has a local food Co-op with 2 locations, a year round farmers market, a focus on local business and sustainable economy by focus on making things local versus importing them. It houses OSU and has a pretty decent sized dready community. Most of whom are that way by neglect method. I miss it!

Now...I live in the grey area at the edge of Ptown and one of it's "suburb" cities, Gresham. In the last 7 years it's changed for the worse. I live very close to our light rail transportation line that takes you right into downtown. Because of the gentrification of what was traditionally the ghetto, because of it's close proximity to the city center, the people living there were pushed out here. Unfortunately, this means they brought with them their gangs and general way they were used to living their lives.

The economy has forced closed businesses all over. It seems like everywhere you go there are empty retail buildings.

When I was growing up in this neighborhood it was easy to run off to the grocery store and bring mom home things she needed. It was a 15 minute walk. That grocery store was forced out of business due to the high volumes of theft and then an increase in rent when property was sold to a new owner. That building has now sat empty for more than 2 years. I work in this shopping mall at one of two "lottery lounges" and are placed right next door to each other. The other businesses are a liquor store, a Cricket wireless, a little Ceaser's Pizza, a laundry mat, rent a center, rite aid, salon, subway and a postal annex. There used to be a weight watchers there too....but they left very quickly after the huge drug dealer bust that didn't actually stop all the deals that still go on every day.

The nearest grocery store is 30 blocks away now after the other close one went out of business as well. But, I don't know how many different businesses that have come and gone from that building in the last 15 years. These two places are like polar opposites. Urban sprawl here makes it difficult to live without a car. The only forms of entertainment that is within walking distance of my house is a coffee shop that closes by 6 pm, a hooka shop that looks like prostitutes are working the front, lottery lounges, a few bars and a strip joint.

This sorta neighborhood sorta keeps you secluded in your own house if those aren't your type of thing.

The thing I miss the most is live music venues. Of course this is just my own personal favorite past time. I would especially love to have an all ages venue within walking distance.

I personally think that seeking out and moving to a new place could be good for you. You can write a list of things that are important to you for personal happiness and make sure that the new community that you move to takes care of these needs.

Starting over in a new place also has the benefit that people don't know you and first impressions really are a huge thing!

Anyway...good luck!

I can't wait until I can get out of this pit of poison I currently live in....


☮ soaring eagle ॐ
10/25/12 07:49:07PM @soaring-eagle:

try cheaolandinamerica.com

byt yiur ru[ight the cheap lands hard to grow anything on high dessert basicly

i may join u in rockridge ridge rock rockwiood whatever it is haha


Michelle4
10/25/12 07:25:09PM @michelle4:

yes! landwatch is a very decent site i've been pricing land on, and while you can have tons o land in WY TX or OK it is all so desolate and treeless :( I am definitely going to have to look in to ridgerockville... While I have it kind of made at my job now I do not want to slave there forever and want to go as cheap as possible to have minimal debts... The houses around here going for 14k are in the heart of East St Louis with boarded windows and doors. PS East St Louis is an incredibly sad place to go, avoid at all costs!!!

It is good to finally start to feel the reality that I do not have to be stuck in this rut anymore!


☮ soaring eagle ॐ
10/25/12 07:16:28PM @soaring-eagle:

ridgerock rockville whatever the name of the town is u can get a 40 room bread and breakfast fir..40k most houses are ariund 14k

super cheap

theres 1 and only 1 realtor there rainbow weaver (deborah dourland) she takes no commission onhiuses sold either

colorodos beautu=iful but the more habitable area are a lil expensive if you dont mind high altitude riughing it u can get land very cheap

the cheapest land is in wt=yoming noe=rth dakota texas and oklog]homa

all having drawbacks but 160 acres for 10k is a amazing price


Michelle4
10/25/12 07:05:10PM @michelle4:

Currently I live near St Louis, MO which does happen to be one of the least friendly cities that I have experienced, but due to my ties to "The Man" I haven't been able to travel and explore new areas as much as I'd like. I try to go at least once a year on an adventure doing a mini version of leaving and starting over, but I don't have enough time to get the full effect. Cali and NYC are not for me, I am a lover of the land and would have to live somewhere that is not too over populated, and while I have respect for those capable of dumpster living I'm not sure that I would like to leave here for that. I've been to Asheville a few times volunteering for Habitat for Humanity but it seems a little costly, at least in town. Definitely a welcoming place, and definitely love it there though. I've been looking at land in WV, I have found some great deals and it is just beautiful. I so appreciate the responses from you guys.

Change is uncomfortable and one of the easiest things to procrastinate, but it is the only way to move forward and I am ready for that.


Tazz
10/25/12 07:03:26PM @tazz:

i quite love ny myself. i will agree it can be quite expensive. i find nyc quite safe depending on the area like anywhere else. depends on what you are looking for? more outdoorsy a place? a city life? type of music scene?


☮ soaring eagle ॐ
10/25/12 06:46:32PM @soaring-eagle:

no nyc and cali both are bad ideas nyc is so overcrowded and dangerouse and depressing

cali and nyc are soooo expensive

san frans a popular destination for hippie types but almost all who up and move there now live behind a dumpster addicted to herion and prositute themselves to get by

oregons awesome

new orleans is awesome and cheap but annoyo]ing duru[ing madri grass

ashville nc is cool

theres a rainbow town in wv rockville oi think it iss

the mesa near taos is beautiful colorado is no=ice too

nyc is niceto visit fir a day but no way id ever wabt to live there


☮ soaring eagle ॐ
10/25/12 06:41:45PM @soaring-eagle:

some areas will be worse others u get there and feel at home instantly if you havent traveled to get hthe feel of towns and ares picking is hardeer yto do but u can get recomendations from those who been there done that

where are u now?


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