Location: Atco, NJ
By Kym2, 2013-07-15
When I first asked family how they thought I would look in dread locks the looks of horror I received were disturbing. At first I cared, somewhat, then I thought 'wait a second' I am almost 46! I'm a independent, free thinking, feminist woman! Who the hell cares what other people think?
I've always wanted dread locks. For as long as I can remember. But I've
had short hair for many years, so I never considered it an option. A couple of years ago I let me hair grow longer. And this month I found it to be a length I found comfortable having dreads in. I spent a good month prior researching dread locks online. Different dread forms, maintenance, styles, washing.
I settled on natural or neglect form dreads with some twist and rip to get themkick-started. I stopped combing my hair for a few days and WOW what a difference that made! My hair was so full and pretty!
More importantly, I was asking myself 'why?' Why dreads now?
As I age I want to set a reminder for myself to let go of beauty standards. I let go of the body standards, so why not beauty? Beauty is within, not on the outside. I shine from the inside! I want to live a more natural life. I became a vegetarian many months ago, quit smoking last year and I want my outward appearance to match how I am feeling on the inside.
I don't want to have to brush my hair anymore!! I don't want to have to straighten it or worry about the grey coming in!! I want to be free of the society pressures of how I am "supposed" to look!! I want to just "be".
I'm good with the dread process. I know there will be days where my hair will be frizzy, crazy, mean, wild and crappy. But that is part of the process and I accept that and am fine with it. I have given myself over to that process.
I am learning the true meaning of peace.