dreading the 1st few weeks of dreading

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Permalink Reply by Iain on September 15, 2009 at 1:21am

haha, I remember a couple time thinking that maybe starting dreads was a bad idea, usually when I would look in the mirror I liked how they looked, cept maybe on the sides,

after having them for awhile, I completely love them over my older hair, especially now that I'm noticing its growth. and the numerous changes they've made.

I get a lot of random people that say things like "love the dreads" *and the weird questions "do you ever wash it?"*

but i gotta say I'm glad I didn't lose my conviction and stayed with it.
well that and I don't think I could ever go back to having short hair.

but I don't think its entirely accurate to say that even someone going the natural route the first time through wouldn't freak out about the early stages, I know I did, and a friend of mine who did it natural with her current set, it can just get discouraging,
just gotta remember its inevitable for it to all work out. and you have to go into it knowing that.
I had a younger friend of mine who backcombed all his hair , then took it out the next day or 2 cause his girlfriend gave him shit and he gave up, then asked me to help him next time he did it. of course I tried to remind him of that, its just weird that some people don't realize that this isn't just a simple hair style.
anyway I don't wanna ramble anymore :)

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Permalink Reply by ☮soaringeagleॐ on September 15, 2009 at 2:40am

true its just most who go natural expect a long crazy trip they dont expect perfection iin a day so they dont get as disapointed when a hair slips or a loop forms
they become more fascinated with the changes instead of freaking over every lil thing

its a generality though i remember 1 guy 1 week into natural wondering what he was doing wrong cause they werent totaly dreaded already

Iain said:

haha, I remember a couple time thinking that maybe starting dreads was a bad idea, usually when I would look in the mirror I liked how they looked, cept maybe on the sides,

after having them for awhile, I completely love them over my older hair, especially now that I'm noticing its growth. and the numerous changes they've made.

I get a lot of random people that say things like "love the dreads" *and the weird questions "do you ever wash it?"*

but i gotta say I'm glad I didn't lose my conviction and stayed with it.
well that and I don't think I could ever go back to having short hair.

but I don't think its entirely accurate to say that even someone going the natural route the first time through wouldn't freak out about the early stages, I know I did, and a friend of mine who did it natural with her current set, it can just get discouraging,
just gotta remember its inevitable for it to all work out. and you have to go into it knowing that.
I had a younger friend of mine who backcombed all his hair , then took it out the next day or 2 cause his girlfriend gave him shit and he gave up, then asked me to help him next time he did it. of course I tried to remind him of that, its just weird that some people don't realize that this isn't just a simple hair style.
anyway I don't wanna ramble anymore :)

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Permalink Reply by RBN on September 15, 2009 at 5:23pm

i would like to thank SE for starting this discussion, and Iain for replying as well. because i was starting to feel that my dreads arent good enough (looked in the mirror today lol) because they are very very frizzy. i have had them for just over a month. i know that they're meant to be frizzy but i cant help but just notice how frizzy they really are. i know that in a year i will look back at this and think that i am being silly right now because its all gonna work out fine lol.

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Permalink Reply by ☮soaringeagleॐ on September 15, 2009 at 5:33pm

see thats just it backcombers starrt off with something and everythinbg like fuzz seejnms like a step backwards not forwareds while natural u start off with nothing and the 1st sign of seperatings a magical leap forward,.thenj a knot..oh yea here we go baby then a straggly lil funky dread and ya know yoiur going good..others wilol look at ya and say oh they look crappy you should do____ but you know your on the right path cause u see em changing all the time..the funky lil dread becomes thicker tighter more dreads foerm u still have loose hairs and your told to crochet but why you know nothings wrong and soon those will become more dreads..you know youir doing right cause all u see is forward progress
Roman Turaev said:

i would like to thank SE for starting this discussion, and Iain for replying as well. because i was starting to feel that my dreads arent good enough (looked in the mirror today lol) because they are very very frizzy. i have had them for just over a month. i know that they're meant to be frizzy but i cant help but just notice how frizzy they really are. i know that in a year i will look back at this and think that i am being silly right now because its all gonna work out fine lol.

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Permalink Reply by J.D. on September 15, 2009 at 6:34pm

yes i would like to thank you SE for starting this. do you get annoyed by questions?

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Permalink Reply by ☮soaringeagleॐ on September 15, 2009 at 6:39pm

would i create a sitre like this if i was annoyed by questions?


J.D. said:

yes i would like to thank you SE for starting this. do you get annoyed by questions?

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Permalink Reply by J.D. on September 15, 2009 at 7:05pm

i guess not. the way you sounded in the original post just made me think that you were annoyed

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Permalink Reply by Iain on September 15, 2009 at 8:52pm

you know I didn't really think about it that way, but you do kinda take a step back for awhile with non-natural dreads, kinda doesn't do you any psychological favors when you see that manual labor begin to un-knot in the infancy stages.

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Permalink Reply by ☮soaringeagleॐ on September 15, 2009 at 9:02pm

im used to ppl from the 1st day they backcombed beijng in constant pannic mode..critik for innstance met him on another forum, had to give him my im and spend hours a day every day from day 1 getting him to relax and go with the flow..

in a way to me forums liker this are a by product of the whole "made" dreads trend of today..when i began mine ..all i knew was stop brushing and dreads happen.. after that i never had 1 question i needed an answer to
i never cared what soap wwas best i never cared about loose hairs otr roots or tips or bumps or ..anything..i askes 1 question of 1 guy only..got the answer stop brushing and tht was thwt..
i never thought of reading up on it..i never thought of going to a salon to get it done right..
it seems to me that these sites that offer a easy way to dread have made ir so complicated that noone can understand how it just happends without effort..and so not everything they do on theyree own seems like somrthing you gotta fix insread of just part of how they become dreads..


im too sleep deprived to type srry

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Permalink Reply by Iain on September 20, 2009 at 5:10pm

lol it's all good, :)

in a way though the fact that more people are becoming open to the idea of living with dreadlocks is a good thing as in time I think that less people will have to worry about "ohh if I start to dread my hair i won't be able to get a job" or my family will disown or even the stupid stereotype that dreads are dirty.

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Permalink Reply by Knottysleeves on September 20, 2009 at 11:03pm

Yeah, when I started my first set I was constantly anxious about how they were developing and whether they "looked right" and that I wasn't doing enough maintenance / daily care and so on. But that's because I used wax and believed all the stuff they tell you about re-waxing and daily palmrolling and blah blah blah... once I gave up on that and just let my hair do its own thing, the dreads started happening on their own.

I was much less apprehensive when I started my second set. Now it's been almost a year & a half, and I can't believe how quickly it's gone... and I can barely remember any of the worries I went through in the first few months!

Just give up trying to control the process -- this is the hardest part, much harder for some people (like me) than others, LOL. Once you do that and trust your hair to do its own thing, you'll be surprised how well your dreads develop, and you'll love them no matter how they look.

Besides, on those "ugh, they look like crap" days, you can always hide them in a tam or wrap. :-)

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Permalink Reply by ☮soaringeagleॐ on September 20, 2009 at 11:09pm

well said
me on the other hand i was so sick and tired of having to do stuff to me hair i totaly embraced the do nothing attitude from day 1 set 1

and yea looking back at when they started it seemed like 1 day i was dreadless a few days later i hads dreads and it took years to figure out the point where 1 period ended and the other began ..i was in vermont and stuck a few beads in and had dreads before i made it home

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