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lisasimpson
@lisasimpson
06/20/11 01:55:31PM
19 posts

Dreadlocks Emotional Journey


Life Issues Facing Dreads

I almost posted this under "help save my dreads" because maybe the solution to my problem is to remove them?

My dreadlocks are more a part of me than just hair. They feel like my roots to the world at times. That's why, when I started them, they represented an outward act of love for my self. After struggling with turning 30 for a few months I decided to dread. My biggest struggles seem to center around the lack of love in my life, and I figured the only way I was going to get love is from myself (insert masturbation joke here). I was really starting to reach a point in my life of acceptance, accepting who I am and how my past has shaped me and how to forge a future with what I've been given. I really felt like I've been a dreadie all along but without the locks to show for it, and I was just becoming more myself. Dreading was not only a loving gift to myself, it was one other people could see, one that I could wear proudly, like a woman wears an engagement ring or the guy with his sports car. I loved myself, which we all know isn't the easiest thing to achieve sometimes.

Immediately after starting my dreads I met someone. I instantly felt connected to this person, like everything else became dim next to his brightness and I simply could not look away, I was drawn like a moth to the flame. I didn't know what love could be until I met him. I felt like I was made for this person, and he was made for me. I felt grateful to his parents for birthing him, for crying out loud. I am known to feel things deeply, but I have never felt so much love for another person. When I told him I loved him for the first time I wasn't even aware I was saying it until it was coming out my mouth. I felt like I had met my match, my soul mate, my best friend, my life partner. I didn't even try to save a little love for myself, I gave him every last bit.... and there's my problem.

Yup. He dumped me.

Now I'm not in a good place. In fact I'm not dealing with the breakup well at all. I can't seem to find any love for myself anywhere inside of me. And I'm wearing these locks every day, I can't just take them off until I feel better. And I also have the unfortunate circumstance that my dreads basically formed while I was in this relationship. All my beads are connected to him somehow, all the reasons I do what I do with my hair are because of his advice, I almost feel like they are our dreads and not mine, that I didn't grow them myself? I know that sounds crazy.

I keep thinking I should take them out until I feel love again. I also keep thinking I shouldn't do anything crazy just because I got dumped. I don't know if anyone has any good words of wisdom, maybe a story of their own dreadlocks emotional journey.... have you restarted your dreads for similar reasons? Maybe you just have something nice to say to help bring some love and light back into my life.

This is long. Thanks for reading.


updated by @lisasimpson: 02/14/15 05:44:49AM
lisasimpson
@lisasimpson
06/18/11 10:48:20AM
19 posts

UPDATE: 19 months- Backcombed


Member Journals and Timelines

Looks like we started our dreads around the same time... January? Nice job, they look amazing!
lisasimpson
@lisasimpson
07/09/11 12:08:56AM
19 posts

white people with dreadlocks


History and Religious Significance

Yea currently my youtube channel is taking some heat because I'm white and have dreadlocks. Their arguments are ignorant and their hatred is strong.

I didn't even bother trying to argue with them but maybe I will give them a link to this section of the forums.

YES IT IS RACIST TO HATE ON A PERSON WITH DREADLOCKS SIMPLY BECAUSE THEIR SKIN ISN'T DARK ENOUGH FOR YOU. ANYONE CAN BE A RACIST A-HOLE.

lisasimpson
@lisasimpson
02/17/11 04:54:15PM
19 posts

Combining shampoos


Dread Products

Is it winter where you are? Your head tends to produce less oils in the colder weather so you don't need to wash as often. I was starting to get flaky after never having dandruff in my life! I was washing with either warm water with a cool water rinse, or diluted Dr Bronners. I started doing the baking soda/oils and apple cider vinegar rinses (plus a good warm water rinse followed by a cool water rinse) and my scalp does not itch and its actually (slowly) working away the flakes that formed. I was hesitant to try the bs/acv rinses at first, but now that I have done it I am so thankful.

I do encourage you to try it two or three times and see if it doesn't help!

lisasimpson
@lisasimpson
02/04/11 08:16:00PM
19 posts

If It Can Get Tangled, It Will Get Tangled.


Dreading Methods

It's science! It has been proven that heaps of string or hair will inevitably tangle.

The 2008 Ig Nobel Physics prize went to Dorian M. Raymer and Douglas E. Smith for scientifically proving that if it can get tangled it will get tangled! Hair, rope, or string, plus a little agitation, causes a wide variety of knots to form. The conclusion I draw here is that you don't need to do anything and your hair will knot on it's own, provided there's a little agitation in the picture somewhere. And that's scientifically proven.

The actual paper, if you are so inclined...

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2034230/?tool=pmcentrez


updated by @lisasimpson: 01/13/15 08:55:03PM
lisasimpson
@lisasimpson
02/03/11 10:43:42PM
19 posts

food smell


General Questions

Change jobs? Subway is NOTORIOUS for making you smell like bread and onions. I worked at Subway for years so I speak from experience.

Wear a shower cap under your hat?

lisasimpson
@lisasimpson
02/03/11 02:23:03AM
19 posts

Ever Count Your Locks?


Introduce Yourself

Hi, my name's Beccah aka lisasimpson and I am totally new to this site. I post videos on youtube under the name lisasimpson and I started my dreadlocks January 19 and 20, 2011 so they are only 2 weeks old at the moment.

Here's the thing. As soon as my dreads were started, I made a youtube video introducing my locks to the world. It was my first day with finished dreads, so I wanted to know how many I had on my head!

I received comments and emails that I am weird, that most dreadies don't know how many dreadlocks they have on their head. Am I strange for counting my locks? Do you know how many you have?

Anyway, thanks everyone for the warm welcome to the site! *hugs*


updated by @lisasimpson: 01/13/15 08:54:56PM
lisasimpson
@lisasimpson
02/01/11 12:11:23PM
19 posts

cutting dreads? donate to cancer patients


General Talk

What a killer organization! I personally know a girl with cancer who would LOVE a dreadlock wig. She's fighting SO hard. Just know that if you are awesome enough to donate your locks, they truly do mean the world to the folks who receive them.
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