1 year and still no dreads
Help! Save My Dreads
Hey everyone... me again.
Ok so it's been a couple months since my frantic and desperate plea for help here. I've taken everyone's advice and I've learned some things along the way.
#1 thing I figured out is that when I said I was continuing to backcomb over the period of a year, it was because I had complete sections of hair that weren't doing ANYTHING. Not dreading AT ALL. So, that led me to continue backcombing only those sections.
#2 I think my hair is too silky for this. At this point I've got about 3 dreads that look decent. The rest are terrible with loops and loose hairs and just refusing to lock, only knot in an ugly way. Near the roots are just puffy and sticking out everywhere and it's just not locking.
So before I go on, I want everyone to think about this. Imagine you are faced with someone whom you've been following for over a year and you finally look at her and say 'ok I get it. You're the exception to every rule!!' I think that would be me.
So what should I do? Being that I do have a few that look right, I still have hope. I've been apple cidering and leaving the ones alone that are doing whatever they are doing. I've still got sections that are completely free of knots or locking...just straight, loose, long hair.
I'd like to let you all know that for me, leaving it alone does not help. I've just read another forum post by a guy who seemed to be in the exact boat as me. I understand that for most of you the general rule is to backcomb at first, leave them alone and that's that. For me, and apparently that other guy, I really don't think we're doing anything wrong, we just need a different tactic. I hear that it's not rocket science, but for me, it just might be.
When I look at other people with dreads, I'm all about the awesome, neat, great looking ones, but I like the all over the place crazy ones, too. I'd be happy with either. I'm not sure anyone in their right mind would consider mine 'dreads'. It just looks like I haven't combed my hair in over a year.
Does anyone have advice that goes beyond what you'd tell a dread newbie? Let's pull out the big guns and see if you guys can help me figure this out.