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Henna coloring with dreads- feedback and advice appreciated!

Dreadlock Styles and Dread Styling

Background- I want to dye my hair red, not orange but a little orangy is ok. I am getting married soon though, so because of how long henna takes to 'oxidize' I am wanting to get it done so the final color is out and it doesn't change more before the wedding. Wedding colors are gold and red, so will match well I think.

My hair color is mousy-brown with a lot of sun kissed blond parts due to my hair being easily lightened with sunlight. It's very multicolored all throughout because before locking up my hair already had summer blond in it. You can see my original color in these pics near my testers and also in my albums.

So I am testing some henna on hair, I tried a few mixes (water and henna only, half water half lemon juice and henna and lemon juice and henna.) I was thinking about tossing in just the smallest amount of indigo for a deeper color or more burgundy color but I was afraid of it becoming black or dark brown and when you go dark with henna and indigo you can't really go back from what I've read.

Anyway, here are some pics. First 2 are right after henna first time (I only tested 2 locks at first) one is hard to see, on the far right of the picture (I am not good at aiming the picture at myself)

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The second pics are of after the henna had a chance to "oxidize"

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and these attached pics are after a second application of henna on those locks and a third lock with a first application of lemon juice only henna mixture (first day)

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Essentially my questions are if there is a way to get a more red result than orange (second ap may prove to be so but can't tell yet) and I had read that test sets often are not nearly the same as full head applications as when it's full head there is more saturation and heat (I didn't heat up the henna while it was on my head for test) - also, will a red- or orange if it turns out to be so, look bad with my coloring? I am not a ginger (I don't have loads of freckles) but I do have green eyes, which sorta goes with red. I normally don't care about what other people think about how I look but with the upcoming wedding I don't want to be orange. Wedding is at valley of fire state park in Nevada (which has red stones and gold sand, hence the colors for the wedding, and the red is a bit orangy, so orange is OK if it's not too bright). I just want a dramatic and vibrant color but not brassy orange and I'm wondering if that's possible or will look ok with my skin tone and other coloring... I don't often ask other people about what they think about how I'll look with something, but the dreadlockssite forum is different, I trust the opinions of other dreadies and natural product users.

Thanks for any input.

updated by @tatyananashi: 01/13/15 09:12:56PM

Still facing ignorance, and it's irritating...

Life Issues Facing Dreads

I am going to put it on review sites, it's just that there are so many out there and I don't know which people actually read.

The letter my partner wrote was to the head of the practice, so hopefully he will at least be made aware of the problems.

I was so shocked by it that I didn't know what to say or do, in all the times I've had my locks in all their stages I usually only heard rude things from older family members and the like. Never someone at a business though.

I doubt the next doctor I go to will be that way, but I think if it does happen again I will be more confident to just adress it right away versus being stunned andconfused.

Funny thing I cheered myself up afterjust thinking about talking it out on this site, cuz I know I have support here!

soaringeagle said:

every dr i ever been to treatted me better rthen theire conservative patients well except in oregon they sucked there

ppl do read reviews online

hes also registered with the bbb im sure

and unless he owns the practice he answers to others so i would call the office and file a complaint there as well

personaly i would not take it i would refuse to leave till he came back treatted me with respect and gave me the proper script

actualy had to do that in nyc worse experience ever!

Still facing ignorance, and it's irritating...

Life Issues Facing Dreads

So, haven't been on in a while guys, sorry! Been very busy with school and life in general. The other day, though, I experienced something that made me want to log on and rant right away.

I have an HMO insurance plan because it is the cheapest (lame). Because of the way they work I am assigned a doctor, I don't really get to choose, it's a little irritating. I hadn't been to the doctor in a while so I went for just a regular check up and to get some more inhalers for my asthma (I don't often use them but I should have them around for emergencies). My partner came with me as my ride and because I don't like new doctors.

Anyway, the doctor came in to the office, I told him I just was needing a refill inhaler script. He looked at me and commented about my piercings (I warned him I had a septum piercing in when he looked in my nose and he said "yeah you have piercings everywhere" in a negative tone.) but whatever, no biggie, maybe I only thought the tone was negative and it is just my own mind taking it this way. Well after that he grabbed and tugged on one of my locks and said "what the hell is going on here?" in a disgusted tone. He gave me a *prewritten* script for flonase (Not what I need, I don't have allergies, I have asthma. I am actually lucky not to have allergies, as it would probably make my asthma worse). He never gave me my asthma perscription and he walked out. I was so taken aback by it and so offended I wanted to cry (also because according to my partner he rolled my eyes when I spoke).

I have been to a few different doctors since I started my locks, and even when they were looking quite messy (loop phase, etc) I have never been treated so shitty. I was really surprised, because I now have quite formed locks (a few weeks shy of a year now, but they've looked very 'locked up' for almost 5 months) and I know it's not a mystery what is going on with my hair. I usually don't give a shit when someone says something like that but I feel like a doctor ignoring me, judging me and treating me this was is just, rude.

The worst part is there's really nothing I can do. My partner wrote a very polite letter explaining the lack of care and professionalism (I wouldn't have been polite so I left that up to him so I wouldn't blow up and make them ignore my letter) and I called my insurance to change my primary care provider. I am going to write some reviews online for him but who reads reviews on doctors? I hope it does help people avoid someone who is clearly working for the pharm industry (I had no need for flonase, he had a whole script pad with flonase written on each one as far as I could tell. PRE WRITTEN!!). And unfortuantely I have to wait till the following month for my doctor change to go into effect. I did mention the super rude treatment and unprofessional behavior to the insurance company, but I'm sure they don't care either.

I honestly never usually get flack for the way I am. Sure, older people might say they don't care for the way I look, but I expect it from like old family members (the same ones who are ok with something like tanning, dying hair, straightening hair, as long as it's a cultural norm, etc) but normally I get complements on my hair, or people asking where I got it done (Which I love answering MYSELF. Hair does this if you leave it long enough). I know people are entitled to their opinions and they can have them, fine, but for a doctor to treat me like I was a bum or something? (clearly I'm not, but even if I was, rudeness is not ok, you might be a doctor but you still have to have reasonable customer service).

Also I know he was a fucking idiot because he had to get out some dumb chart to look for the name of the part he was trying to tell me the flonase would help with. Dumb ass fucker. I am still irritated, and this is probably just now a pointless rant, but I just had to let it out to people who will understand it.

updated by @tatyananashi: 01/13/15 09:01:30PM

Winter and Dreads

Dread Maintenance

yeah aloe can grow indoors pretty well, just keep them near a window so they can get some sunlight, especially in the winter when the amount of daylight is limited.

here i am again.

General Questions

I have about 37 dreads that I started myself and 7 months in after loop stage and shrinkage stage they're fairly well formed and apart from a few newly forming baby dreads ( from Congo ripping loose hairs that didn't fit in nearby dreads and started to firm their own) most of mine are medium to fat. My biggest one is at the nape of my neck and is about as thick around as a broomstick. Other big ones nearby are about 2/3 the size and the most common size (my medium locks) are about as thick as a sharpy permanent marker (bigger than a pencil and too big for standard wooden beads with the holes filed out ad much as reasonably possible). I have maybe 5 "thin" ones (besides the babies) and they're about the size of a pencil. So 30 would probably give you the extra large and large ones, but keep in mind they'll start out thinner and stretchier at first, mine got fat during the end of loopy stage to the shrinkage stage. Also my hair is very fine, if you have thick texture then they may be even bigger. Check out my profile timeline album to see how they started with me and how they are now at 7 months (warning: my shrinkage was drastic). I know of one user on this forum with major fattie dreads and he has 23.

Style my dreads please...

Dreadlock Styles and Dread Styling

OMG I wish I wasclose so I could help! I always have ideas for how I would put my dreads up and around if they were longer, and your hair would be so fun to style. I love it!

I agree, something fun more than up would be more interesting, so I'm thinking depending on how you're sectioned you can sort of weave up and through and around the dreads all around your head. I've seen some good updos on this site. I prefer entropy, organized chaos for updos. It looks so fun but not so disheveled that it looks unkept. My dreads are so short (shrinkage) otherwise I'd do some styles and take pics to show.

I found some stuff online in pictures, my favorite is the sort of back and forth through around over and through just basket weaved loose styles. Tight styles look painful and impossible, most are on women with sisterlocks. Most pictures of updos are on women, but I am sure most will look good on a man too! Here's what I found:

goin natural...Have patience but whats up?

Dreading Methods

I never wore a wool tam or anything, but I know most people who do neglect give it a chance to help things along. I think it helps more because it keeps your hair in one area so it can tangle than anything else.

How did you hair tangle previously to starting? Like me for instance would get unintentional locks from going out on a windy day, driving with the windows open, swimming, and really anything I did, regardless of the fanciest, most expensive most effective claimed conditioners. My hair decided for me. I have a sister who doesn't have to brush her hair or use conditioner ever, her hair is just tangle free, it is her genetics.

I personally find that following the BS with ACV helps: I had some short (maybe 2-4 inches) small clumps of hair that were loose from coming out through congo ripping, and didn't really fit in any dread nearby so I was hoping they'd dread on their own (I was making them into tiny braids until I felt they were long enough). I thought if I did just bs it would happen: nothing. I thought maybe bs and some salt water (it had been recommended to me) and again nothing. So I just went back to doing my BS/ACV how I do and a few hours after my shower before my hair was fully dry I noticed those sections were knotting together. I know people say ACV is conditioning, but it's more like balancing than conditioning. It isn't slippy, but it will keep your hair from feeling brittle, and I think the soft movement is why it enabled the hair to actually grab and tangle after using ACV in my routine again.

I do scrub too, I know a lot of people dont because it pulls out knots, but I knew my hair and it likes to knot no matter what I do (to prevent tangles when I wasn't dreading was to avoid touching my hair, scrubbing it caused tangles for me)

Josh Driscoll said:

im not lookin for full dreads yet but at least some sort of progress....you know a few tangles here and there some kind of clumping. my hair is about 5 inches id say mas o menos a few. should I go for any kind of wool hat or i mean how long inbetween bs washings or even wetting in the first place. I know its hard to say cuz all hair is different but im just wonderin a bit ya know?

Keep it breezy

goin natural...Have patience but whats up?

Dreading Methods

What do you wash with, just bs? Do you follow with acv? Do you scrub/run your hands through your hair?My friend with curly hair never gets tangles because the curls keep her hair shaped specifically leading to minimal movement to cause tangling. Also some curly hair has really smooth shafts.

the opinion of others, who matter...

Introduce Yourself

I don't know this woman but it seems a bit dramatic to say "me or your hair"... If locks matter now how will it be when you age and your appearance changes further? She might not like them now (or the idea of them) but I've found that people get used to and even come to love these types of things even if they didn't before.You love her much more because you'd be willing to stifle a desire for hers, but every time you do so it builds up and will eventually bring the whole relationship down. Do you have a dress code for her?I once volunteerd to shave my head as an incentive for a charity fundraiser. My partnr wasn't pleased (I didn't consult, it was my sole decision and i didn't see the need). The excitement of getting a female to shave head more than trippled our donations and a group of people who didn't want to see my hair shaved tried donating against it (it was a competing charity fundraiser for work) the competition increased the donations and almost matched the shave pot. In the end I shave my head, gladly (I look dumb with no hair but it was the means not the end) and my partner didn't likable at first bu realized that I will be me, looks don't matter, and even started to like the short hair (took me 5 years to grow out).You should do what you want and what you feel is more important: if that means not dreadin to make her happy then do that, but just remember that it is your hair, your life and your choice.

Timeline 0-7 months straight fine hair

Member Journals and Timelines

They are really tight. They are growing though. The front one bothered me for a bit because due to my hairline (widow's peak) it would flop in front of my face which annoyed me, so I always had to put it back and have a headband, but with just a little growth (I think a month or so) it's staying over to the side for the most part, so no more need for a band. I think I can have shoulder length in a year or so, so I am not worried about length anymore.