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Facebook parenting for troubled teen

General Talk

This video really gave me a bad vibe and yes it isprobablybecause the standards of discipline I was raised in was not that great (abusive). I was always living in fear, either the fear of the cult leaders or of my father.Highlycontrollingauthority figures make me sick to mystomach.This is why Isympathiesmore with the girl then the father but again not enough detail to really know.
Amy Lee said:

like i said. "it all depends on the standards of discipline people are used to being held to."

Facebook parenting for troubled teen

General Talk

That's not what I said, I said culture big difference. National identity currency boundaries and culture is not the same thing and yes it does have a lot (culture) to do with it. Wrong is not just plain wrong as you put it is a question of belief and is highly influenced by culture. I am not arguing that what she did is right or wrong or what he did is right or wrong ( like I said not enough info IMO) what I am saying is that how we react to the video (this is what thediscussionis about) is influence by back ground ( how we were raised) and culture is a part of each andeveryone back ground.

Angel Frye said

I don't think this has anything to do with national identity or currency boundaries. Wrong is just plain wrong. So is the reaction sound or over the top?

I don't have a gun but if I was in that guy's shoes I'd have taken a screw driver and taken the thing apart piece by piece right in front of her. We could always use the pieces for art projects. My husband makes custom toys for clients and man can he upcycle!

Facebook parenting for troubled teen

General Talk

Well I guess we all get a chance to mess up our kids in our own special way But seriously I really don't see how we can have a decisive opinion with out knowing all the facts...maybe you are right and she reaped what she sowed but I don't know how you all were raised but I was raised by an abusive father and this kind of aggressive rant gives me a bad vibe . Her father isprobablya nice an wellbalancedman and she will learn from her mistake ( sheprobablyis spoiled) but I think it is normal that some of us find this reaction a bit over the topconsideringwe all have different back grounds and some of us do not share your American culture.

Amy Lee said:

well said angel. i just showed the video to my 12 yr old daughter. she couldnt believe there were actually people that think his response was wrong in any way. i guess it all depends on the standards of discipline people are used to being held to. do you guys do k12?

Angel Frye said:

If she grows and learns from the experience then in ten or fifteen years she'll look back and cringe in embarrassment and not in anger. We all do stupid stuff as teenagers and young adults. We're meant to push boundaries to figure out where they truly are. But part of growing up is learning to feel remorse for the hell we put our parents through so WE become better parents for it. If we never did some of the idiotic things we did when we were younger we'd be pretty crappy parents and never learn how to say no to our children until it was far, far too late.

Facebook parenting for troubled teen

General Talk

It's hard to have an opinion with just one side of the story (if it's true). Depends on a lot of things. Maybe the kid was worked to hard and by the looks of it is possible seeing the reaction of the father...not the best example of self control and maturity. Maybe the dad is crazy and what not or maybe she really is a spoiled brat and yes kids in our society are way more spoiled now then it was when I was a teen (I did not have a TV for a long time and we did not have much food) . That being said the reaction is a littleextremeIMO. It's hard to tell by just one video but I must say I laughed at all the Americanstereotypesdisplayed in one video.

help with my mom

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Okay....that's verynarrowminded of you IMO...sorry but parents are not all powerful and all knowing even according to the law if youphysicalityforce something on your child (and it has nothing to do with safety likeputtingon a seat belt or something like that) it's called abuse. I don't know how it is in the US but in Canada and Quebec (where I live) people have rightsespeciallyif they are over 18.Physicalityforcing something on someone even your child can beconsideredabuse (depending on thecircumstancesofcourse) andassault. Maybe it's not like that in the US but no matter what it's morally wrong IMO to force your personal taste and belief on a child I'm a father BTW and I would never do that to my child no matter how much something would bother me. Your argumentbasicallygives the right to a parent to shave the head of a daughter and force her to wear men clothing if they wanted to.

Britany said:

if your under 18 then she can actually make you do it, and if your 18 and over and living with her she can still make you do it. Moms makes the rules. You can educate her on dread locks until your blue in the face it really wont change her idea of them. sorry.

help with my mom

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Well that's a touchy subject but try and talk to her about it and explain that it is your personal choice and try and see why she wants you to cut them. Sheshouldn't force herself on youit's never a good idea because first it'sillegaland second it destroys the the trust between parent and child.

finding a balance

Dread Maintenance

Rain water can help if you have a way to gather it and filter it a bit. After 18 months mine really started to knot up. It's ups and downs...theweatherdoes a lot. When I was in Gasp (a region on the coast of the Saint-Lawrence river in Quebec) My hair just dreaded like crazy, the cold the wind and the salt water really knotted things up. Don't worry it's going to dread up...in time.

Top Secret

Dreading Methods

Climate has a very biginfluenceon how fast your hair locks...just to add a point.

updated by @jdwood: 07/23/15 07:50:01AM

Liquid or bar shampoo

Dread Products

well that's a good question and I think the best way to know is to try and find out all depending and the bar or liquid.

would you cut your dreads for a million dollars? (very serious and real question)

General Talk

That's a good question only you can answer. Follow your gut feeling your first impression on the matter that's my opinion.Every timeI did notlistento my gut (instinct) Iregrettedit.