Hello- new here, dread hopeful!
Hmmm, yeah, a lot of people think they're dirty, and they encourage bugs/dirt. My husband had the long-ass black hair (as did I have black hair to my waist and baby bangs in front) and was a metal/death metal/black metal dude for years. for some metal guys that had long hair or dreads, you always knew those guys that just totally had gross dirty hair/lifestyles, so I can see how it could be his assumption coming from the genre. Lots of "neglect", and lots of guys with clean long hair too.I'm happy for you he sounds more open each day to them. They take a while to grow on people. My husband tells me that dreads are for people who are strong inside because it is such a definite difference that people notice and have strong opinions on in most cases so some people cannot handle the reactions and carry them off. Whether or not he's right, I don't know
But I do believe I know what he means.The t&r you can do pretty tiny, but keeping them from congoing together will be your maintenance. I had little t&r around my face and they found friends and became one (they still aren't big by any means, mine are pretty much on the smaller side I'd say).Also, be prepared that when he really sees you with your own dreads, he might just change his mind and be incredibly drawn to you. Mine did that (wasn't against them to begin with tho), and i've heard of others doing that too. if guys can dig the Nature aspect of things, it's like seeing you become empowered and strong to their eyes, even if you already were, it's a physical embodiment of that light within you. A sense of self, and confidence is so alluring. That's just my interpretation though..