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Has having dreads changed your life too?

Life Issues Facing Dreads

It's kind of crazy that hair could make such a huge impact on people? I guess it's always been this way though. In the 50s & 60s, long hair was weird!! Dustan Snow said:

Yes big time. I actually feel like me with dreads

updated by @amber-dawn-andersen: 07/23/15 06:57:40PM

Has having dreads changed your life too?

Life Issues Facing Dreads

So I have to tell you about something that happened to me the other day, i thought was kind of humorous... I'm walking through the store, this young guy comes right up in my face and says, " i love your dreads"! Then he just stood there, staring at me for what seemed like 30 mins!!! I'm not sure what he expected as a response from me, but all I could seem to say was "thanks", and I moved very slowly out the opposite side of our isle.... I find peoples response to my hair pretty amusing, most of the time, but some times, it can be a bit WEIRD! I too love my dreads, and seriously, I can't even picture myself without them anymore! I love the free and easy life they allow me, I love being able to just get up and go!!!And you know, I love letting people expect a little less from me, then they are always amazed by anything half assed intelligent I have to say!LOL soaringeagle said:

hahaha i swore off deoderant ayt 15 (vegatarians dont need it anyway) and underwear at the same time..also..umbrellas too
i think i surprise ppl when i can have a conversation without drifyting off into mysticism

justn said:

i agree with all, and i might add that

a) i can now easily get away with never wearing deodorant [unnatural, unnecessary, and b.o. is ironically supposed to be one hell of an aphrodisiac.. imagine that]. people just expect it, they expect me to be some crazy hippie who wouldnt deodorize; i guess i kinda am :D i mean i could drop acid before grocery shopping and my state of mind would most likely not surprise very many. but of course i'd never go grocery shopping on lsd, yikes. baha

b) the level of expectation i have from strangers, employers, sometimes even friends, and sometimes even FAMILY has definitely dropped due to the raaaaadical dreadlock hairstyle. this has actually worked to my advantage - i walk into an interview and initially the employer thinks 'uh oh.. he's either nuts or incompetent.' so long as i can prove myself to be a decently intelligent individual they're immediately impressed, i've already exceeded their expectations!

i love my dreads. always did. once and awhile i have dreams of them being cut off.. i always wake up panting with my hands on my head, followed by a sigh of relief when i find they're still up there.

Has having dreads changed your life too?

Life Issues Facing Dreads

Right on! That's what I'm talkin' 'bout dreadyEm said:

yes, they definately changed my life too for the better all the way.
they set me free :D i feel like i can finally just be myself and if anyone doesnt like it then too bad lol

Has having dreads changed your life too?

Life Issues Facing Dreads

I guess maybe it is more a change within myself. I feel more confident, more self reliant due to the fact that I now know, I stand alone. How much that really has to do with my hair style parse, I do not know. I am sure that the feelings of confidence give me strength, and if in my hair that was born, than to my hair, I am grateful! GratefulNick said:

I like these questions, it brings up alot of other questions. It's odd to think that some one would be so changed by a hairstyle/lifestyle. It's kind of like if you cut your dreads your still the same person, but you would be left with all these thoughts of how people used to percieve you and treat you differently cause you are considered a "regular haired proper person".
But they have changed my life like you said ,to strangers I'm a even weirder stranger. A few people treat me differently but I'd like to think that would of just happened any way since friends grow up and have priorities, and it's all just a growing up and I always be growing in some way. I drank a lil

Has having dreads changed your life too?

Life Issues Facing Dreads

So, I took 20 some years to finally "do" my dreads, I am very happy with my decision, I wouldn't live the rest of my life without them now, they are a part of who I am!Now after just three short months, I notice things that I never did before... I am less tolerant of certain attitudes, more apt to care for those without someone to care for them, I am quieter and more to the point. I feel the eyes of strangers looking at me when I walk in somewhere and I realize that I am "different", I guess always knew I was, but now so does every one else! These, of course, are just a few of the changes I have noticed in myself. I was wondering how life has changed for some of you? Do you notice changes in the way you think, behave, see others? Has anyone in your life begun to treat you any different? Do you treat anyone any different? Just wondering.....
updated by @amber-dawn-andersen: 02/14/15 10:14:12AM

R.Emmel: 1) introduction, 2) questions on starting, 3)concerns about dogma

Introduce Yourself

Hello new friend! My name is Amber Dawn, and I am fairly new to dreads as well, I started mine late in September of this year. I have to say that I noticed a lot of negativity in some of the members here as well. I will follow that thought by saying, I have received some GREAT and VERY helpful information here too! I guess no matter where one looks, there is bound to be both good and bad, follow your heart my friend, you sound like a very insightful young man! As far as dread care, a great girl here on this sight gave me great advise, "just embrace the craziness"!!!! Good luck, enjoy and much respect to ya...
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lock love from unlocked people

Dread Maintenance

RIGHT!!!OMG it feels SOOOOO good to have my scalp rubbed! Almost makes me weak at the knees bro J@cque said:

omg! i want some1 to play with mine! lmfao

Alternative's to wax

Dread Maintenance

here, here!!! we are all in this "room" for a reason. we should feel comfortable enough to ask and answer eachother, to help one another, and to just be here for whatever!!!! Karma Jane said:

yes absolutely.. natural is always better because it is natural.. this is the place to take advice from people who have been down all routes and know the best solution. nobody here should have any sort of superior mentality... likwise, noone should feel inferior for any reason. we have all come to the forums for a reason.. to join on the path to righteousness and enlightenment.

Alternative's to wax

Dread Maintenance

i personally don't care what anyone thinks of my hair, never did. i did my dreads as i did because now was the time for me... i have very personal reasons for my choice that i choose not to share with anyone, they are mine and for me to grow with; however, i do enjoy the good feeling i have when i run across a fellow dready. i feel a sence of "knowing", and brother/sisterhood. i must say i am a bit surprised by what seems to be a bit of the "i'm better than you 'cause i've had my dreads longer"or "i let mine form "naturally"". well, i think that that is a bit judgemental and hypacritical seems that we are all dreaded.... shaun saunders said:

Karma Jane said:

i 100% agree with Jelly!

Why do you have dreads if you are worried about how they look? that's so silly! Is anyone actually going to MAKE YOU take them out? If they have anything to say tell them its a natural process and if they have a problem with it then they can take it up with God. Really all of the effort that you have already put into them is just going to come out because dreading is it's OWN process that NEEDS to happen naturally... dreading really should not just be a hairstyle fad. why did you start locking your hair love?



id love to do that but my school isnt just any school this place is trying to help me get a job get trade experience and an option for me after school if this isnt what i wanna do so i cant just say that to them and my work experience boss whose considering giving me a boss doesnt really mind them as long as they dont get caught in machines and such but if he told me to cut em and i could have a job, iam not thinking bout it twice iam cutting em off

updated by @amber-dawn-andersen: 07/23/15 09:31:52AM

Alternative's to wax

Dread Maintenance

well now as a new sister to this , i must say that i think it is unfair to say that because we have so many questions we are treating this as a fad, some of us are just unsure of how to start and maintain healthy dreads. i for one, after 3 people took 12 and a half hours to do my dreads, really don't want to fuck them up!!!! i thought very long and even harder before committing my life to my hair and i want to learn all i can! i think it is great that i can turn to a site like this where i will find folks that have made it through the "fuzzies" and such:) shaun saunders said:

i cant really just let mine go coz i have to go to school and work they dont mind as long as they look tidy but i got hair comin everywhere so just something that will pull the hairs back to look tidy'er

Jelly said:

wow, what a bunch of impatient folk. If you want it done quick and neat go to a freakin' salon. Dreads takes MONTHS to YEARS to cultivate. i had fuzzies, too. Now they are getting long enough to start forming their own dreads- three years later. the more you "add" stuff and fuck with them the weaker they'll be and the longer it will take before you start locking your hair. You can mat it up with goop, crochetting, or rolling, but dreads grow from the roots. matted hair ain't dreadlocks in my book. dreads are the growth AFTER you mat, knot, tangle, braid, twist, or roll your hair.

but to each their own. so many ppl treat this like a fad.

J