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tahnk you so much. we are lucky to live in a time with more information available to make choices. i am so excited and hopeful.

the Barrellady said:

Congratulations KnotLady. I wish when I had my children, methods like this were not really talked about like they are now.. I did not even consider this, yet if I had a child now (not possible), I would do this in a heart beat. What a beautiful way to bring a child into this world, in a warm welcoming home instead of a cold sterile hospital delivery room. I wish you all the best keeping your little one nice and warm in your tummy/womb. Congrats again to you and your husband...and your other little one.....peace

great to hear!! i really am avoiding the hospital at all costs this time. i felt it to be a very unnatural and violating experience. ive got a wonderful midwife and from what else ive read of water i have high hopes that this birth willl go smoothly!! its great to read your experiences!

Ixchel said:

It totally helped for a lot! my first birth the shower was amazing, i didn't want to get out but my doula asked the nurse if i could birth in there & policy said no I labored in there most the time tho, & when i wasn't in there i was having counterpressure applied & rocking on the birth ball. 2nd time the pool (& environment) were so relaxing i didn't know that i should sent my husband to work...when i was at an 8 & had baby shortly. 3rd time i was falling asleep in the tub between contractions & the midwife barely made it in to loop the cord over his head lol. Water also helps prevent tearing & makes position changes easier (with my first i tore front & back, 2nd no tears bigger baby & came out much faster & changing movement helped me deal & her get into correct position to come out, 3rd had the biggest head but only had a skid). & i've heard the water is also an easier transition for baby to come earthside.

Even tho my labors were mostly back labor (first birth only felt contractions in my back, 2nd back & legs, 3rd i finally felt some of it in my front side in addition to the back & legs) the water did help, not as much as i had expected/hoped, but without it i'm pretty sure I would have been over my head at times & not been handling it as well. My water/home births seemed much more easier, calm, relaxed & enjoyable than my birthing center land birth. I could ride my waves instead of get pounded down by them.

KnotLady said:

Ixchel thats awesome! i cant wait and im sure it will be an amazing experience. did you find the water to help with pain and relaxation? it seems logical to think it would.

Thank you taye! me and the hubby are super excited! did you find labor to be different with your VBAC? i labored for about24 hours before an epidural and then 8 before my c-section so im familiar with labor, im just wondering if you noticed anything different in between the two if you were able to labor before the c-section.

Ixchel thats awesome! i cant wait and im sure it will be an amazing experience. did you find the water to help with pain and relaxation? it seems logical to think it would.

hello all.

have been away from the interwebs for a while and i have avoided coming back on here until iknew i had enough time to be on here for a while lol!. i have had dreads for over a year now and i dont want my hair any other way. ever. its the best. i have also found out i am pregnant with number 2 and am planning a home VBAC water birth. any ladies here have experience with all or one of these things? i would appreciate any and all stories and advice!!

i put this in the alt lifestyle category because i didnt know where to put it and wanted it to reach a larger audience thank just a specific group.

i would just dread it because then its actually easier to keep out of your face. i take the dreads on my temples and front and center and flip them backwards to get rid of whatever part and the weight of them keeps it out of my face for the most part.

hey those loose ends are a good thing and they wont necessarily blunt up nor should they. they look fine as it is.
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Kato said:

hey dude, stick in there, they look just how they should at nine months, before you know it the ends will curl up and form blunt ends and in a couple of months youll wonder what you were thinking im only at 17 months now, i think the hardest bit is accepting that its a long process to get to where youve imagined theyll look, but youll get there and theyll be awesome, and be completly unique to you!
peace to you.

those are great!!! why would you want to cut them. they remind me of mine so im biased because i love mine :D

perhaps not quite racist...but vERY STEREOTYPICAL. and thats wrong. i dont care how many poser fucks hes run into. he probably was too disgusted to actually talk to those 'dirty white kids" to find out what they were actually like, so he needs to look at the attitude of his heart and ask himself if hes holy enough to reign that kinda judgement on people who might have actually been intellectually stimulating and bathed regularly.
i get it. i dont like it when i see super manicured dreads that are probably full of wax and the person probably thinks my dreads are inferior. but i would not tell them that they shouldnt have dreads. i would just hope they found this site or actually listened when someone told them the truth about over manicured dreads...
JavaLizard said:

Just wow.
I understand feeling hurt by it, but what he said wasn't racist. And in America Bob is black, as a mixed race guy with mix raced kids, we are black. Racism and stereotypes are a hard thing to live with. In his round about way he was simply saying whites don't look good with dreads. Blacks didn't look good with the high cut flat top. (That was a horrible phase) he was simply pointing out a look, perception.

As a black person, who is mixed but since we live in America I'm black, I'm very accepting. But just because someone says whites shouldn't have dreads, doesn't make them racist. I bet he would say Mexicans, Asians, and others if he ran into them. It sounds like he runs into the familiar rich white kid wanting to rebel. It is more a social type casting. It is annoying yes, like when my white niece is like, dude grow a fro, yeah you'd look awesome with a fro.

In truth all black men shouldn't shave their heads, some blacks shouldn't grow a fro, some white should sport a high and tight, etc., some times we ought to consider there is a fashion side to things as well. Not every man can or should grow a beard. I know the fashion side doesn't get brought up a lot here in a non negative view, but it is something we all have to accept, when we don't look good society sees that.



the Barrellady said:

First of all, this person, whoever wrote that article is such a racist. Second of all, this person, is very ignorant on the history of dreads.

Bob Marley was of mixed race, his father was a White English Jamaican and his mother was an Afro-Jamaican. This is a quote from Bob Marley , "I don't have prejudice against meself. My father was a white and my mother was black. Them call me half-caste or whatever. Me don't deh pon nobody's side. Me don't deh pon the black man's side nor the white man's side. Me deh pon God's side, the one who create me and cause me to come from black and white"

A man so full of love for everyone, sang with his inner soul, and wanted this world full of love, and yet there are still comments that separate us. IGNORANCE and SHAME ON ALL RACISTS, no matter who it comes from.

How did this person even come to the conclusion that Caucasian dreads are dirty? That we don't brush our teeth even. I think that they crawled out from under a rock in a cave and met up with a "White" roomie who was just as filthy as them due to living in that cave.

Prejudice comes with ignorance, Why do they assume we like Reggae so much that we want to be a Rastafarian? Why do they assume we never wash? Why do they assume anything? Because that ignorant person has not opened up their heart to Human Beings. Because they never sat down with a Dreadie with long, beautiful locks to have a chat and a cup of coffee. Black or White, there are Dread Heads out there that are filthy, due to homelessness or whatever, but it is not a Caucasian thing only, it is a down on your life thing.

I hope that if that person has children , the children will be able to one day teach them what love is all about to fellow human beings. The comments do not piss me off, they truly break my heart. LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE If everyone had this for one another, the world would be such a better place.

fuck that guy. thats my first reaction. just extreme ignorance/arrogance. he speaks like hes god of nappy hair or some shit. but i cant believe how hard it is to convince people that all hair just dreads on its own. people give me this stupid look when i say "it does itself". its really hard for people to see how straight fine hair could just dread. but its because its been engrained in everyones heads that only black peoples hair can dread. im really kkinda tired of it. just a bunch of people running their mouths off about things they have never experienced. i guess that makes them an expert.

oh no!!! any time im with a child or my child is with a child and they scratch their head i get super paranoid!. for the henna, i would leave it on at least 3 hours. im not using any source info oin that... hennaforhair.com might have more accurate info. SE would have the correct way to use alcohol. and i do know its rubbing alcohol.

Ojas Acharya said:

hi zombiekitten.. well i have absolutely no idea if they dont attach themselves to chemically treated hair or no... but as barrellady said they are more common amongst school kids who constantly hug and play around with each other. and the buggers crawl from 1 head to other and spread..

i had my lil cousin at my place 2 days back and i was cuddling and playing with her for quite long.. (she is cute lol). but i observed she was scratching her head quite a lot and asked her mom what was wrong with her.. her mom said she has lice.. and i was like WTF!!!! (with my jaw dropped down :P)

immediately as they left i posted this discussion lol. :P

zombiekitten said:

is it true that lice don't generally attach themselves to chemically treated hair?